Dear A New Dawn,
Let me explain further my beliefs, and why I am against Calvinism...
I, and some Arminians believe: First it ALL starts with God. God gives us grace. He gives us grace as his Holy Spirit in conviction of sin. This happens to the whole world. God gives more grace to some people and less to others. It's all about a kind of tug of war, God pulling us (weakly, not full strength) to ourselves, and we either give in or fight his drawing of Himself to us. It ALWAYS starts with Him. In times of revival in the past such as under Jonathan Edwards or Charles Finney, that drawing from God was very very strong and hard to resist, however God never forced anyone. If a person is being prayed for day and night by a strong Christian, the force of God will be quite strong but never strong enough as to take over our wills completely. We must yield to Him ultimately. Remember the parable of the talents... some received more and increased it (their choice!, they increased the grace of God!), whereas the one who received little, did nothing (likewise their choice, even though they had little grace to go on, the voice of God drawing them was faint.) In fact the God could remove his voice to be so faint that hardly anyone would be saved at all, yet he would still hold us accountable for not responding to his grace. Suppose you had died in your sins, before the time God did His work in you? You would still have been accountable before God, because your formally rejected him. The same goes for myself and all of us! But God gave us more grace, more drawing of Himself, in His kindness, and we responded out of our own free-will. He did not make our final decision as well... Jesus does not condemn anyone because of sin any more as he came to save. However our rejection of Him will condemn us on the last day when we die (John 12:48) if we did not at some point accept Him.
This was the grace of God! I agree. Praise God!
God kept at you, kept on your case. But it was your final decision to respond. Remember the parable of the talents...
No, there is not, because it rules out the final response to God's grace that I testified to. We work together WITH God!...
Yes there is! God kept on your case, until you finally responded to His grace out of your own free-will... through faith in Him...