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Striving to live a righteous life but struggling with one thing in particular.

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Look at there faces only faces dont look anywhere else that How I got that under control but, I;m dealing with a more sinister sin which is porn and I hate it. Please don't preach at me it tears me up inside. I've dealt with it my whole life. I just don't know how to conquer it.
 
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Look at there faces only faces dont look anywhere else that How I got that under control but, I;m dealing with a more sinister sin which is porn and I hate it. Please don't preach at me it tears me up inside. I've dealt with it my whole life. I just don't know how to conquer it.

No preaching brother.. you will overcome this.. I was never one for this.. till my marriage broke up.. sigh.. but I don't want the kids to see me doing this or gulp find it on my computer.. so I stopped.. I had to tell GOD I was struggling with the whole concept of being without... and it was killing me.. and told HIM everything.. my struggles and all.. when I did that.. maybe once or twice I looked again and then the desire seemed to vanish.. we cannot do this in our own strength brother.. HE has to help.. but you can tell HIM you need HIS help and exactly what you are doing and how you feel.. the whole lot.. HE knows it anyway.. and HE will.. don't try in your own strength.. even if you pray that and keep looking.. don't worry about it.. HE forgives you.. under the blood.. you are righteous not by what you are doing or not doing but by JESUS.. YOU are free through HIM.. and I will pray the desires leave you.. and they will I really believe that..

:clap: Here is me celebrating your freedom.. :)
 
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Well, I have to warn you on Balugon's advice, while he thinks as non christian would do. Considering visiting a nude park - I don't think that is a good idea, because you should keep your body only to your husband/wife.
I'd say it is natural to for a man to desire a woman's body, that's a healthy sexual inclination. Lust is I think an uncontrolled desire. As christians we have to learn self controll as well. Sexuality is not wrong if it's used the proper way, but when you cannot controll it, than it can ruin your life. You can't prevent noticing a beautiful woman on the street, but what you do next is vital. Do you caress the sinfull thoughts, or you can controll them. Be aware, that most sins come through the eye. First you take notice of something, than you want it, you start thinking about it, and eventually the sin is commited, if you're not allert. I am a young single man myself, and I know that I can only deal with these issues only when I am in strong relationship with God. I used to have a 'What Would Jesus Do' bracelet. It helped me in situations, when I was reminded of God's presence at all times. Keep your mind set on the right things, focus on God, be active serving God. If you're busy working for the Lord, the devil won't be able to feed your mind with sinful thoughts. Trust God above all, because He never lets us in bigger temptations, than what we can handle.
 
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I when I was five saw a payless shoe bag right across the street from my house. Out of wondering what it was I look. It was like 10 Porn mag's in that bag. IDK if some pedo put it there or some wife that was angry at her husband threw then out or some guy was trying to conquere his own demons. Anyways the point is at an early age I saw that stuff and it messed with my head ever since. Giving me the shallow way of looking at women like maybe that is what beauty was. But it's horrible. And ever since then like when I first became born again I was struggling with the same issue's as GregC. The looking and not wanting to work at certain places cos the temptation was to strong. It had power over me. Well I was somewhat conquering the Porn but it failed. I guess it was by my own strength. IDK. it's just had a bad effect on me since I was 5. and thats young.
 
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Ya thats one thing I saw in one of your post GregC and it's going to bite you in the booty. It's God;s righteousness not your's. I know what your saying I've been there but when you look at it like that you will always condeme yourself. Thats why I think your dealing with alot of the things I used to deal with. In time it will pass but it never go's away. Rememeber it's God work to make you His own. Yes try to help yourself in area you feel led in but don't claim Victory by what you have done but what He has done for you. I'm in the same boat. I still deal with lust and my humblness is so out there it's courages but, did I do it no! God humbled me. He still accepted me as a child I was just full of pride. I think you know what I'm saying bro. Your fine not screwed.
 
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I when I was five saw a payless shoe bag right across the street from my house. Out of wondering what it was I look. It was like 10 Porn mag's in that bag. IDK if some pedo put it there or some wife that was angry at her husband threw then out or some guy was trying to conquere his own demons. Anyways the point is at an early age I saw that stuff and it messed with my head ever since. Giving me the shallow way of looking at women like maybe that is what beauty was. But it's horrible. And ever since then like when I first became born again I was struggling with the same issue's as GregC. The looking and not wanting to work at certain places cos the temptation was to strong. It had power over me. Well I was somewhat conquering the Porn but it failed. I guess it was by my own strength. IDK. it's just had a bad effect on me since I was 5. and thats young.


God surely has blessed you with a funny life.

And porn really did something for you at age 5? I didn't start getting sexually aroused until I was like 10-11.

So you can go 20 plus years strong on porn and I can barley last 4 years lol....
 
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No I didn't continue to look at porn since 5 lol It was like 13 when I saw it again my sister barried that bad and yup since about 17 to 21 I really indulged in it. Then at 22 when I was saved I really made a concience choice not to do it but, what the heck. It's something that just has power over me. IDK why it does but it does.
 
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