Spanking

[Nicki4Christ]

What are your thoughts on spanking a child in means of correction?


And at what age do you think would be to old to spank a child for correction?

 

[Time2BCounted]

I will say i am 49 and God STILL spanks me severely at times and i NEED it still.

Yes spank dem kids lol, and when they get too big to spank, use the rod lol

Seriously, we need discipline, its a part of love and teaches us

 

[Lisa0315]

Spanking should be reserved for only the most serious offenses. For example, a child runs into the road and endangers himself would get a spanking. Spanking becomes ineffective if you do it for every single offense. IMHO...

Lisa

 

[£amb]

What are your thoughts on spanking a child in means of correction?


And at what age do you think would be to old to spank a child for correction?

I have and still do spank my children. It's not the first discipline they receive because there are alternate actions I can take and receive the same results. But there are certain things they will get spanked for because it's not tolerated such as rebelling, sassing back, hurting their sibling. I believe I started spanking lightly when they were over a year old. Just a small swat, but nothing more.

 

[Nicki4Christ]

I will say i am 49 and God STILL spanks me severely at times and i NEED it still.

Yes spank dem kids lol, and when they get too big to spank, use the rod lol

Seriously, we need discipline, its a part of love and teaches us

I found this cute TIME. If they get to big use the rod .LOL

 

[IamRedeemed]

Amen.

We spanked our kids when they were growing up. But I would say for the latter half of their growing up it was no longer necessary because we did in the first.

We used alternative disciplines, we did a lot of ignore/praise and that worked very well, as well as revoked privileges etc., and spankings were usually not issued with out a prior warning, should the duly noted infraction occur again. We also made it a point to never issue a spanking in anger.

It went more like this: "Now, you remember what Mommy said the last time you did that, what would be the punishment? They would meekly, with their heads down say "yes". Mommy (or Daddy) said you would get a spanking if you did it again right? "yes"

"Well, I am sorry, I didn't want to have to do this, but I have to, so lay over my knee."

and they would limply lay over my knee (or Dad's) and they would get their two or three swats, depending on how old they were.

And afterward, we would assure them of our love and again implement for them not to do it again so that we won't have to give them another spanking for it.

It went very well. My kids are all grown now and they were pretty good kids overall and did not become very out of hand and disrespectful teenagers either. They were/are respectful of elders and authority and are all level headed and mature young adults now, and I am proud to be their Mom.

I have and still do spank my children. It's not the first discipline they receive because there are alternate actions I can take and receive the same results. But there are certain things they will get spanked for because it's not tolerated such as rebelling, sassing back, hurting their sibling. I believe I started spanking lightly when they were over a year old. Just a small swat, but nothing more.

 

[IamRedeemed]

LOL..."spank dem kids" hahahaha!

I will say i am 49 and God STILL spanks me severely at times and i NEED it still.

Yes spank dem kids lol, and when they get too big to spank, use the rod lol

Seriously, we need discipline, its a part of love and teaches us

 

[Lisa0315]

I got a funny spanking story.

When I was in the first grade, I was being a bit hyper in line and along comes the principal and swats me on the behind. Some 30+ years later, this same principal is now one of our State Senators. So, I see him in the grocery store, and I am like, "Yo, Mr. Tillman, howz it going in Raleigh?" I tell him how he was my principal and both of my kids had him as well. I asked him if he remembered my grandmother who used to work for him. I then told him how he had spanked me in the first grade. The entire grocery store was giggling at this. He didn't bat an eye. Just looked at me and said, "Yeah? You probably needed it." I was picking on him but he turned it right around on me. LOL!

Lisa

 

[Nadiine]

*puts on leather gloves*

I was spanked all the time and just look how I turned out.

K, but seriously, obviously spanking shouldn't be a first resort for every single thing a child does wrong. But I think for serious wrongs that could harm them or that are very offensive or hostile, I don't see how a swat on the backside is so terrible to wake them up to the seriousness of what they did.

Spanks aren't beatings & probably shouldn't be done in the heat of anger.

 

[rushingwind62]

I think the problem with a lot of young kids is they aren't disciplined at all. And I think spanking is the best way to discipline a child until they get between the of 10 and 12. It varies from child to child as to when they are too old to spank.

I don't believe in using tools such as paddles or belt because those can leave marks and welts. But a good swift hand swat teaches them respect.

 

[Nadiine]

I think the problem with a lot of young kids is they aren't disciplined at all. And I think spanking is the best way to discipline a child until they get between the of 10 and 12. It varies from child to child as to when they are too old to spank.

I don't believe in using tools such as paddles or belt because those can leave marks and welts. But a good swift hand swat teaches them respect.

Yep.
Have you watched those reality shows w/ the Nannys?
The parents don't even know how to raise them or discipline.. they let the kids run the house & are afraid they'll make their kids "feel bad" or the child "won't like them".
OMGSH...........

 

[Mling]

Yep.
Have you watched those reality shows w/ the Nannys?
The parents don't even know how to raise them or discipline.. they let the kids run the house & are afraid they'll make their kids "feel bad" or the child "won't like them".
OMGSH...........

...and even in those worst case scenarios, the nannies don't need to spank to straighten the kids and parents out.

 

[higgs2]

What are your thoughts on spanking a child in means of correction?


And at what age do you think would be to old to spank a child for correction?

never. There is alway an alternative to hitting a child for correction

 

[higgs2]

Oh. I apologize, I did not see where I was posting, just went to this thread as it was featured on the main page. Please remove my post if it is imappropriate, forgive me for intruding. I strongly believe that non-members shouldnot post in this forum and now I've violated that belief. :crying:

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Amen.

We spanked our kids when they were growing up. But I would say for the latter half of their growing up it was no longer necessary because we did in the first.

We used alternative disciplines, we did a lot of ignore/praise and that worked very well, as well as revoked privileges etc., and spankings were usually not issued with out a prior warning, should the duly noted infraction occur again. We also made it a point to never issue a spanking in anger.

It went more like this: "Now, you remember what Mommy said the last time you did that, what would be the punishment? They would meekly, with their heads down say "yes". Mommy (or Daddy) said you would get a spanking if you did it again right? "yes"

"Well, I am sorry, I didn't want to have to do this, but I have to, so lay over my knee."

and they would limply lay over my knee (or Dad's) and they would get their two or three swats, depending on how old they were.

And afterward, we would assure them of our love and again implement for them not to do it again so that we won't have to give them another spanking for it.

It went very well. My kids are all grown now and they were pretty good kids overall and did not become very out of hand and disrespectful teenagers either. They were/are respectful of elders and authority and are all level headed and mature young adults now, and I am proud to be their Mom.

>_> Wish my parents did that. I don't know what I'd do if I were a parent, i'd need support. I really don't like the thought of it. When I babysit my nephews, when they say no, i'm supposed to smack em, but I can never do it...

 

[GraceLikeRainFallsDown]

I was one of those people that said I would never spank my child. Then I became a parent.

Well, my toddler decided she liked to be "cute" on walks and would run in the street. I did not find this cute at all. I then decided she needed a spanking. You cannot rationalize with a toddler very well. Rather a swat through the diaper than being hit by a car.

I tried to only use spanking if it was a safety issue. There was one time I can remember that she was spanked for defiance. It was down right ugly defiance, not just a simple "no, I won't listen to you".

I always tried to use other means of discipline when I could. BUt, I do believe in spanking for safety issues and when all other means of discipline have be tried without results.

I did find that it worked. She stopped running into the street. She is almost 12 now and is very well behaved. Yes, being pre-teen, she can still have her defiant moments, but other punishments are more effective now. Now it is . . . you can't go out and play with friends or no TV.

I do not think that spanking will be very effective over about 8 - 9 years old. I really do think it depends on the kid though.

My brother was spanked. He was a stinker. But, I was not since I was an angel.

It really needs to be left to the parent to determine if it is an effective punishment for that particular child. If spanking has no effect, then it should not be used. It is a disciplinary tool that should be used wisely and with great care. But, I do think it is a necessary tool to take out of the tool box on ocassion.

 

[Nadiine]

>_> Wish my parents did that. I don't know what I'd do if I were a parent, i'd need support. I really don't like the thought of it. When I babysit my nephews, when they say no, i'm supposed to smack em, but I can never do it...

I would never feel comfortable smacking somebody elses kids- even IF they deserved it.
I'd only discipline my own.

 

[stone]

What are your thoughts on spanking a child in means of correction?

Every since spanking was black labeled children have become more out of control and wild. I believe spanking is ok, but only if its done with an open hand on the childs butt. Anything else, i consider crossing the line. OF course, parenting and counseling a child is a must, as well as spending time with your children. I haven't spanked in.... hmmm, let's see.. i have a 3 year old.. i never spanked him... and i have a 10 year old i haven't spanked in... i can't remember... maybe i should spank her today? Ha! j\k

And at what age do you think would be to old to spank a child for correction?

When they're old enough to do chores.

 

[nyj]

I can remember getting spanked 4 times, when I was a child. I still remember the stupid things I did to get spanked as well. I don't believe I ever did them again after I got spanked.

 

[Lady Bug]

I don't like the thought of hitting a child, but then again I am not a parent and do not know if my opinion would change