Ok then, here goes...
I don't have too much of a problem with this unless, by grace and grace alone, one means we play no part in presenting our own faith in that grace toward God. Even Luther for example would not be so extreme on the sovereignty of God that we play no part...
You do play a part. God gives you the gift, and you freely and willingly exercise it.
Why do you insist that faith is something that is self-wrought, rather than a gift from God? The Bible teaches it is a gift from God. See Eph 2:8-9. See Phil 1:29.
Who in their right mind
doesn't want to credit God for their faith?
"By the grace of God I am what I am" - Apostle Paul
2) Common grace
I think we have a different view of what common grace is. Common grace is to an Armenian, similar to what Christ explained in the talents given in the parable of the talents. "Common grace" in terms of the talents (spiritual light) given cannot exist under Calvinism unless it is efficacious.
This is no restraint in our view. Calvinists seem to deny this "prevenient/common grace" (as Arminians define it) as Calvinists think grace must always be efficacious... how do you explain the parable of the talents? Is that not common grace? Was it always efficacious?
Where did any Calvinist ever argue that all grace must be efficacious? Not a single time in all my years of study have I ever heard any Calvinist say such a thing. So I think you may be misrepresenting Calvinism here.
By the way, prevenient grace and common grace are not synonymous.
3) God has some sort of love for the non-elect.
I agree. But predestination in the Calvinistic sense goes COMPLETELY against this notion. That is why it is inconsistent. If God predetermined already that some would not be saved, how can He love them at all in any sense? Yes I know you can't agree with that as it against the bible. Yet it MUST flow logically from predestination. If they were damned from the beginning, how can there be any love for them?
It does not logically follow. And here is why. You are viewing predestination wrong. Ephesians 1:4-11 explicitly says that predestination is an act of LOVE on God's part. "In love he predestined us...". For some reason, you think predestination is an act of hate.
Look, predestination has nothing to do with damnation. Predestination doesn't cause anyone to go to hell. Sin causes people to go to hell. Predestination actually rescues sinners who are hell-bound. Without predestination, everyone would go to hell. Predestination is not unloving, it is loving. It is God stepping in and intervening and rescuing billions of people who would have gone to hell otherwise.
Sin is what is the cause of damnation, not predestination. Predestination has nothing to do with a person's condemnation. You are viewing predestination wrongly. God did not pick innocent people and say "You go to heaven, you go to hell, you go to heaven, you go to hell". Instead, God picked guilty, sinful people and said "Out of grace and mercy, I'm saving multitudes, too many to number".
Predestination is a facet of salvation. Every time predestination proper is mentioned, it has to do with salvation, not condemnation. It is the mistake on the non-Calvinist's part to think by "predestination" we mean anything other than what the Bible itself says.
Further, I should flip the question back around on you, brother. How does your own view escape the accusations that you have laid on Calvinism? In your own view, did God not create billions of people that he knew would reject Jesus and end up in hell? If so, why did he create them? Was he hoping that his perfect foreknowledge would be wrong and those people would surprise him and actually be saved? The only possible way you can avoid this dilemma is by embracing some kind of open theism. That is why James White says "The only consistent Arminianism is open theism"
The illustration is my own. But it illustrates what he and many others in my own circles believe and the reason why we as Arminians need to pray...
Bible verse: See the parable of the talents: God's grace (the talents) are His way of working on us to get a response... You could use a thousand other illustrations but the principle is the same: God draws us by His grace in order to get a response from us... The measure of grace given is different for each one (as with the talents)... and ultimately we are responding to His grace... and this grace can be increased upon a person by the prayers of another.... such as even for Christians to become stronger Christians, as in the prayers of Paul in the epistles, and also prayers for the unconverted...
Methinks you are stretching the parable further than Jesus intended. You are arriving at extra conclusions from such a small amount of text. That is eisegesis. The point of the parable is simply that God expects us to be wise stewards of what He has given to us. I'm not quite sure how you came to all the conclusions you did.
That being said, you don't have to "guess" how salvation works. The Bible plainly tells us. Jesus said "All that the Father gives me will come to me". Period. No where does Jesus or anyone else in the Bible say "God tries to get a response from us".
Also, the word "draw" in the Bible is the Greek word
helkuo which means to drag, not "woo, persuade, entice", etc. It is the same word used for drawing a sword from a sheath, drawing fish with a net, etc. The meaning of the word is plain, it means to effectually do something, not "try to get a response". You don't "try" to persuade a sword to come out a sheath. You pull it.
I said clearly that predestination of sin is ONLY in the Old Testament (OT). The verse you have given are ALL in the Old Testament, except for Judas who was BEFORE the death and resurrection of Christ. There is nothing after that about predetermination of sin in the believer.
Sorry, I didn't think it was relevant WHERE in the Bible these truths come from, as God is always consistent and is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Also, you are simply incorrect. Acts 4:27-28 is in the New Testament...
By my post I was simply arguing the generic fact that God uses sin for His purposes.
As for sin in the believer we have drastically different views on this point. I believe even my own sin is ultimately decreed by God and was part of God's plan from eternity past. After all, I am part of the world, part of the universe, and God controls the whole universe and the whole world. He works all things according to the council of His will. I cannot even take a breath without his direct involvement. My heart is not beating on its own, but God is literally pumping my heart manually. He controls every atom in the entire universe. There is not a single rogue molecule in existence. In Him I live and move and have my being.
John Owen writes about sin in the believer and how God uses it as part of our sanctification. Sin and repentance have purposes. And they have lasting effects. I highly recommend the book "Overcoming sin and Temptation".
Anyways, thanks for the discussion. I hope I am being helpful, even if in a small way.