Slump

[Doubledb]

Has anyone ever had a long slump in thier relationship with Christ? This past year i have felt so far from God. I guess its what St. John of the Cross would call "The DarkNight of the Soul". I was so close to God a year ago andhad a potentially awesome relationship with this girl. Then, who would have thought, she pulled the BEST FRIEND CARD (at least thats my name for it). She said she didnt feel the same towards me, that she wasnt intrested in going out with me. Of course we are bnot friends anymore. Whenever she sees me she says "hi", like eveythings ok, but we never talk. I got tired of her never calling me or always being to busy, even goign out with nummerous guys within the past year. I prayed to God and really thought she was for me. Which started my confusion. How does one know if they are hearing themselves or the Holy Spirit? Anyways, since then ive gotten deeper and deeper in a spiritual rut. Im in college and my roomates have girlfriends, so that makes me feel extremly lonely somtimes (especially when im the single guy and joked about). Ive even begun to look at things on the internet...lustful images and they dont fill the emptiness. They only fill an urge for a second but then im left the same. I know Christ should be my all, but i feel so distant from Him. Im trying to go back to God, to hear his voice, but its hard when you feel like hes gone. Do any of you ever feel like your life is lacking purpose? That you are so far from where God wants you? I mean im a guy and all but sometimes my sin makes me want to cry. I never would have thought tjhat i could have fallen so far becuase i was so close to God. I guess it just proves that we are not all perfect and need to constantly persue and run after Christ more than anything, more than anyone else.

 

[Lilly of the Valley]

I kind of understand. I think you should be sure to stay repentant. Also, the Lord hasn't left you, even though you feel He has. He loves you sooo much. Be sure to keep up your prayer life and read the Bible. Also, you can tell the Lord exactly how you feel. Cry out to Him and repent. The Lord can then renew your walk with Him.

 

[Doubledb]

I kind of understand. I think you should be sure to stay repentant. Also, the Lord hasn't left you, even though you feel He has. He loves you sooo much. Be sure to keep up your prayer life and read the Bible. Also, you can tell the Lord exactly how you feel. Cry out to Him and repent. The Lord can then renew your walk with Him.

Thanks Lilly. Thats is what i have been trying to do. I used to do it so much but little by little i stopped somewhere along the last year. I suppose i could blame it all on Satan but i cant help acknowledge my own sinful flesh as well. I truly do long for the day that this sinful flesh will be done away with and we will see Christ as he is and we will be who we trully are, his children. I guess im int he depressed or spiritual rut part of mm journey right now. Thanks again....later

 

[fishstix]

Has anyone ever had a long slump in thier relationship with Christ? This past year i have felt so far from God. I guess its what St. John of the Cross would call "The DarkNight of the Soul". I was so close to God a year ago andhad a potentially awesome relationship with this girl. Then, who would have thought, she pulled the BEST FRIEND CARD (at least thats my name for it). She said she didnt feel the same towards me, that she wasnt intrested in going out with me. Of course we are bnot friends anymore. Whenever she sees me she says "hi", like eveythings ok, but we never talk. I got tired of her never calling me or always being to busy, even goign out with nummerous guys within the past year. I prayed to God and really thought she was for me. Which started my confusion. How does one know if they are hearing themselves or the Holy Spirit? Anyways, since then ive gotten deeper and deeper in a spiritual rut. Im in college and my roomates have girlfriends, so that makes me feel extremly lonely somtimes (especially when im the single guy and joked about). Ive even begun to look at things on the internet...lustful images and they dont fill the emptiness. They only fill an urge for a second but then im left the same. I know Christ should be my all, but i feel so distant from Him. Im trying to go back to God, to hear his voice, but its hard when you feel like hes gone. Do any of you ever feel like your life is lacking purpose? That you are so far from where God wants you? I mean im a guy and all but sometimes my sin makes me want to cry. I never would have thought tjhat i could have fallen so far becuase i was so close to God. I guess it just proves that we are not all perfect and need to constantly persue and run after Christ more than anything, more than anyone else.

Yeah, I've been in a slump before. Actually, I think I still am... I'm not totally sure just how to get out of it. However I have discovered that it's ok to cry; especially if you're alone with God. Jesus cried; so why should any of us be ashamed to? So if you feel the need to cry sometime, go ahead. God won't think any less of you for it.

 

[Doubledb]

yeah i know, im ok with it too at times. i was just expressing how painful it can be inside to sin and be or feel far from God as well.

 

[Shaun G]

I totaly under stand. i started with my reply for you and it was about my story witch took me about an hour to do and then the computer spazzed. i will redo it. and i hope it helps sorry for the delay. but i am going through the same thing

 

[Doubledb]

I totaly under stand. i started with my reply for you and it was about my story witch took me about an hour to do and then the computer spazzed. i will redo it. and i hope it helps sorry for the delay. but i am going through the same thing

Cool. Id be intrested to hear your story. Just send it too me or post it.

 

[PennylessZ28]

I've been going through the same thing.

I always thought I was a christian, but never had that close relationship. Last summer, I meet a girl who changed that and helped me with my walk with Christ.

I thought she was the one, but then suddenly our relationship went sour and it was over. Since then I realized that the person I was suppose to be with right now was someone who has been here the whole time.

Me and her are close. But, she isn't at the same spirtual level the girl I dated before was at.

And I feel like I've been drifting from God ever since me and her broke up. Almost like I used her as a spirtual crutch.

for a short time I could really feel God's presence, I mean really feel it. Now... I don't.

I do the same kind of things, I find things on the internet, feels good at the moment, but afterwards it's the same. One night stands, and you're still alone afterwards.

Sometimes though God will draw himself away to test your faith. Know though that he is always with you. He might just not want you to know it.

I know excatly how you feel about being alone, I can't stand it. I used to put myself into a lot of sinnful ways, becuase I couldn't go without a girl longer than a week.

Stay strong, pray more.

 

[Doubledb]

Agreed!!!

 

[Shaun G]

ok let me try this again. like i said earlier im in the same boat in a way, my story may be long but is needed to be said this will be the first time that i talk about it. what better people to share my story with. i dont really have any christian friends close to me so i can talk to. i just joined the forum this morning about four am (yeah no sleep for me)and its just what i need. im happy that i was led to this site.

Hi my name is Shaun my (girlfriend) is Jen we have been together for a long time now. ive allways been in long term relationships for the most part. but jen is great. she is crazy about me and i feel the same. We wanted to find a church close to the two of us. (we live 40 min. appart) and we did, the church its great the body of the church took us right in. I started to go to bible class that was nice too. it was like a new big family, they loved Jen and I and they thought we were great for eachother. I agree, we thought so to.

we are so much in love, we talked about getting married and i think the body of the church was waiting for it to happen. bible class seemes to be getting dull its not filling the gap that i want it to so i think youth worship is a good idea. WOW i stayed with the youth group and tons of movement I getting reved more and more for god. Jen cant go to the youth worship because she works third shift, i told her all about it and her work issue started to changed and she was able to go. umm,,,, now my work issue started to change and,,,,, i stopped going. sunday service is not really filling my cup. now youth group is now seldom..?????

well I allways get little joking comments about when are Jen And I going to set a date
now and then. no harm intended, but now it seems like its a little pressuring comming from high members of the church. im scared. should I do it now? could i loose her to someone else? wait.. i cant here what god whants me to do. HELP!!!!

We are talking about finding a new church for sunday mornings only. we dont seem to be getting fed correctly through the messages.

we cantfind any outher churches yet, allways a delay of some sort. it seems like Jen and I are nip picking at each outher, seems like we are more worried about the speck in each outhers eye rather than dealing with the plank in ours. well summer camp is on its way. then i will have my one on one with God

I love summer camp it awesome I wish i was like these kids when i was at that age. so open for God free to the spirit. I get to see all my co'counslers. also a big help to me is one week of uninterrupted worship for GOD!!!!

well maybe camp didnt get off to a good start Jen and I got into a fight befor we left the parkinglot at church. I decided no matter what happends this can not affect my week at camp, I prayed to god to handle it because i can't, not when im on my way to camp. i didnt need a personal thing to happen there. im there for the kids and most of all God.

Camp didnt start off good nor did it stay good. I told the enemy he had no chance none at all. well the enemy didnt like that one bit. i was under severe atack and it was comming from the one persone it could hurt the most,,, Jen...... we split up at camp.

Why?? what do i do????? I was allways tought to just give it to God when you cant handle it or just dont know what to do. well its the only thing i can do right now.. and it was taking care of it, i joke you not the pain was gone and the only thing i could think of is what i was there to do.. P.S. i had the best small group there ever my kids were falling for Christ all over again.

Jen wanted to try to talk to me and would you know things were working out. Im happy I feel so good to spend years with her and we can work things out. i think it helps when you stand as you are nofaults no nothing, just the will to work through it. so we are not really "going back out" but we are changing somethings in this relationship

this is the girl that i want to spend the rest of my life with. we have hard times yes but when we meet right there in the middle,, I fall in love all over again,, every time.

now back to church trying to find a new one is not easy dont know why the pastor that puts on the camp has a church but its far from me. i still would like to try it.

its fall time now and still looking for a job too, i lost it just before summer camp. that kinda stunk to loose your job that you were happy with for the longest time until the last bit of it and then your girl. Thats a big DOH...

spiritual growth is feeling like its on hold, not being fed, suffering. and now the enemy has another foothold and working agenst us again. more effort in trying to be more understanding to her. jet another rocky road. but things feel like we can pull through. thats why Im going to ask here "back out" again this weekend when i see her.

feels like Jen is pushing me away.?????? give it time, give it time, i thought. it was that weekend we were spending time together. felt like Jen didnt care about me at all. so bad to the point I stood up and said I cant deal with this anymore and I left her

this all ended last fall ,i was with her for allmost four years. ive seen her no more than five times scence, and it was the worst thing. to see someone you loved so much and now act totaly diffrent with outher. i once enjoy the silence we shared with each other just to be able to enjoy one anouther without words.

I truely feel and belive it will be verry hard for me to feel that kind of love we had and to love like i did.

now the silence is what i dreed the most

Im now trying to get back on track. this past sunday i went to a new church and i will be going back. I found that after i split with Jen I carried faith in Christ to help me deal with the pain, but at no fault but mine i didnt seek out a new church i tryed the one we went to but that is too hard to deal with i went there maybe three times and i know i dont remember anything about the service because i did nothing but fight back my emotions. when i left in my car thats anouther story... LOL

seriously give all things to Christ when you need help even when you dont think you do it may help. I did and all i did is give him my problem and forgot to thank him all the way for it and now i have a long road back,,

Thank You for your time i hope that my story didnt give any one whiplash from falling asleep through it. like i said this is the first time ive talked about it

 

[PennylessZ28]

ok let me try this again. like i said earlier im in the same boat in a way, my story may be long but is needed to be said this will be the first time that i talk about it. what better people to share my story with. i dont really have any christian friends close to me so i can talk to. i just joined the forum this morning about four am (yeah no sleep for me)and its just what i need. im happy that i was led to this site.

Hi my name is Shaun my (girlfriend) is Jen we have been together for a long time now. ive allways been in long term relationships for the most part. but jen is great. she is crazy about me and i feel the same. We wanted to find a church close to the two of us. (we live 40 min. appart) and we did, the church its great the body of the church took us right in. I started to go to bible class that was nice too. it was like a new big family, they loved Jen and I and they thought we were great for eachother. I agree, we thought so to.

we are so much in love, we talked about getting married and i think the body of the church was waiting for it to happen. bible class seemes to be getting dull its not filling the gap that i want it to so i think youth worship is a good idea. WOW i stayed with the youth group and tons of movement I getting reved more and more for god. Jen cant go to the youth worship because she works third shift, i told her all about it and her work issue started to changed and she was able to go. umm,,,, now my work issue started to change and,,,,, i stopped going. sunday service is not really filling my cup. now youth group is now seldom..?????

well I allways get little joking comments about when are Jen And I going to set a date
now and then. no harm intended, but now it seems like its a little pressuring comming from high members of the church. im scared. should I do it now? could i loose her to someone else? wait.. i cant here what god whants me to do. HELP!!!!

We are talking about finding a new church for sunday mornings only. we dont seem to be getting fed correctly through the messages.

we cantfind any outher churches yet, allways a delay of some sort. it seems like Jen and I are nip picking at each outher, seems like we are more worried about the speck in each outhers eye rather than dealing with the plank in ours. well summer camp is on its way. then i will have my one on one with God

I love summer camp it awesome I wish i was like these kids when i was at that age. so open for God free to the spirit. I get to see all my co'counslers. also a big help to me is one week of uninterrupted worship for GOD!!!!

well maybe camp didnt get off to a good start Jen and I got into a fight befor we left the parkinglot at church. I decided no matter what happends this can not affect my week at camp, I prayed to god to handle it because i can't, not when im on my way to camp. i didnt need a personal thing to happen there. im there for the kids and most of all God.

Camp didnt start off good nor did it stay good. I told the enemy he had no chance none at all. well the enemy didnt like that one bit. i was under severe atack and it was comming from the one persone it could hurt the most,,, Jen...... we split up at camp.

Why?? what do i do????? I was allways tought to just give it to God when you cant handle it or just dont know what to do. well its the only thing i can do right now.. and it was taking care of it, i joke you not the pain was gone and the only thing i could think of is what i was there to do.. P.S. i had the best small group there ever my kids were falling for Christ all over again.

Jen wanted to try to talk to me and would you know things were working out. Im happy I feel so good to spend years with her and we can work things out. i think it helps when you stand as you are nofaults no nothing, just the will to work through it. so we are not really "going back out" but we are changing somethings in this relationship

this is the girl that i want to spend the rest of my life with. we have hard times yes but when we meet right there in the middle,, I fall in love all over again,, every time.

now back to church trying to find a new one is not easy dont know why the pastor that puts on the camp has a church but its far from me. i still would like to try it.

its fall time now and still looking for a job too, i lost it just before summer camp. that kinda stunk to loose your job that you were happy with for the longest time until the last bit of it and then your girl. Thats a big DOH...

spiritual growth is feeling like its on hold, not being fed, suffering. and now the enemy has another foothold and working agenst us again. more effort in trying to be more understanding to her. jet another rocky road. but things feel like we can pull through. thats why Im going to ask here "back out" again this weekend when i see her.

feels like Jen is pushing me away.?????? give it time, give it time, i thought. it was that weekend we were spending time together. felt like Jen didnt care about me at all. so bad to the point I stood up and said I cant deal with this anymore and I left her

this all ended last fall ,i was with her for allmost four years. ive seen her no more than five times scence, and it was the worst thing. to see someone you loved so much and now act totaly diffrent with outher. i once enjoy the silence we shared with each other just to be able to enjoy one anouther without words.

I truely feel and belive it will be verry hard for me to feel that kind of love we had and to love like i did.

now the silence is what i dreed the most

Im now trying to get back on track. this past sunday i went to a new church and i will be going back. I found that after i split with Jen I carried faith in Christ to help me deal with the pain, but at no fault but mine i didnt seek out a new church i tryed the one we went to but that is too hard to deal with i went there maybe three times and i know i dont remember anything about the service because i did nothing but fight back my emotions. when i left in my car thats anouther story... LOL

seriously give all things to Christ when you need help even when you dont think you do it may help. I did and all i did is give him my problem and forgot to thank him all the way for it and now i have a long road back,,

Thank You for your time i hope that my story didnt give any one whiplash from falling asleep through it. like i said this is the first time ive talked about it

I used to be engaged. I don't talk about it much either, I cut my wrists over here, and in all seriousness, I have been in love a few more times, but I haven't found that kind of love again.

I know our speration was really for the best, specially for my relationship with christ.

But I really want to be with someone I can be that close with again, ya know.

God will provide that for you. Says so in the bible.

Just have faith.

 

[Shaun G]

thanks man.
thats one of the things i had or have a hard time with, is why???
we love each outher that much and it seems like we cant be togeather.
it can bug me because i never felt that there was no reason for us to meet, allways felt like there is something more to it. I may never know

yeah from what i here she is like still in the same boat as me

 

[Doubledb]

Thank You for your time i hope that my story didnt give any one whiplash from falling asleep through it. like i said this is the first time ive talked about it

Not it was cool- I didnt fall asleep at all. Im a long-winded writer as well so i completly undertsand. Sounds like you had it a lot worse than i did man, but there is no doubt that life really does have some pains. And we all are in this thing together, thats probably something we often forget. As Christians we are the Body of Christ and need eachother. Hope things keep getting better for u. im doing a bit better myself the last few says