Sooo...tell me how a "normal relationship" works.

[smacky ramone]

Normal: Your wife decides what you will eat, wear, say, do and think.

That's not what a woman would do to Smacky, unless she would like to find herself here.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

You meet. You lust. You fight. You make up. You fight. You compromise better than just making up. You learn to love. You fight. You compromise. You disagree. You learn to adjust some of your harsher conflicting ideas. You love some more.

and then you die.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

Normal: Your wife decides what you will eat, wear, say, do and think. You decide to do so.

So not this..not for me. A man who would just let me tell him what to do when to do it and what to wear isn't a man at all and I want nothing to do with him. I've seen men who are like this with their wife, girlfriend..whatever and it makes me sad.

 

[Im_A]

Normal: Your wife decides what you will eat, wear, say, do and think. You decide to do so.

See...I like to cook, so if some woman has a complex about her cooking and making decisions for me...no go. Its bad enough for the woman that complains about what she has with me let me tell ya...

I am a FIRM believer in equality not favoritism because one doesn't have a penis and I will not be treated special because I don't have a vagina.

I want to wear a cooking apron half-nude anyways...

 

[Deleteriousnonsense]

I want to wear a cooking apron half-nude anyways...

As long as you're not frying bacon, why not?

 

[Stravinsk]

Normal: Your wife decides what you will eat, wear, say, do and think. You decide to do so.

No self-respecting man allows his partner to do this.

No man-respecting woman would seek to dominate her partner.

Sounds like a sick codependence tailored to mama's boys and sick, overly proud, strong willed women.

 

[JohnDB]

Well...at times she is my hero...someone that really saves my bacon or makes my day.

I enjoy and relish every moment I have with her. Can't wait to talk to her. (and sometimes do during work....not cause I have to just cause I want to)

And I guess in a lot of ways I am her hero. I do things for her cause I know she likes them...again if I didn't she wouldn't be mad. But because I like it when she is happy I will go out of my way to do the little things to the mundane things...just cause.

We don't have cable so...we talk and rant and rave about different things. She has her quiet time and I have mine.

I support her in areas she is weak. I don't make the decisions for her (or throw a fit) but I make it easier for her to make the good decisions she is capable of.

that what ya lookin for?

 

[Im_A]

As long as you're not frying bacon, why not?

Exactly. Deep frying doesn't sound good in the sense of boiling oil and heat and my privates.

 

[Deleteriousnonsense]

I'm glad for you, JohnDB. Who wouldn't want what you've found? Just for further reference to anyone who might stumble across my ill-advised facetious comment, I have tremendous respect for my wife: she puts her pants on one-leg-at-a-time just like anyone else.

 

[Im_A]

I'm glad for you, JohnDB. Who wouldn't want what you've found? Just for further reference to anyone who might stumble across my ill-advised facetious comment, I have tremendous respect for my wife: she puts her pants on one-leg-at-a-time just like anyone else.

And she needs you to be sure the oven is working right?

 

[MehGuy]

Probably one that will be better than mine.

Calm and cool, quite and normal.

 

[Hamish MacWolf]

Exactly. Deep frying doesn't sound good in the sense of boiling oil and heat and my privates.

Wisely spoken.

Jamie Oliver once accidentally burned the end of his knob whilst nude cooking for his wife.

A cautionary tale for the ages.

 

[RobertMerton]

Normal relationship would be ..
unfortunately not that great as the ideal of 'normal' has been degraded to the extent that it's not ideal.

don't strive for a normal relationship, strive for a great relationship!!

 

[Hamish MacWolf]

Tell me.

And don't be like "well, normal is a subjective term"....not what I'm going for here.

Look, in all seriousness, I know you don't want the subjective response, but that's the honest thing to say to your specific question. If you had asked, "How does a good, or a strong, or a healthy relationship work?", then we'd be cooking with gas!

But normal? If by normal, you mean "not abnormal", and then following on from that logic, you mean "average relationship", (using average in a mathematical sense), then depending on which country you live in, the average relationship looks like this: Two people meet. They decide they are in love. They get married. They then - sooner or later - decide they are no longer in love. They get divorced. Rinse, and repeat.

So, back to you. Did you want to ask what a good, or a strong, or a healthy relationship looks like? Or are you surveying us for the most common, and therefore, average, response?

 

[PassionFruit]

IMO there is no such thing as one type of normal. What a girl and guy in one relationship thinks is normal, another girl and guy could be the exact opposite and think what THEY have is normal. So in IMO everyone is different, every relationship is different and theres really no such thing as one normal. Theres about as many different normals as there are people.

I agree with this for the most part, but I also feel that perhaps normal isn't the best word....maybe typical would be better?

But overall yes, it really depends. It can also depend upon whom you're dating. Since being in a relationship there's a deal of negotiating and navigating that that you have to do in order for things to work out. It's not the type where someone in that relationship is making compromises to the point where they end up loosing themselves.

On another note, in a relationship/marriage you want to spend time together, like going out, or just hanging out at home. Then there are other times when you want your own space. Then there's intimacy, and I'm not just referring to just sex, but feeling close to each other. So this sums my opinion on the matter.

What's interesting to me since I've been posting in singles, is many of the posters here desire to be in a relationship, but what will happen once you enter into one?

 

[Obzocky]

what will happen once you enter into one?

Spontaneous combustion.

I did want to add something meaningful, but it kept coming out as rambling junk

 

[PassionFruit]

Spontaneous combustion.

I did want to add something meaningful, but it kept coming out as rambling junk

I'd be happy to hear what you have to say.

 

[acropolis]

I would say mutual love and respect is pretty typical of a lot of relationships.