Hi again,
It's not so much that we've given up on the idea that electrons "move" as that we've given up on the idea that electrons are particles. In a classical world, we could in principle measure where something is and how fast it is going to infinite accuracy. This would allow us to describe how that thing's position changes with time, and thus draw a nice trajectory for the particle. But the uncertainty principle tells us that the more accurately we measure position, the less accurately we can know momentum, and vice versa. This means that if I figure out where a particle is sitting right now (position), I can't have any idea about where it will be a few moments later (momentum). So we can't really draw trajectories for quantum particles.
What we can know is how probable it is that a measuring device will find the electron at a particular point in space. These "clouds" of probability are the orbitals we've been describing. If we try to measure the electron's position somewhere in the cloud, we have a certain chance (given by the wavefunction) of finding the electron. The problem is that this improvement in our knowledge of position results in great uncertainty in momentum, so a few moments later we'll have no idea where the electron went. You could think of it as the measuring device having momentarily transformed the electron from a cloud into a particle, but only momentarily. The gist of this is: sometimes it's fruitful to describe electrons as "particles" with "speed", but other times it isn't, and when the electrons are in atoms is one of the latter times.
We consider this model to be superior to the simple "pointlike electron orbiting a nucleus" model for a variety of reasons. Firstly, the quantum model gives much better predictions (of atomic binding energies and spectra), and is more in line with our wider understanding of nature. Secondly, the pointlike electron model imples that electrons are little spheres of charge, which combined with the fact that electrons have angular momentum would mean that they would have to be constantly rotating at speeds much greater than that of light. Thirdly, the quantum model is a necessary consequence of the uncertainty principle, which is an extremely firmly established principle of physics. Finally, experiments on free electrons, which involve such things as firing them through double slits, reveal that they have wave-like properties such as self-interference. There are almost certainly many more reasons, but this is all I can think of off the top of my head.
I'm not sure how time dilation came into this, to be honest, but it is also a firmly established physical phenomenon. It has both been directly observed, in experiments involving atomic clocks on planes, GPS satellites, muon decay, and particle accelerators, and is indirectly a necessary consequence of the postulates of relativity. Since mass-energy equivalence stems from these same postulates, accepting one but not the other is logically problematic.
If you think that belief in time dilation is unwarranted, I respect that belief and don't wish to get into a shouting match about it. However, I am a little curious about what it is that you find so unacceptable about this idea. What is it that you think time dilation is, precisely? Thanks for the time.