that is what i think, but you need to decide for yourself whether it is tempting for YOU...if you can sleep with your girlfriend w/out sex, and you know that it is the comfort of her presense you like, then it is ok for you...maybe not for someone else...it would depend on the persondistancerunner said:
you say that there is almost no way you can be that close to someone and not get aroused, but i don't believe that...how many married couples hold each other at night and don't even think about sex...there is nothing wrong w/ it if they aren't thinking sexual...msjones21 said:
I'm back to my original question. Do you take a nap with your boyfriend or girlfriend just because you are tired? Or is it an excuse to be pressed up against your partner? It's also the mental process behind making the choice to "sleep" with your partner. Also, without trying to get too personal...when I was married, my husband and I couldn't cuddle up against one another without one of us getting aroused. It didn't always lead to sex, but it was always exciting.
i don't have a boyfriend, but if i did, it woudn't be because i want to be "pressed up against him" in the context you are implying, it would be because I love him and want to be close to him and it is warm and comforting, not much different then cuddling with my child, just a different type of love...and that is you, that can't keep from being aroused, not everyone else...there is somewhere in the bible that says somethings are sins for some people and not for others...i wish i knew where it was, i know it is in the nt, but i will search for it and post it later.msjones21 said:
Yeah, I know the verse you are referring to, but I'm not exactly sure which one it is. And you're right, there may be something that is a sin to one person but not a sin to another person, but we're also to hold one another accountable. The Bible also says that it may not be a sin to you but if it causes your brother to stumble not to do it. Being a Christian isn't about doing whatever you please so long as you don't feel it is sinful. Just because the Bible isn't crystal clear on an issue doesn't give one free reign to engage in those activities. We must not be self-seeking, rather ever mindful of what our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ are seeing us do and also the seekers who may be looking to us for a godly example. We may be the only form of God some people see so it's important we don't just indulge in whatever feels right.
You are right there, he shouldn't sleep with the girl, if it causes her to think of sin...msjones21 said:Yeah, I know the verse you are referring to, but I'm not exactly sure which one it is. And you're right, there may be something that is a sin to one person but not a sin to another person, but we're also to hold one another accountable. The Bible also says that it may not be a sin to you but if it causes your brother to stumble not to do it. Being a Christian isn't about doing whatever you please so long as you don't feel it is sinful. Just because the Bible isn't crystal clear on an issue doesn't give one free reign to engage in those activities. We must not be self-seeking, rather ever mindful of what our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ are seeing us do and also the seekers who may be looking to us for a godly example. We may be the only form of God some people see so it's important we don't just indulge in whatever feels right.
Whew, now that I've rambled...I should mention I'm not stating that sleeping together is sinful and that is the end all, be all to the thread. I am only stating my opinion, which the OP asked for.
To an extent that is accurate. As Christians we also have to keep our Christian witness in check. Let's say you and a few other fellow Christians went out to a bar on a Friday night. Let's say you have someone in your group who is still a new Christian and the rest of you are strong in your walk and the rest of you drinking makes that person feel uncomfortable. Or you run into someone you've been witnessing to at the bar and they walk away thinking "Well I thought Sally Sue was a Christian. Boy, sure could have fooled me watching her knock back a couple of beers with her friends".
I do some of my best witnessing at bars. I think its a better witness to meet sinners on their turf. But if you cant go into a bar without getting drunk then you shouldnt do it. It's kinda like taking a nap with someone. If you cant do it without getting all hot and bothered you shouldnt do it. But some of us can so we do. What works for me might not work for you.msjones21 said:
you must have only read the first three sentences of my post. Cuzz the last four were on the OP.Clay said:
(gotta love my mum)
Drinking isn't sinful. Drinking in excess, gluttony, is sinfulsecretdawn said:
with how i am i wouldn't doubt people think i am drunk all the time...i can be pretty silly...lol...i think that is true to a point, appearences of evil are bad, but sometimes you can't bother worrying about it cause there is always someone who will think you are being "evil" or whatever...beagleracing said:Drinking isn't sinful. Drinking in excess, gluttony, is sinful
just be careful not to give the impression that you're possibly drunk. even if you're not, it can be seen as such! (and appearance of evil is another form of evil)
dp
this is true. not all people are the same. regardless of what you do they'll always have an image in their mind. you can only do your part!secretdawn said:
