Something that has been bothering me here

[Shali]

It seems that those who have high repping power, and thus the greatest ability to help those of us with lower reps, only rep the other high rep people. This just makes the rep rich get richer and the rep poor stay that way. Why aren't we all helping eachother? There are some people here with huge reps whose reps I've seen go up a couple million in a day while those with no stars try and try and seem to get nowhere.

This has been really bothering me and it is part of the reason why Bella and I started the thread to help those with no stars. It almost seems like this place has just become a place to either flaunt how many stars you have or to beg and beg so that you can become one who flaunts how many stars you have. I'm not posting this to try and get more people to rep me, but I thought that this really needed to be pointed out.

 

[IamRedeemed]

Sorry you are seeing it that way.......

It wasn't too long ago, that I had no stars..... people helped me and I help others. In fact, I just gave you reps in another thread, before I even saw this, for people trying to get their 2nd star. I try to spread mine around. I like to be sure to rep people back who rep me, I rep newbies and I also rep people for actual good posts in threads.
Sadly there are only so many a day to go around. We all have our pet peeves, I am sure. Sometimes I get discouraged as some people no matter how many times you rep them, don't reciprocate, but you have to take the lumps and focus on the good. There is much more fun and good then there is negative things to focus on, so that's what I do.

God bless

 

[Shali]

I know that there are people who do spread it around really well, I try to, and I appreciate the reps that you gave me. It is really the people who are over 5 million or so that I was referring to and I know that it isn't everyone. It has been fun for me here, but this has been bothering me more and more.

 

[ctay]

I think I got you in another thread this morning, but I'll do it again, God bless you

 

[twob4me]

It seems that those who have high repping power, and thus the greatest ability to help those of us with lower reps, only rep the other high rep people. This just makes the rep rich get richer and the rep poor stay that way. Why aren't we all helping eachother? There are some people here with huge reps whose reps I've seen go up a couple million in a day while those with no stars try and try and seem to get nowhere.

This has been really bothering me and it is part of the reason why Bella and I started the thread to help those with no stars. It almost seems like this place has just become a place to either flaunt how many stars you have or to beg and beg so that you can become one who flaunts how many stars you have. I'm not posting this to try and get more people to rep me, but I thought that this really needed to be pointed out.

I repped you last night....

 

[Shali]

Everyone, please understand that I am not posting this to get more reps, nor am I ungrateful for the reps that I have been given. I know that not everyone is this way. If you are helping the star poor, I thank you!!! It just seems that there are many who opt to only rep those with high reps to get more reps back.

 

[twob4me]

Everyone, please understand that I am not posting this to get more reps, nor am I ungrateful for the reps that I have been given. I know that not everyone is this way. If you are helping the star poor, I thank you!!! It just seems that there are many who opt to only rep those with high reps to get more reps back.

I can't speak for everyone but there are a few people that I have a friendship with that I make a point of repping everyday. It has nothing to do with how much reps they have. Some are only have 2 or 3M. In comparrison to others who have a LOT more. I do try and rep those who do not have a star yet. I've even helped a few to their first star.

I understand how you feel as I was there before myself. I just made a point of repping people and getting to know them instead of just hoping they'll rep me back because I repped them. Not saying that's what you or anyone else is doing just saying that I made a point of not feeling that way.

I've had two auctions for my reps. I mention this because there are people who buy their reps. Some people feel that they haven't actually "earned" them by getting them that way. Just saying what I've heard others say about that.

But that goes to ones personal choice of how they want to get reps. There's many different ways to get reps. You need to find what works for you. I however suggest getting to know the members here as that makes a big difference. IMHO

I know of quite a few members here with high reps that spend most of their reps on helping those who don't have a star. I guess I just don't think it's fair to make a generalized statement about why or why not someone isn't repping others.

I know it feels like you aren't moving very fast and that you rep so many others but you get very little in return. That will change as you get to know the members here. Trust me. I was there where you are not too long ago.

Hang in there.

 

[drstevej]

I think it is a good reminder to reach out to newer folks here.

 

[twob4me]

I think it is a good reminder to reach out to newer folks here.

I agree. I do however feel that there are many of us that do.

 

[ctay]

I try to help out the ones that have less than me!!!!

 

[Nadiine]

Some do Shali yes. & I do all I can to get new threads going to populate more areas & help bring us all together...
At the same time, I don't like to be pressured and feeling guilty when I'm trying to have a good time here either.

There are probably alot of reasons people rep who they rep. In my case, most of my friends happen to have either high or a good amount of stars (at least 6+).
I also keep a list and rep back who reps me.
That means that most of my reps are very limited and I have to ration them... I can't just go helping people when I owe reps to people (many of them who have low rep #) in return.
This has been my issue that I've mentioned on the boards here a few times now. It happened ever since I hit 10 stars to be exact.

But this is also supposed to be FUN. I'd like to take this opportunity to remind everybody that if we're starting to fight & have "issues" over the reps, that maybe we should take a step back and do some searching about how important these things have become to us!!

This should BE FUN. if it's causing problems, then there's a problem. I'm starting to see issues come up with some threads lately.

When I first joined here almost 2 years ago, it took me over a year just to get a couple hundred thousand reps.
CF didn't even allow rep begging like this. You were lucky to get any depending on where you hung out.
Now new people come in & just expect to get 10 stars in a week... I mean......
what's going on here?

This is starting to make me wonder what's going on. I'm sorry, but I don't want to see fights & resentments in a fun game area. I thought I should speak up as to how I feel & just get it out on the table.
I want to have FUN here - if it turns into more than that, I"m shutting my rep hand off and leaving this area becuz I don't want this going on for me here.
sorry, this is disheartening to me to see.

 

[drstevej]

Let's let folks decide how to use reps.
Star Alpha Team has 30 who are helping new folks with reps.

Others are doing the same on their own or in other threads. So it is happening.

But we want friendships developed too so some will be more involved with folks they have known for a while.

Variety is good and makes this place fun.

Repaholics proclaim that reps are what it is about here... but we know that is not the case. It is about building a caring community.

So let's allow for flexibility for different styles and interests here.

my 2 cents

 

[twob4me]

I totally agree with you Nadiine. It is supposed to be a fun thing. Each of us are given either 20 or 40 (Site Supporters) a day. Those are our reps to do with however we please.

However, if we are being pressured into repping someone it sure does take the fun out of it and then resentment sets in. I don't want that for any of us here. That would just make this not worth doing at all.

I mean, I could go anywhere on the board and rep whomever I want. I come here for the fellowship that I've developed along the way. To me, that's far more important than reps.

Now I do understand how she feels as I've been there before. But as I said, I changed how I felt about it because I didn't like how it was making me feel. I realized my attitude was not good and it was effecting how I felt towards others. Once I let that go and just enjoyed giving out my reps that made a difference. For it truly is better to give than receive.

 

[drstevej]

Repaholics proclaim that reps are what it is about here... but we know that is not the case. It is about building a caring community.

RD 2:46 (RepStandard Version)​

 

[twob4me]

Repaholics proclaim that reps are what it is about here... but we know that is not the case. It is about building a caring community.

RD 2:46 (RepStandard Version)

 

[ctay]

I need to find ways to start new threads. I'm not very imaginative though. Maybe I'll come up with something very soon.

 

[Watchman4hm]

mornin reps to Shali..Ill be back later...

 

[RoseyK]

I opened two threads hoping to get a response from those just starting out.

The thread I started yesterday where I asked those without a star to post and I would give them a free hug filled reppie...I got very little response.

I am repping on Bella Song's and your thread for those without a star.

And I also rep back everyone who reps me as well as those whom I have become friendly with. We all started out with no stars and as time goes on, our rep points build up.

Please be encouraged. I look at a rep as a hug from someone not as a power or ego thing. And I think most people feel the same way.

 

[Ariella]

i share my reps out between friends who bless and encourage me each day and have helped me through a really bad time; with those i talk with in fellowship threads and rep games and with new members and those who still don't have stars despite being here for a long time and posting faithfully. there rep counts vary enormously - from starting out to high - i haven't noticed anyone only repping high counts - we all started at the same place so they get built up over time as you bless others with your posts and they are encouraged to rep you in return - keep posting in fellowship threads and get to know people and you'll find in time your rep count increases

 

[twob4me]

I opened two threads hoping to get a response from those just starting out.

The thread I started yesterday where I asked those without a star to post and I would give them a free hug filled reppie...I got very little response.

I am repping on Bella Song's and your thread for those without a star.

And I also rep back everyone who reps me as well as those whom I have become friendly with. We all started out with no stars and as time goes on, our rep points build up.

Please be encouraged. I look at a rep as a hug from someone not as a power or ego thing. And I think most people feel the same way.

You are one of the members I spoke about earlier. You have a beautiful heart Rosey and you are always trying to help those members out that don't have a star or maybe trying to get to their next star.