struggling to get past loneliness

[singlemomintx]

I've been divorced twice now, and after this second one, I started dating, when I shouldn't have. I just broke another guy's heart because I was paranoid and thought he was cheating and I know I need a break from dating altogether, so I've decided to stop.

But what do you do to get over being lonely or get over the feeling of wanting to be with someone.

 

[sh240]

It is so hard, I am recently divorced, and the loneliness I feel at times is so overwhelming I feel like I can hardly take my next breath, and my crying brings me to exhaustion. Gods word says He bottles up our tears, but I think He has vats for mine! Do you feel like that? It's best not to get into a relationship right away, you have open wounds that need to heal, I think getting into another relationship right away is like pouring rubbing alcohol on a paper cut. I pray everytime I get overwhelmed with loneliness, and keep in His word....constantly. It does get a little easier as time goes on. I do hope to meet someone some day, but this time I will let God choose the right man for me, 46 years of my life has gone by so quickly, I don't want to mess up the next half of my life, I believe God will bless me with a wonderful man if I just wait on Him. Isaiah 40:31. Wait on the Lord, pray,and He will help you through your loneliness.God loves you.

 

[singlemomintx]

That's good, I'm trying to stay busy with other things, like reading, exercising. It's going to be more difficult once the kids go to their dad's for the summer

 

[sh240]

That's good, I'm trying to stay busy with other things, like reading, exercising. It's going to be more difficult once the kids go to their dad's for the summer

Maybe take on a part time job for some extra cash, or volunteer to stay busy and help the time go by for the summer, just a thought.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Spend time with friends and family. Go to church singles meetings and chat up the women to make friends. A good friend is a gift you give yourself.

 

[Test All Things2]

I can relate to your feelings of loneliness and wanting to be with someone. I have been separated coming on five months now. The pain of not having someone to share your life with is intense for me sometimes. Since being a teenager I was only single 2 1/2 years and that was over 25 years ago. I am so accustomed to being with a partner it is very hard now that I don't have one.

I really love just being with my wife during all the ordinary daily things of life (even grocery shopping). I never knew how much I liked that stuff till it stopped recently. Now I can quantify how much I liked that kind of stuff for you...I want it all back. Sorry guy you need to cry some more, and don't worry there will be plenty more of that in store for you.

I feel like part of myself is actually missing or something to that affect. I hate this living and being alone. I am so used to sharing life that things seem almost meaningless now.

I end up quite often with my face to the ground crying and asking God why this is happening to me. What did I do to deserve this? I feel and know your pain my sister. I even complain to God myself sometimes (okay maybe alot of times).

But then I think about what will happen in the future, and I get even sadder. Nothing will change soon at all. So I will have to bear up to this...like it or not. I cannot be immoral so it will be along time if ever that I might freed by divorce ( I will not file and my wife does not seem motivated to either), and so I am stuck with this loneliness gig for alot longer (barring the miracle of reconciliation).

My wife indicates she "loves living by herself" so that is not a good sign for anything changing soon. This only adds to my pain and loneliness.

Pray for God to give you strength to bear up to these trials you are facing, and ask for "self control" which is a fruit of God's spirit that is within you. I personally need that self control and strength to stay focused on God's ways and path.

And let your friends church and family fill in the gaps in your life now. That is what makes the difference for me is those who truly show you their love and goodwill as God desires. They are truly sons and daughters of the most high God. People that come along side us to give their support concern and love. Real Christians and real Christian Love. THAT DOES HELP