He's the pastor of a small church (about 100 members). He's kind, considerate, and caring. He cleans up after himself. He treats me with respect. He's a great father to his child. He's responsible and financially independent. What's not to love?
Apparently something since my parents despise him.
They don't think he's a Good Christian (yes, capitalized on purpose) because a) he's marrying an atheist (that would be me), b) he had a child out of wedlock (he was 18, cut him some slack, he's been nothing but an excellent father to his son and has had some tough shoes to fill since his son's mother left when the child was 2 months old and hasn't written or called since), c) he's a democrat (Jesus is apparently a Republican), d) he's too liberal, e) his church is Episcopalian (my parents seem to dislike every denomination except pentecostal/charismatic since only those denominations have "it," whatever "it" is - and the church members like me, which apparently if they were Good Christians they wouldn't since I'm an atheist), and f) he doesn't think that he's the man and therefore he's right about everything (my father acts like this). Oh, and they're convinced that we're sleeping together even though we aren't, and nothing I can say can persuade them otherwise, which makes them dislike him even more.
Oddly enough, they loved my ex-fiance, who treated me horribly and was both emotionally and physically abusive. Of course they don't know everything that happened with him, but they know that he wasn't such a great guy. At least he was a Republican and was a member of their church, I guess.
I don't want to cause any more strife in my already-troubled relationship with my parents (we've not seen eye to eye since my beliefs changed), but I love this man and he has been nothing but kind to my family and to me. My parents told me that they could not give their approval on our forthcoming marriage but it'd be nice if they could learn to accept him and his son in their lives. They loved him when he was just a friend so I don't understand why they don't like him all of the sudden.
I'm not asking for prayers (as my faith icon attests), but if anyone has any advice or has just been in a similar situation and can sympathize...give me some encouragement here. All of my life I've tried to meet my parents' abnormally high expectations and it's not very easy letting go of my attempts to live my life to please them.