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Hi!
EC said some of it; I would add a little.
But first, when people disagree, it takes a lot of words to wade through differences, misunderstandings, and nuances. I could write a really short post, for example:
”You’re a decent person who is mistaken about some things.”
That would be short, but would clarify nothing and get us nowhere in understanding each other. I just had an old friend accuse me of empty verbosity, and that is the only alternative I have. It takes words, and a thoughtful desire to understand and find common ground with those we disagree with. I read every word you say carefully, and think about it. I do not dismiss your ideas.
First of all, common ground: I think you are VERY right about pornography. It DOES warp our thinking, and as Steve Robinson eptly put it, teaches us to see man as meat, to see others as for our use and pleasure.
But I think the way you put the words “it is only due to her speaking in support of Ukraine…” that frames the issue wrongly. As Lukaris and EC pointed out, it is not support for the Ukrainian nation, but support for a schismatic local Church that is the issue. No one Patriarch can, in opposition to the consensus (clear majority) of the other Patriarchs, legitimately make a schismatic group canonical, as Patriarch Bartholomew has tried to do, unilaterally. He did not get the support of the Church worldwide. That means that the Church created in Ukraine remains schismatic, and that, plus disobedience, choosing to be a loose cannon and not complete monastic vows, are what rightly drew the laicization.
Your comments on women are a bit more confusing, as my experience and understanding point to a shortage more of men than of women in the Orthodox Church on the while (though certainly there may be specific localities where the opposite is true.
As to ”saying things that are pro-women”, I don’t know where this is coming from. We have the Theotokos, who is literally the greatest human who is not actually God, who we hold in highest honor in the Church. What exactly is “anti-woman” in the Church? What do you mean by “toxic”? That is a word nobody used in such a context even twenty years ago; it is a term of the modern world that is deliberately vague, meant to paint what one does not like negatively without specifying what exactly is “toxic”.
I have no idea where the young men you describe are. At any rate, I would probably agree that the ideas of some of the so-called “Orthobros” are excessive, and go off in odd and wrong directions, but I also think that many of those who disagree with them are going off in OPPOSITE odd and wrong directions. That’s what the devil loves to do to us, to get us, in fear of some evil, to run off to its opposite extreme.
A neo-Nazi is someone who literally believes that the Nazi Party of Germany and its famous leader were good. I don’t see any such people in the Church anywhere. Nor have I ever met a single Orthodox Christian who EVER suggested or thought that women are not true humans. Or who actually believes that the earth is flat. Misogyny means the actual hatred of women as such, which is a mark of complete insanity, and all of these labels are now being broadly, and wrongly applied to people. An actual misogynist is NOT a person who think that men and women have some God-given roles by their sex that are not interchangeable. A Nazi is NOT the same as a person who thinks national borders should be respected; and, not that you think so, but just for example, a person who is indignant at Russia’s invasion of Ukraine but not of the invasion of millions of immigrants (who did not migrate legally) across the US southern border, is guilty of cognitive dissonance. It is inconsistent application of the idea that borders should be respected.
In short, I think (perhaps mistakenly) you are trying to describe people you HAVE met, but are doing so quite wrongly. I may be wrong about that. But it is what I suspect from your words. I suspect you HAVE met people who think a traditional wife and homemaker is a good thing, or that it is good that women cover their heads in Church, whereas men should take off their hats, and perhaps see that as “misogynistic”. If I am wrong, I'd really appreciate better clarity on what exactly you mean by the words “toxic” (which actually means “physically poisonous”. I know people are using the word in a VERY un-Orthodox way. The Orthodox view is better described by saying that I need to recognize that I myself am ”toxic” and others as better than myself, whereas the modern usage teaches us to think the opposite, to elevate ourselves while demeaning those that we do not like, which is totally NOT what the Gospel and Church Tradition teach us.
Again, I am open to correction on anything I am mistaken about concerning what you actually think.