So Depressed..

[HolyOne87]

I was talking to this real nice guy(he is 21, going to be 22). He wanted me to go to his softball game today and go see a movie with him(now i dont know if he just wanted to see a movie as friends or go on a date). I kind of lied and said that I couldnt because I had stuff to do. I am so depressed now because I really like this guy..I am just really afraid and hesitant. I am afraid of getting hurt again. He hasnt really seen me up close. He goes to the same school as me. We kind of ran into each other on facebook.com, because we thought we had a class together this coming semester(which we dont..we are taking the same class, but at diff. times).
I mean, I would LOVE to go hang with him. It's just my "worriedness" getting in the way(basically my jitters).
I have no idea what to do. I am sure he will continue to ask me to hang with him..but what am I going to do? keep lying? I am so upset. I want to tell him the truth, but if I do, what if i mis-interpreted him? What if he only wanted to go out as friends? I am afraid to even ask him that.
I am so upset...any advice would be great...

 

[JDDCH]

Hi and

As a guy I can give you my opinion about what I'd whish the girl would do in this situation. It may or may not apply to that person since I'm a depressed person myself, but I'm still a guy so it might carry some weight. ... so here's my thoughts:

I'd prefer to have the girl be straight up front. If you're concerned about whether he's wanting to step up the friendship into a relationship, say something. " We're just friends, right? " Saying it early-on will save hurt feelings later on, relax tensions and make it easier to talk to you (still in my opinion) because I don't have to worry myself about whether you're trying to leap into a relationship either. I'd rather hear " I'm not looking for a relationship, I'm not ready to risk being hurt, let's just be friends." right up front.

It's just my opinion, not all that useful but it's a thought. I'll remember you in my prayers.

--jd.

 

[bfly]

I was talking to this real nice guy(he is 21, going to be 22). He wanted me to go to his softball game today and go see a movie with him(now i dont know if he just wanted to see a movie as friends or go on a date). I kind of lied and said that I couldnt because I had stuff to do. I am so depressed now because I really like this guy..I am just really afraid and hesitant. I am afraid of getting hurt again. He hasnt really seen me up close. He goes to the same school as me. We kind of ran into each other on facebook.com, because we thought we had a class together this coming semester(which we dont..we are taking the same class, but at diff. times).
I mean, I would LOVE to go hang with him. It's just my "worriedness" getting in the way(basically my jitters).
I have no idea what to do. I am sure he will continue to ask me to hang with him..but what am I going to do? keep lying? I am so upset. I want to tell him the truth, but if I do, what if i mis-interpreted him? What if he only wanted to go out as friends? I am afraid to even ask him that.
I am so upset...any advice would be great...

Well what is lying doing to help you. If you can't be honest with him now with no ties, how would you ever be honest with ties.(friends)

I can understand first time jitters, but you have to take the first step. You will be in public, around other people and you should be able to just be casual friends and see how thing develope.

Sounds like you enjoy his attention and he must like you or he would not invite you out.

All relationships start out as getting to know each other and then as time passes you will quickly learn if either of you have things in common.

Shouldn't take but once or twice being with him for you to figure out if he is a christian and if not would he considerate it. And just let things go from there.

You never know which one may be Mr. Right if you don't talk with him. God Bless you