So if some of us never get married....

[trulyliving]

I just feel like all people there are single have a chance to get married. There is a lot of people on this planet, u no. I think there are a few choices for a soulmate, the one, and life partners out there.

Just have faith and don't give up!!!

Amen! But I just hope I don't have to wait too long.... at this point, I'm still too shy to post up my own pictures and more personal information on my homepage, but if I stick around too long, I'll probably end up posting my whole family album and my social security number, home address, phone number and everything.

 

[trulyliving]

Also.... if I'm still on CF, I'll probably try to visit everyone that's been on as long as I have.... oh no, why am I planning already???... no but if I become super rich, and I get married, I'll try to invite friends I've made on here to my wedding...

 

[penNpaper]

Amen! But I just hope I don't have to wait too long.... at this point, I'm still too shy to post up my own pictures and more personal information on my homepage, but if I stick around too long, I'll probably end up posting my whole family album and my social security number, home address, phone number and everything.

Awww there there

Well I'm shy too, it isn't nothing to be shame of either..

When it is the right time God gonna send ya the best man that will be beyond your timid imagination..

Regards,
Drew

 

[sampa]

This thread is interesting. In response to the OP, I'm not so sure I'd still be posting on here. For me it feels like a phase in my life. There's not many things I'm still doing within a 4-5 year time span. Except running, I've been doing that since I was 20 and plan to keep going till I'm 70.

Oooo - I already have an Ashton - well at least a virtual one - deliciousbass and I made a joke about it in one of the threads a while back - he's my Ashton and I'm his Demi...

I never thought about being a Demi as something to look forward to. I'm not so sure I want an Ashton. At my age I figure I'm a Cameron that's been with the Justins and want to move forward closer to my age.

]...........You never know prince charming might be around that corner..[/size]

Can any man see there this princess awaiting to be rescued? She is a precious gem, can anyone see this??

Regards,
Drew

And ChristianDrew's comment to D was very sweet. I actually wouldn't mind being called a princess, as I just don't feel like queen fits yet. Much of it is a mindset I guess.

Luther, I hope your feeling better about your age...I understand the ales of deteriorating health, I experienced it in college around 24-25 and wondered if it would continue and who would want me. The more you focus on the negative aspects Luther, the worse it will be for you. If you look at any senior person and see them glowing with a smile, you'll notice they appear so much younger than they are.

God bless all those living their lives for Christ as a Single (wether you want to be married or not). May everyone be able to use these years wisely and walk in the Lords will.

 

[ido]

Being single in your 30s, 40s...whatever age... is only as good/bad as you make it to be.

Age is a state of mind. If you feel old you'll act old. I know plenty of people with medical conditions or disabilities that don't let it slow them down.

I also truly believe that we need to embrace our singleness. We can't truly love someone else until we love ourselves. If we hate our singleness, we hate a part of ourself - and I've seen plenty of people on here voice the opinion that they're not worthy of being loved by another. If you think that way, you'll fulfill the prophecy of singleness. If you believe that you are worthy of being loved and have a lot of wonderful traits to contribute to a relationship, then you will find yourself in a relationship when God's timing calls for it.

If you feel negative and bitter, other people will perceive you that way and probably go out of their way to avoid you. If you feel positive and uplifted, people will be attracted to you like a butterfly to a light.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Being single in your 30s, 40s...whatever age... is only as good/bad as you make it to be.

Age is a state of mind. If you feel old you'll act old. I know plenty of people with medical conditions or disabilities that don't let it slow them down.

I also truly believe that we need to embrace our singleness. We can't truly love someone else until we love ourselves. If we hate our singleness, we hate a part of ourself - and I've seen plenty of people on here voice the opinion that they're not worthy of being loved by another. If you think that way, you'll fulfill the prophecy of singleness. If you believe that you are worthy of being loved and have a lot of wonderful traits to contribute to a relationship, then you will find yourself in a relationship when God's timing calls for it.

If you feel negative and bitter, other people will perceive you that way and probably go out of their way to avoid you. If you feel positive and uplifted, people will be attracted to you like a butterfly to a light.

 

[septemberskies]

I couldn't agree with your more FL

 

[Teufelhund]

Its like I pointed out earlier. 2 years ago I wasn't on seizure medication and my tremors didn't matter.

That and by the time you hit 30 you really arn't any longer in your prime. I definatly don't feel like I'm anything close to in my prime now.

I don't know I've seen 40 year old Master Sergeants run 18:00 minute 3-miles. So I wouldn't be so quick to believe that physical ability fades so swiftly.

 

[deliciousBass]

I don't know I've seen 40 year old Master Sergeants run 18:00 minute 3-miles. So I wouldn't be so quick to believe that physical ability fades so swiftly.

I know exactly what you're talking about.

 

[FlatpickingJD]

I have no idea what I'll be doing in the next week, let alone 5-10 years from now, so I can't answer whether I'll be posting here. However, I do know that my singleness has nothing to do with my age nor any physical problems I may have. My singleness is because . . wait for it . . I'M NOT MARRIED.

Get active in things you're interested in, step outside of yourself, focus on others and the world around you and develop a positive attitude and the world will look better to you and will respond differently to you.

I think flnativegrl has the right of it and I won't try to improve on her comments any. Please read her post again and think about it.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

Being single in your 30s, 40s...whatever age... is only as good/bad as you make it to be.

Age is a state of mind. If you feel old you'll act old. I know plenty of people with medical conditions or disabilities that don't let it slow them down.

I also truly believe that we need to embrace our singleness. We can't truly love someone else until we love ourselves. If we hate our singleness, we hate a part of ourself - and I've seen plenty of people on here voice the opinion that they're not worthy of being loved by another. If you think that way, you'll fulfill the prophecy of singleness. If you believe that you are worthy of being loved and have a lot of wonderful traits to contribute to a relationship, then you will find yourself in a relationship when God's timing calls for it.

If you feel negative and bitter, other people will perceive you that way and probably go out of their way to avoid you. If you feel positive and uplifted, people will be attracted to you like a butterfly to a light.

This thread is interesting. In response to the OP, I'm not so sure I'd still be posting on here. For me it feels like a phase in my life. There's not many things I'm still doing within a 4-5 year time span. Except running, I've been doing that since I was 20 and plan to keep going till I'm 70.

I never thought about being a Demi as something to look forward to. I'm not so sure I want an Ashton. At my age I figure I'm a Cameron that's been with the Justins and want to move forward closer to my age.


And ChristianDrew's comment to D was very sweet. I actually wouldn't mind being called a princess, as I just don't feel like queen fits yet. Much of it is a mindset I guess.

Luther, I hope your feeling better about your age...I understand the ales of deteriorating health, I experienced it in college around 24-25 and wondered if it would continue and who would want me. The more you focus on the negative aspects Luther, the worse it will be for you. If you look at any senior person and see them glowing with a smile, you'll notice they appear so much younger than they are.

God bless all those living their lives for Christ as a Single (wether you want to be married or not). May everyone be able to use these years wisely and walk in the Lords will.

and

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I've always said I'd probably on this forum, my gf and I, even after we get married and have kids. Now, I don't know. It used to be a new adventure/fight/etc every day. Now it's just boring and depressing.

 

[sampa]

I don't know I've seen 40 year old Master Sergeants run 18:00 minute 3-miles. So I wouldn't be so quick to believe that physical ability fades so swiftly.

I know exactly what you're talking about.

Teufelhund, yep, I know what you mean. When I was 18 and in basic training, the best recruits were the ones over 30. They definitely had faster times on the runs and were more serious about doing well. Even guys that had gotten a big gut and used to run well when they were younger, still passed me up.

Although I think what Luther was talking about is a bit of a different case, I've seen others work around their disabilities. Look at Joni Erickson Tada, she's parapaledgic (can't spell) and look how amazingly God has used her life. She navigated around her circumstances and put her focus on others, that's how she met her husband. She was boored in church, decided to pray for someone on the church, picked the back of someones head. Met the guy some months later, he asked her on a date and their married. God is using her, despite her weakness, amazingly to minister to others everywhere.

 

[trulyliving]

Awww there there

Well I'm shy too, it isn't nothing to be shame of either..

When it is the right time God gonna send ya the best man that will be beyond your timid imagination..

Regards,
Drew

Thanks, I do believe that too.

This thread is interesting. In response to the OP, I'm not so sure I'd still be posting on here. For me it feels like a phase in my life. There's not many things I'm still doing within a 4-5 year time span.

Same! Only my hobbies and true friends remain constant. When I started the thread, I was just half kidding, imagining myself with white hair logging on the forums at 6:30 in the morning drinking prune juice and was worried for a sec. It's kinda sad but funny.

Being single in your 30s, 40s...whatever age... is only as good/bad as you make it to be.

Age is a state of mind. If you feel old you'll act old. I know plenty of people with medical conditions or disabilities that don't let it slow them down.

I also truly believe that we need to embrace our singleness. We can't truly love someone else until we love ourselves. If we hate our singleness, we hate a part of ourself - and I've seen plenty of people on here voice the opinion that they're not worthy of being loved by another. If you think that way, you'll fulfill the prophecy of singleness. If you believe that you are worthy of being loved and have a lot of wonderful traits to contribute to a relationship, then you will find yourself in a relationship when God's timing calls for it.

If you feel negative and bitter, other people will perceive you that way and probably go out of their way to avoid you. If you feel positive and uplifted, people will be attracted to you like a butterfly to a light.

You get two AMENS for that!!

I have no idea what I'll be doing in the next week, let alone 5-10 years from now, so I can't answer whether I'll be posting here. However, I do know that my singleness has nothing to do with my age nor any physical problems I may have. My singleness is because . . wait for it . . I'M NOT MARRIED.

True dat!

Teufelhund, yep, I know what you mean. When I was 18 and in basic training, the best recruits were the ones over 30. They definitely had faster times on the runs and were more serious about doing well. Even guys that had gotten a big gut and used to run well when they were younger, still passed me up.

Although I think what Luther was talking about is a bit of a different case, I've seen others work around their disabilities. Look at Joni Erickson Tada, she's parapaledgic (can't spell) and look how amazingly God has used her life. She navigated around her circumstances and put her focus on others, that's how she met her husband. She was boored in church, decided to pray for someone on the church, picked the back of someones head. Met the guy some months later, he asked her on a date and their married. God is using her, despite her weakness, amazingly to minister to others everywhere.

Thanks for that reminder!! WALK BY FAITH NOT BY SIGHT!!!!!! Awesome testimony!!!!!

 

[Niels]

That and by the time you hit 30 you really arn't any longer in your prime. I definatly don't feel like I'm anything close to in my prime now.

Speak for yourself.



Anyway... if you're 25, you may as well be 30. There really aren't any noticeable differences between 25 year olds and 30 year olds. Imagine yourself as you are today, but the number below your name reads "30". That's it.

 

[deliciousBass]

Haha, although sometimes I get a little nervous about eventually hitting 30, I'm not nervous about the actual age as much as I am about what I hope to have accomplished in life by then. I have a lot of goals and I kinda want to be done with a lot of them by the time I hit 30!

The actual age is pretty sweet for a guy, I think. If I'm still at this job I'll be very well off financially. I think I will age well in the looks department too When I look to what will probably happen between now and then, I feel very stable and secure... especially financially hehe...

 

[ido]

Speaking as someone who will be 34 in January - 30 is not the catastrophe that some people seem to think it will be. I don't even think that 35 or 40 will be awful, either. I've never gotten overly worked up over hitting milestone birthdays. *shrugs*

Age is a number. I know some 30 year olds that act like their ancient and I know some 80 year olds that put some of us young'ens to shame.

 

[SonicBOOM]

do you think you'd (if you remain single) still be on this website/singles forum like 5, 10 or 20 or more yrs from now? (presuming it'll still be on and we all bond together over time or something...)

Discuss...





(but dude, I really hope I won't be going on this singles forum when I'm applying for my SSI/ senior card!)

lol!!!! I hope not!

 

[JonMiller]

Well, I want to live to be active in my children's life. That means that I would really prefer to have my children before I turn 40. Although as a male I am lucky in that respect, as I can likely have children afterwards, while women have a lot harder time having children after 40.

There is also the issue of accomplishment. I expected to have done more important stuff in my life by now. I expected to have a wife by now (maybe even children). All of this stuff matters as you get older, because who knows when you will die (and stop accomplishing anything)?

JM

 

[sampa]

Speaking as someone who will be 34 in January - 30 ............

Ohh, another January birthday, when's yours? Mines at the end of the month.