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Well I have no idea how old you are, and I am not making recommendations based on age just the mindset... the way you said you wanted to get it over with before doing some major things... I don't know, maybe this is more major than you are aware of at this point. I sure think its major. 
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Kids are major. I agree.Well I have no idea how old you are, and I am not making recommendations based on age just the mindset... the way you said you wanted to get it over with before doing some major things... I don't know, maybe this is more major than you are aware of at this point. I sure think its major.
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I am totally excited!! My fiance and I are going to start TTC this week. *Praying for baby dust to come our way*
I am already on a prenatal pill, and watching what I eat, and moderately exercising. What else do I need to start working on?
Deciding to start trying to conceive a child is certainly a grand journey to embark on. My advice about becoming a parent would be to prepare oneself on other levels besides the physical level - I'd suggest to prepare yourself spiritually, mentally and emotionally. We are human beings made up of much more than just our physical bodies; God created us with emotions, thoughts, and a soul. All parts of us should be prepared to become a parent.
In addition to those direct elements to embark on the journey towards parenthood, I'd suggest greatly to prepare financially. Children are NOT cheap, not by far. If you are in such large debt to cause you to hesitate to get married, having children will not decrease the amount of time you get out of debt. Instead, you will be less likely to get out of debt sooner, and therefore more likely to push off getting married as it will take longer to get out of your debt.
It is rare for a Christian couple to try to conceive a child out of wedlock, I will agree on that point. However, in our current anti-religion culture and a marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper mentality, it is actually quite common for couples who are not married to try to conceive a child. Mostly the norm around the area I was raised was have children first, get married later.
While an agile 21 year old will be able to "keep up" with her child, not all 21 year olds can or will do that. In addition, because one "older" person you know can't keep up, does not mean all "older" people can't keep up with children (logical fallacy: hasty generalization). "Keeping up" with young children is a matter of physical fitness. How fit and healthy a person is will determine how easily one can "keep up". Twenty one year olds generally have a faster metabolism and are able to keep fit easier than a 31 year old; which means that the 31 year old will have to work a bit harder in staying fit. If your family member who is older can't keep up, that is more likely a sign of physical inactivity, or lack of fitness more so than a sign of old age causing one to lack vivacity.
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do you plan on being baptised to your church when you turn 25? Is this why you are in such a rush to have a child?
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No, I just have some personal goals. I'm not really in a rush. But I do have a preference to have my first before I hit 25. Thats all. I mean It's looking like I am going to have to wait 7 years to marry my fiance... so I would prefer to start having my children now... rather waiting until i am past 30 to start.
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I hate to do this but "when I was your age" haha.... really, when I was 20, I thought having kids past 30 was old. Now I am 28 and I figure I may have kid(s) past 30 and I am not worried about it.
but "when I was your age" haha.... really, when I was 20, I thought having kids past 30 was old. Now I am 28 and I figure I may have kid(s) past 30 and I am not worried about it.
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CakeDiva, I think you will find this TTC forum full of women who are willing to give an HONEST answer when asked for advice, there is not a lot of sugar coating that goes on. Maybe this forum isn't a fit for you since you seem to be offended by the honesty of the answers you have been given. Also, many women have been posting here for a long time and I have found they are all very kind and supportive, even if they don't always agree with someone's point of view. I would personally rather get an honest answer than have someone blow sunshine up my bum!
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Oh I agree, however me being married is irrelevant to me TTC. In all truth, its really no ones business. But I will try not to get offended and just blow it off.
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Sorry this just made me laugh. What's the alternative? He posts her his sperm sample and artificially inseminating at will?
Didn't meant to de-rail.
Thecakediva - I wish you ALL the best and as a bit of a TTC-veteran (argh...) I am more than happy to offer you any advice/just be a sounding board. PM me at will
I still have this image in my head of a man air-mailing sperm to his partner....
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Didn't meant to de-rail.
Thecakediva - I wish you ALL the best and as a bit of a TTC-veteran (argh...) I am more than happy to offer you any advice/just be a sounding board. PM me at will
I still have this image in my head of a man air-mailing sperm to his partner....
Thanks for the kind words.
I will be PMin' you one of these days!
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