Spanking is child abuse, just not a prosecutable offence. Or do you think that striking a child is not a form of abuse?
Can you give us your definition of abuse? People have varifying definitions, and was curious to what yours is. Is there only one form of discipline that a parent should do? Would it meet the individual need of that child? Should a parent be able to raise a child as an individual or should they conform to a method that doesn't meet the need of the child?
I have two boys. The oldest got many spankings growing up because he was strong-willed. Words and time-outs did not work on him. My youngest one did not because he heeded warnings better than the oldest one did and words and time-outs worked on him. I did not correct them as the same child, but as individuals.
All things can be taken to the extreme if you want to. I mean, I could call time-out an abuse if I were being silly. I mean afterall, you are forcing a child to do something they don't want. And to leave them on the chair neglected...oh my. How dare parents do any form of correction on a child's behaviour when it's curbing their free-spirt.
Have you ever seen abused children other than on the news, internet or papers? Have you seen the physical difference between a spanking and beating on a child?
Have you ever had a 3 year old come into your classroom with 2 broken ribs? Have you ever had a 2 year old come into your classroom with scratch marks all over their back and buttocks? Have you ever had a 6 year old come in with a fractured arm? I have been in the Preschool schooling for close to 20 years. I've been in churches and daycares with children of all walks of life. I have seen a child being beaten in a parking lot with a golf club. I've seen a mother take her fist and pound over and over a 5 year old because he talked back to her. I got in between a mother and a chair being thrown at a 4 year old. Shoot, I've gotten in between many angry parents with fists flying.
In all those years, I can count up to over 60 cases of abuse, and remember the name of every single child. I can't tell you how many times I've called the police and watched people being taken away in cuffs.
But I never had to call the police on a parent who spanked a child. The most spankings I've seen a child get in front of me at the preschool was 3 spankings. That was because the child picked up a flower pot and threw it at a teacher. I had to call the mother and she came immediately. Instead of putting the child in time-out, and giving him alittle "pep talk", that parent gave a physical correction. He never did it again of course.
Does that mean all children need to be spanked. No. All children are different. Not all parents who spank use that as the first form of correction. I think that's been repeated over and over in this thread as well, but people get the wrong impression that spanking is the first form of correction which is a false assumption for some parents.
I have seen several posts explain their definition of what spanking is to them. They have said it is open hand and a swat to the bottom or hand. Please show me where someone said they took their fist, balled it up and cornered their child and beat them senseless. Going by the definition that was given in these posts, I would never classify spanking as abuse. And do see that I said "by these posts", and not everyone else in the world. You can be against spanking, but it's your choice as a parent, or when you become one, to correct your child as you see fit.