struggling with bisexual

[bobray2007]

Hello, my name is Tyler I'm 16yrs old. I have been raised christain all my life. When I was younger my next door neighbor came over to stay the night. He was 2-3yrs older then me, he started touching me in inappropriate ways. I didn't like it, but went along after he went to sleep I went and got in bed with my mom! About acouple of months later he asked me to stay the night with him, afraid he would be mad if I didn't I went! He again touch me in even more inappropriate ways! I don't know if this is why I'm attracted to boys my age!? I like girls too. I have a more attraction to girls. But When I see a guy that I think looks good or better then me I start hating my self and say why don't I look that good and think of inappropriate stuff! I do attend church and help out with a kids minastry and was very active in my youth!! I just haven't felt the fire that I use to feel about God. That started when I was in 5th grade and my guy friends started talking about masterbating! I went home and tried it and have been hooked ever since. (I'm in tenth now) I want to stop but find my self every few days doing it. I feel ashamed of it! I want a true relationship with Christ! I don't know if anyone my age has this problem? I don't know if i talked to someone my age(or older) who has the same problem that can offer advice. I just need someone to talk to!I love the lord and want the relationship back! If someone could please help!

 

[WashedClean]

Is there a pastor at your church you could talk to? I assure you, many other young men have the same struggles.

This older boy who molested you took advantage of you. It probably felt good and that's why you're confused. But it's still wrong what he did to you. Don't let that make you think you are bisexual.

You are going to have struggles, but Jesus promises to never leave us nor forsake us. Pour out your heart to him and read your Bible. When inappropriate thoughts come, quote the Word.

I really encourage you to speak with a trusted adult if you can, especially a Pastor or Youth Minister.

I'll be praying for you!

WashedClean

 

[writergirl4god]

Hi Tyler! I think it would be more helpful for you if some of the guys could chime in with advice and support, but I wanted to quickly say that I am praying for you. I have some dear Christian friends who struggle with same sex attraction - you are not alone in this!

Your sister in Christ,
Jess

 

[Dionysiou]

Hello, my name is Tyler I'm 16yrs old. I have been raised christain all my life. When I was younger my next door neighbor came over to stay the night. He was 2-3yrs older then me, he started touching me in inappropriate ways. I didn't like it, but went along after he went to sleep I went and got in bed with my mom! About acouple of months later he asked me to stay the night with him, afraid he would be mad if I didn't I went! He again touch me in even more inappropriate ways! I don't know if this is why I'm attracted to boys my age!? I like girls too. I have a more attraction to girls. But When I see a guy that I think looks good or better then me I start hating my self and say why don't I look that good and think of inappropriate stuff! I do attend church and help out with a kids minastry and was very active in my youth!! I just haven't felt the fire that I use to feel about God. That started when I was in 5th grade and my guy friends started talking about masterbating! I went home and tried it and have been hooked ever since. (I'm in tenth now) I want to stop but find my self every few days doing it. I feel ashamed of it! I want a true relationship with Christ! I don't know if anyone my age has this problem? I don't know if i talked to someone my age(or older) who has the same problem that can offer advice. I just need someone to talk to!I love the lord and want the relationship back! If someone could please help!

well i actually struggled with this very thing when i was about 15. Im 18 now and i dont have any innapropriate thoughts about males anymore. I prayed to God to help me with it because i knew it was wrong. It took some time but it went away, so keep faith man and keep praying for God to strengthen you oh and never go back to thaty kids house again, he is very confused himself. I also struggle with "having a tugg" every now and then. This i havent yet defeated but am well on the way. you just gotta not give in at those times. You know when your bored or havent done it in a while and think "yeh, that will feel good". At those times remember that you belong to God, your body is holy and you should treat it so. Look at the bigger picture man and look forward to pleasing God and getting rewarded for it. Everything else is so small in comparison, never forget just how Amazing our God is.

 

[bobray2007]

I want to thank you for your Prayers, they mean a lot to me in this fight! Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. Unfortunately I don't feel its the time to tell my parents or my paster yet. I think daily support is needed! If you could please tell me where I can find that or if one of you could. Like I said this is a hard battle! Thanks again Tyler!

 

[writergirl4god]

Hi Tyler! It IS a difficult battle, and I will continue to pray for you. Living Hope Ministires has a forum that you can check out here:

https://livehope.org/online

Hang in there!

 

[lordworshipper]

You are bisexual, don't feel down about it, nor be against yourself for it, it will only make you vulnerable. Be strong, accept who you are, and find yourself a nice lady someday and get married. They guy took advantage of your situation, but don't let that get you down. Just be yourself, don't do what you know isn't right. As if it doesn't feel right, then it isn't right.

Lot's of people do struggle with sexuality, some have no attraction to the opposite sex, they make up a whopping 10% of the worlds population. The Bible is against the acts of having intercourse with the same sex. Also, it could also just be that you just have an appreaciation for the beauty of the same sex, it doesn't mean you're sexually attracted to them. I'm heterosexual, and I do notice when a guy looks nice, even if he gets creeped out if I think such.

But if someone does advance upon you like that, and you didn't want them to or tell them they could, you should seriously seek help against them. There are bad people out there.