SO Excited..

[cakes&buttercream]

I am totally excited!! My fiance and I are going to start TTC this week. *Praying for baby dust to come our way*

I am already on a prenatal pill, and watching what I eat, and moderately exercising. What else do I need to start working on?

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I HIGHLY recommend reading "taking charge of your fertility"

 

[FaithLoveHope9]

I second that!

 

[Lilium]

My husband and I have recently started TTC as well. I'm taking a pre-natal vitamin and stopped drinking but seemed to have stopped exercising too (I was running regularly, injured my leg a couple weeks ago and whilst it's better now I just haven't gone out for a run..*slaps wrist*).

I think I'll check out that book

 

[FaithLoveHope9]

LOL- I think I started gaining weight, exercising less as soon as we started TTC

 

[lovesdolphins]

I don't think there is any reason to stop exercising. If you are exercising hours a day then you may want to cut back - but no need to stop entirely.

As for TTC prior to marriage why? - Sex before marriage isn't right to begin with; but to ask for prayers for a child outside of marriage is sinful as well.

 

[Lilium]

I don't think there is any reason to stop exercising. If you are exercising hours a day then you may want to cut back - but no need to stop entirely.

I know there's no reason to stop and it's good to continue. I just have found that I've stopped lately through a combination of injury and being busy with other things (though also a bit of laziness factors in too ). For example, this week I haven't been able to due to travelling and now my old hip flexor injury is playing up again so it's looking like I may not be able to get out for that run I've been craving this weekend either!

 

[cakes&buttercream]

I HIGHLY recommend reading "taking charge of your fertility"

I have actually read the book. I have a medical degree too, so I uh.. understand reproduction and our bodies lol.

 

[cakes&buttercream]

I don't think there is any reason to stop exercising. If you are exercising hours a day then you may want to cut back - but no need to stop entirely.

As for TTC prior to marriage why? - Sex before marriage isn't right to begin with; but to ask for prayers for a child outside of marriage is sinful as well.

Well why do I want to TTC? Uh, well for the obvious reason. WE want a child. LOL. Why else do people TTC?
I didn't ask for anyone to preach to me. I don't believe sex is wrong or sinful whatsoever.
I think its a beautiful thing, inside or outside of marriage. ( as long as its in a committed relationship.)

 

[lovesdolphins]

Well why do I want to TTC? Uh, well for the obvious reason. WE want a child. LOL. Why else do people TTC?
I didn't ask for anyone to preach to me. I don't believe sex is wrong or sinful whatsoever.
I think its a beautiful thing, inside or outside of marriage. ( as long as its in a committed relationship.)

Well, this is a Christian site and the bible teaches that sex outside of marriage is wrong, apparently I thought Christians believed what the bible teaches.

 

[lovesdolphins]

I have actually read the book. I have a medical degree too, so I uh.. understand reproduction and our bodies lol.

I thought you were a pastry chef? (not saying you couldn't understand reproduction, I just didn't realize you had a medical degree too)

 

[cakes&buttercream]

I have several degrees. I graduated HS at the age of 14/15 . I say this because I technically graduated when I was 14, however a couple months later I received my diploma.( in that time I had turned 15.)
I have my:
1. RN .. started out as an MA liked it so much, went to nursing school.
2. Pastry Chef
3. Bridal Consultant, technically a "Certification" as well.
4. I own my own bridal, and cake shop too.
5. I have a BA in Business/ Finances and a double in Accounting and Business in Masters.
6. I do Medical Coding & transcription-- that technically is jut a Certification, even though they call it a "degree" lol. .. its only a two year instead of a four yr program.

And at the moment, I am here in MT helping run my Father's Corporations, hence why I am living in both states of GA and MT.
So yeah, I have multiple degrees, and have worked in many different fields.

 

[cakes&buttercream]

OH, and there is a valid reason why we aren't married. We aren't holding off, just because. We have some issues we have to address before taking that big leap. I thought we were going to get married next year sometime, but honestly, I don't foresee it happening before two years are up.
I need to have a baby while I am young, ... when i say young, before 25. Because I have some major things in life after that age I have to take care of... and having an infant during these times, is not feasable. So... due to not being able to get married, and wanting a child, we decided this is our best route to go with.

 

[lovesbrightpink]

not to be rude but if you have some issues to address with your fiance that you wont marry him then why would you have a child with him.

I think its a little odd to plan your child in such a way..

 

[cakes&buttercream]

its not those types of issues-relationship issues. Its basically life issues lol.. and things we have to take care of, and wrap things up etc etc. We want to be debt free when we get married. This is basically due to his position with the government. I can't get into details but because of the position he is going to be getting, he can't have a certain percentage of debt. Not to mention our credit, has to be .. well VERY high. I have ok credit. I mean it falls in the good category, but it isn't good enough for them (the government to take into consideration) Now, they also take into consideration my debt... so together, we couldnt hit the allowed percentage. So until we get free of debt I we can't marry because it will jeopardize his position ( he won't get it, or keep the job).. and that isn't something we are willing to do. Its a great position, money wise, it will be superior. And it has always been his dream because his daddy held the same position for years.

Not to mention, it is hard to plan a wedding ..especially the wedding we want boucning back and forth state to state like I am. So once again, no rushes to be married. It will happen, in time.

He is father material, and relationship wise we are pretty well off. I mean we have our dislikes and different opinions but we don't realy have "relationship issues".

SO mostly for financial reasons, we have decided to hold off.

But I guess I am wondering why everyone is wondering about my relationship status. I mean it really has nothing to do with TTC. And that is the topic that this thread is about.

 

[lovesbrightpink]

its a christian forum...thats why lol. Its very rare for a not married couple to try to have a child intentionally.

 

[Leanna]

I need to have a baby while I am young, ... when i say young, before 25. Because I have some major things in life after that age I have to take care of... and having an infant during these times, is not feasable. So... due to not being able to get married, and wanting a child, we decided this is our best route to go with.

I am concerned that you are looking at having a baby like a badge to add to your laundry list of things you have done. A child is a human being that is always in your life (ideally), you dont plan baby between one thing you want to do and another thing you want to do. Even if they are a bit older, that does not mean you can set them aside to take care of "major things in life." Gosh personally I can't imagine what could be more major than contributing to the start of a life and giving them the best start ever takes more than just money.

So I will beg you to reconsider, there is no hurry for a baby.

 

[cakes&buttercream]

Well you don't know anything about my life, except what I type here. I will continue to try to have a baby. It is quite wrong of you two to discourage me from having a family. I don't go around telling people what they should and shouldn't do on here. All I WAS ASKING IS IF ANYONE COULD TELL ME IF I NEEDED TO CHANGE ANYTHING , OR ADAPT NEW HEALTH HABITS SO MY PREGNANCY WENT SMOOTHLY. I DIDN'T ASK FOR PEOPLE TO DISCOURAGE ME FROM HAVING A FAMILY. Especially coming from a woman that is 28 and has three kids already. I am 23 and don't have one. So I don't see what your deal is here.
That's all I can say.
I hate seeing young kids with old parents that can't keep up with them, its just really sad. And I refuse to be one of them.

 

[lovesdolphins]

Well you don't know anything about my life, except what I type here. I will continue to try to have a baby. It is quite wrong of you two to discourage me from having a family. I don't go around telling people what they should and shouldn't do on here. All I WAS ASKING IS IF ANYONE COULD TELL ME IF I NEEDED TO CHANGE ANYTHING , OR ADAPT NEW HEALTH HABITS SO MY PREGNANCY WENT SMOOTHLY. I DIDN'T ASK FOR PEOPLE TO DISCOURAGE ME FROM HAVING A FAMILY. Especially coming from a woman that is 28 and has three kids already. I am 23 and don't have one. So I don't see what your deal is here.
That's all I can say.
I hate seeing young kids with old parents that can't keep up with them, its just really sad. And I refuse to be one of them.

Can you block people on this forum??? I mean heavens, I must be ancient as I'm 31 and haven't had a kid yet. If I don't get pregnant in the next month or so I'll be 32 before my child is born.

 

[cakes&buttercream]

Can you block people on this forum??? I mean heavens, I must be ancient as I'm 31 and haven't had a kid yet. If I don't get pregnant in the next month or so I'll be 32 before my child is born.

You aren't ancient. But I do have a family memeber that chose to get pregnant ( a few years older than you. ) And my now 3 year old cousin is really suffering because of it. I just feel so bad for him, he really doesn't get to have a normal childhood because of it. His mom doesn't have energy to play with him, even spend time with him because shes tired after a long day at work. He doesn't get disciplined in any form because its easier not too. Thats all I am refering to. I never called anyone old. If you want to have a child at 31/32 great. But is just isn't for me, thats all.