Tell me.
And don't be like "well, normal is a subjective term"....not what I'm going for here.
And don't be like "well, normal is a subjective term"....not what I'm going for here.
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Sooo...tell me how a "normal relationship" works.
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The Julikenz
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You meet. You lust. You fight. You make up. You fight. You compromise better than just making up. You learn to love. You fight. You compromise. You disagree. You learn to adjust some of your harsher conflicting ideas. You love some more. (etc) It's a constant tug of war to be compatible. You give up things; you ask the other person to give up things. But giving up thing should make the love stronger, not weaker.
A normal relationship is about selflessness, sacrifice, change, and love. If you're missing any of those... you've got a dysfunctional relationship haha.
A normal relationship is about selflessness, sacrifice, change, and love. If you're missing any of those... you've got a dysfunctional relationship haha.
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Alright, apparently what I thought was normal actually is normal. This is good.
Juleigh, silencing my nagging concerns once again.
Juleigh, silencing my nagging concerns once again.
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Hamish MacWolf
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That's more "normal" in father-son relationships, I think.
You ever been caught out by a girl, asked to explain yourself, and you wave your hand across her face, saying, "You don't need me to explain myself?"
Lightsaber duel shortly follows...
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IMO there is no such thing as one type of normal. What a girl and guy in one relationship thinks is normal, another girl and guy could be the exact opposite and think what THEY have is normal. So in IMO everyone is different, every relationship is different and theres really no such thing as one normal. Theres about as many different normals as there are people.
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I agree with the girls above. What's "normal" for one couple might be insanely crazy for another. For example, one couple might be very traditional, man works, woman stays home, lots of kids, conservative dress and talk. Another couple might be childless, liberal, both have careers. Each might think the other is completely nuts. Doesn't mean one is more "normal" than the other, they're just different.
I think what matter is what makes a relationship WORK and LAST. Things like honesty, respect, loyalty, commitment. Those are universal.
I think what matter is what makes a relationship WORK and LAST. Things like honesty, respect, loyalty, commitment. Those are universal.
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Well there is no cookie cutter answer to this, but I think there are some general things to look for. First off, they typical start slow and start on a solid foundation. In other words, a girl you randomly meet and think is hot and get her to go on a date with you, that isn't much of a foundation, it's just an attraction. But a girl that you have either been friends with for a while, or known for a while, or at least dated very slowly and steadily for a good period of time. That gives the relationship a foundation to start on other than physical.
There will also be a lot of time spent together with friends, or together just talking and laughing. Those people that you see who have their lips locked everywhere they go and can't stay away from each other, they usually fizzle out very quick. It's the relationships where you feel comfortable with her in group settings, where she can get along with your friends and you can with hers, and you don't need each other's full attention all the time.
Also, you usually see the families being a big part of a normal relationship. The exception would be if either of the couple or both have no family that live anywhere near them, or aren't close to their family anymore for whatever reason. Successful, normal relationships usually include (not involve, but include) family, so they know who you're dating and they can help and encourage and support both of you, at the same time showing your partner where you come from, what kind of setting, etc.
There will also be a lot of time spent together with friends, or together just talking and laughing. Those people that you see who have their lips locked everywhere they go and can't stay away from each other, they usually fizzle out very quick. It's the relationships where you feel comfortable with her in group settings, where she can get along with your friends and you can with hers, and you don't need each other's full attention all the time.
Also, you usually see the families being a big part of a normal relationship. The exception would be if either of the couple or both have no family that live anywhere near them, or aren't close to their family anymore for whatever reason. Successful, normal relationships usually include (not involve, but include) family, so they know who you're dating and they can help and encourage and support both of you, at the same time showing your partner where you come from, what kind of setting, etc.
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white dove
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I mostly agree with this, but I think some things that might be normal for some should really not be considered normal.. like emotional, verbal or physical abuse, things like that. As far as personal styles and levels of interaction/engaging, yeah.. absolutely people are different. Some people are more reserved while others are more free-spirited. I have met people like this and it has taken me aback. I think, "Wow, how stoic.. how robotic or cold." But really, that's their personalities and how they most feel comfortable relating to each other.
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That's the only answer one is getting out of me.
Normal is very subjective.
You are dealing with human beings.
You get up, go to work, pay your bills. Cook some food. Maybe have some sex, maybe not. Spend time with one another. Fight, make up, get along. Do things together. Go through tragedy together. Go through celebration together. The list could go on and on about defining 'normal'.
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