SOSI Chat and Brainstorm Center

[New Creation]

Father we thank you for Tim and Pamela's conversion, for the gift of their faith and for their zealous love for your lost children, including this man who is threatening them and their loved ones. I pray for your protection over all of them Lord; I pray that you send extra guardian angels to keep them safe. I also pray for a heightened awareness on their parts of the goings on around them, both on earth and in the heavenlies.
I pray for your mercy on this man who is stalking them. I pray that you penetrate the stone around his heart and perform one of your wonderful miracles to break or soften it. I pray that he sees Your light and asks truly for your forgiveness.
I thank you for the gift of these people and for their friendship here in cyberland.
I pray this in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit,



AMEN.

 

[New Creation]

I hope you guys have contacted the authorities! I will continue to keep you AND him in prayer.

 

[InTheCloud]

Pam, contact the authorities both locals and Feds.
Read my PM.
There is some people in CF you might want to talk for advise.

 

[savedfromstripclubs]

Thank you guys! We have luckily some of what he said on tape. And we have informed the authorities. We are strong in the Lord!

 

[InTheCloud]

One of the thing I love of Christian Forums is the large diversity of people who post here:
You can meet some cops and feds in this subforum for example:

http://christianforums.com/forumdisplay.php?f=625

 

[New Creation]

Thank you guys! We have luckily some of what he said on tape. And we have informed the authorities. We are strong in the Lord!

That's good news. I was actually going to suggest that you keep a small tape recorder handy by your phone for just that reason.

 

[savedfromstripclubs]

We have learned over time how to deal with these people. Tape and record and document EVERYTHING. I even made note of what he said on my website.

 

[BlondieLashes]

Pam,

I am praying for you as well. Please, please be careful. In my own experience I have learned that people such as the man you are talking about are very dangerous. Please go to the authorities asap. Some of your tape recordings may not be able to be used as evidence if it was done without this man's knowledge of the conversation being taped. You need to find out from police what you can and cannot use as evidence. I have been down the road of trying to have the man that was basically my pimp (I hate that word) convicted. You would be surprised as to what can and cannot be used as evidence.

My husband and I also found out how very dangerous these types of people are not only through my experience with my life being constantly threatened by my former pimp (thus my reasons for me not posting anything about where I am on the web), but also going through the ugly process of finding out that the owners of the club we used to work for (my hubby is a former strip club manager) actually murdering someone.

What I am trying to say is be careful. Yes, the Lord is on your side and I admire your confidence in Him....Just remember in this fallen world we have to be very careful. Please contact the police and find out what can be used as evidence and how you should proceed.

Hugs,

Court

 

[savedfromstripclubs]

Thank you so much for this information Court, and for your concern. It sounds like you have been through the ringer with these people. I will do as you suggest and ask the police these questions. There is no question in our minds that this person would have us killed if we were still in LA, perhaps even the owner of my club too.

 

[InTheCloud]

Going back to resources, I PMed Melissa Farley about the doctors in LA.
Court, Paula and Pam got copies of the response.
I thing is a asset we could use to help Marissa, Isabelle, IntheFlesh and Cor22 if they need to talk to a doctor in LA with experience in dealing with sexworkers and the aftermath of being in the sex industry.
Profesor Farley is willing to talk with the girls herself.

Court, Paula and Pam. Share that info with the mods. Even my real name. So if a girl is interested she can tell Prof Farley that I recomended her.

 

[InTheCloud]

Court found this blog by a old friend. Jill Leighton, now Jill Brenneman.

Sex Workers Outreach Project East

a sex worker human rights project.

link: http://www.swopeast.org/

They are in the Durham/Raleigh area.

Note that they are prolegalization of sex work. They are not abolitionists but they do know about the harmfull problems of sex work, they are more proregulation. That is another debate. (They might have some points, and be wrong elsewere). Still a source.

 

[New Creation]

I had a long, difficult day today. I craved a drink today for the first time in a lonnnnnnng time.

Got up at 5:00 a.m. to go into the "big city" to give my formal testimony to the Marriage Tribunal at the diocese. (I am seeking to have my first marriage annulled so I can become Catholic, receive Eucharist and have my marriage to my present husband consecrated.) We have an hour and a half drive and then a ferry to catch so it makes for a long day. Packed up a lunch for everyone, Lloyd came too - made sure Meaghan had snacks, juice, books, dolls, a change of clothes (which she needed before 11 a.m. and the appointment wasn't even until 2!)
So we went to Toys R Us first because there's only one toy store where we live and everything's made out of wood and costs an arm and a leg.
So of course Meaghan basically had a religious experience basking in all the glorious toys.

We went to a Catholic store after that and finally got a proper Catholic Bible and a few other things so Lloyd and I had OUR religious experience.

Got to the diocese after that and had to give my formal testimony to the priest there and some woman who was there observing, going for her Master's in Canon Law.

Well, I got there early and we started early which was a good thing because I felt like I didn't get to finish what I had to say.

It was so much harder than I thought it was going to be, re-hashing the miserable experiences of my youth and the farce that was my first marriage. Re-visiting my stupidity and lack of spiritual, and emotional depth was even harder. I felt like I was being interrogated, I really did. I felt so stupid. I felt sick to my stomach.

The end of my testimony was rushed because Father had another appointment at 3 so I didn't even get to relay how important my relationship with Christ is to me now. I was in the middle of my "miracle speech" when he cut me off. I wasn't able to convey how much I understand how important the ties of matrimony are now and how very much my present husband and I want to take part in the Eucharist.
I'm going to call tomorrow because I need them to know that.

Anyway, when I was finished, I felt like someone beat the tar out of me. I felt drained. I felt like having a rye and coke. Big time.

It's also the anniversary of the day that I gave up my son Lance Michael to abortion. 22 years ago today.

We got home at 8:00, can you believe that? Meg in bed at 9, me still on the computer at 10. I gotta go to bed. Now.

 

[InTheCloud]

Many women get depressed on the aniversary of their abortions. You have to be extra careful on his date.
But God is with you Paula.

 

[savedfromstripclubs]

I feel for you Paula! That sounded so grueling! I know how painful it is as I had to go through a similar process for our marriage. I will keep you in my prayers, even though its after the fact. I'm glad you're calling the priest about that issue, he should hear about that.

 

[BlondieLashes]

Paula,

I read your post the day you posted it, but have not been able to reply until now. I just want you to know I have been saying extra prayers for you since reading your post! You have always been so strong as long as I've known you so it made my heart hurt to read that you were hurting so much! I am praying that the priest will be more understanding towards you and that you will be comforted about Lance.

I love you so much sis!

Court

 

[New Creation]

I did end up calling the priest back the next day and telling him what I wanted to say but he told me that it wasn't neccessary and that he had all the information that he needed.
He also indicated that things looked positive for me so that made it completely worth it for me to call back AND to go through the interview the day before.

Thanks for your prayers folks. I want this so badly. I want so much to become Catholic and receive the Eucharist. I never needed Christ so much as I do now. I'm battling my anger like a beast these days. My daughter's future depends on me overcoming this or at least dealing with it in a more positive manner. This is harder for me than quitting smoking was, harder than quitting drinking, harder than any of the myriad of things that Christ has helped me to overcome.
This goes down DEEP to my core. To where I dealt with my mum's anger as a child. It's so hard to reprogram yourself but I am bloody well determined to do it. I have to. Any time you pray for me folks, pray for me to have awareness of my anger when it surfaces. Pray for victory!

 

[savedfromstripclubs]

I'm really glad to hear this Paula - its wonderful to receive the eucharist. I will continue to pray for you. Great graces come out of our trials.

 

[BlondieLashes]

Paula,

I want you to know I am really praying for you in regards to your anger issues. I really admire how determined you are to overcome it. You are a fighter! I also know what it is like to want to "reprogram yourself" for the sake of your child. It is the hardest thing to do. I am experiencing that with my son too. For me it's overcoming a negative, depressed attitude that I don't want to pass on to him......You will be victorious because you are so determined and you have Christ on your side. I have been wanting to let you know this for awhile now and it seems every time I try to post this something comes up. I am rooting for you Paula!!!

Court

 

[New Creation]

Paula,

I want you to know I am really praying for you in regards to your anger issues. I really admire how determined you are to overcome it. You are a fighter! I also know what it is like to want to "reprogram yourself" for the sake of your child. It is the hardest thing to do. I am experiencing that with my son too. For me it's overcoming a negative, depressed attitude that I don't want to pass on to him......You will be victorious because you are so determined and you have Christ on your side. I have been wanting to let you know this for awhile now and it seems every time I try to post this something comes up. I am rooting for you Paula!!!

Court

Amen girlfriend- same for you. You will be victorious also because of Christ and because you WANT better and are TRYING and DOING better for Drew. Thanks so much for letting me know that you are warring for me in the heavenlies!

 

[savedfromstripclubs]

Well, it looks like people from my former place of work have found out about my website and Tim's book because Tim has been getting harrassed on his website's blog page by what appears to be someone from the strip club. Please know that we are not afraid of these people as we are safely out of the area. But they have made an inferred threat which we are keeping should we need to submit it to the police in the future. It is our sincere hope that by exposing this club to the public that it is suffering for business or better yet getting more heat than usual from the authorities.

Tim and I do pray for the conversion of the staff and the owner of this place, and I advise this practice to everyone as it is very good for the soul to do so. But meanwhile, I won't be mourning its closure!