Our faith is extremely important to us and we are waiting til marriage for any type of sexual relationship.
Hi C-Girl, first off, I think it is extremely cool that the two of you have decided to wait until you're married
It's the right thing to do (difficult as that may be in our world today) and I know that your lives (and your marriage) will be specially blessed because of it
It's also the right thing to do to honor God and stay strong in your faith, and what a 'wonderful' thing for others to see (your steadfast commitment to each other, to your principles, and to God ..
1 Corinthians 15:58), both to those of us who are in the faith, and to those outside of it, as well!
As a parent (and as someone who actually was your age once .. believe it or not
), I would have had the same concerns that your Mom did if you were my daughter. On the one hand, there is an inherent danger in putting two young, healthy adults (especially when they are in love with each other) in close, unsupervised proximity to one another, especially at night (even when they are committed Christians with the best of intentions
).
On the other hand, as committed Christians, we always have to be aware that people are watching everything we do closely, because the peculiar way that we chose to live our lives speaks volumes to those who are living in the world. In fact, it just confirms what their consciences have been trying so hard to tell them, that there really 'is' something wrong with the way that they're choosing to live their lives!!
Far and away, the Bible's main purpose in the life of a non-Christian is to show them what they're really like in comparison to God's righteous standard, and in doing so, cause them to turn to Christ that they may be justified by faith (
Galatians 3:24). And as Christians (and therefore God's witnesses ..
Isaiah 43:10; Matthew 4:19; Acts 1:8), what we say and (especially) what we do around those in the world may be the only "Bible" they ever get to "read"
Did you 'commit' a sin when you spent the night at your boyfriend's house? No. Was it the right thing to do? I think you're perfectly capable of deciding that one for yourself
Your commitment to abstinence means that you two are much more of a blessing to others than you probably realize! Keep up the great work in His wonderful name
Yours in Christ,
David
"You are already of consequence in the world if you are known
as a man or a woman of strict integrity"
Grenville Klesier