STD/HIV-What would you do

[christiankate]

Say you fell in love with someone and were going to get married.... you were engaged when you learned that s/he had an incurable STD or HIV. What would you do? Marriage is for sickness and in health, but would you risk your life/health if you knew ahead of time of the problem?

 

[JonMiller]

Probably I wouldn't marry them. But this goes, if you knew you were going to die within a year, would you still look to get married?

I wouldn't.

JM

 

[Fremdin]

Which STD?

 

[JonMiller]

I Assumed HIV.

JM

 

[white dove]

Say you fell in love with someone and were going to get married.... you were engaged when you learned that s/he had an incurable STD or HIV. What would you do? Marriage is for sickness and in health, but would you risk your life/health if you knew ahead of time of the problem?

There are no words for how I would feel... and only God knows what I would do.

 

[soccerdad66]

Well, STD and HIV as you use them are two different things.

HIV can/will lead to AIDS, which is life threatening. Most STDs are treatable, and while HSV isn't curable it's not life threatening. HPV can lead to cervical cancer if you let it run it's course.

 

[Fremdin]

I think most STDs wouldn't be a problem. HIV and Hep C, would cause me concern

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Well that would suck.

 

[Tink]

Well that would suck.

FTW!

 

[kingoffools13]

I think most STDs wouldn't be a problem. HIV and Hep C, would cause me concern

what about syphilis? then you could die like a pirate

K
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[acropolis]

i wouldn't marry someone with HIV.

 

[deliciousBass]

Couldn't do it.

 

[Fremdin]

what about syphilis? then you could die like a pirate

K
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The syphilis club is an illustrious club! If I ever wrote a book I would write about famous people from history who had syprophants eating their brain

 

[TRW7]

Which STD?

I believe the OP said incurable STD. I guess it wouldnt matter which one, just the fact that it is incurable would be the focus.

 

[Inkachu]

If they waited until we were ENGAGED to tell me this...I'd feel betrayed and lied to, and I'd dump them.

If they told me up front (not on the 1st date necessarily, but before we got too serious), and I felt God's will was for me to be with that person, I'd marry them.

 

[ido]

If they waited until we were ENGAGED to tell me this...I'd feel betrayed and lied to, and I'd dump them.

This.

 

[BoarderDave]

Yeah.. I'd be pretty mad that I had gotten so far in love, getting married and all that jazz before they told me.. however, I've been in love (to the point that next place was to be planning on popping the question) and I know that if she had told me that she had something like that.. I still would've gone through with it. No doubt.

Love is greater than anything. Even disease - curable or not.

True love is true love.. regardless of "strings attached."

 

[Tink]

If they waited until we were ENGAGED to tell me this...I'd feel betrayed and lied to, and I'd dump them.

If they told me up front (not on the 1st date necessarily, but before we got too serious), and I felt God's will was for me to be with that person, I'd marry them.

What if the person didn't actually find out until you were engaged?

 

[ido]

Yeah.. I'd be pretty mad that I had gotten so far in love, getting married and all that jazz before they told me.. however, I've been in love (to the point that next place was to be planning on popping the question) and I know that if she had told me that she had something like that.. I still would've gone through with it. No doubt.

Love is greater than anything. Even disease - curable or not.

True love is true love.. regardless of "strings attached."

True love wouldn't keep a secret that would have such a huge impact on the relationship. Trust me, I learned that lesson by living it - my ex told plenty of lies/kept lots of secrets and they all eventually came out after we were married. I wouldn't have married him if I would have known the things that I found out later on - and for good reason, obviously, since I'm divorced now b/c of who he really is.

What if the person didn't actually find out until you were engaged?

That's slightly different, but not much. If they knew they had a past that could put them at risk for having an STD or HIV, then I would hope they would tell me about it when things turned serious in the relationship and would be tested to make sure they're clean.

 

[Inkachu]

What if the person didn't actually find out until you were engaged?

Then I would stay with them. My issue is someone hiding such a serious, life-impacting secret from me for all the months/years we're dating and engaged.