Single guys not interested in single moms.

[GQ Chris]

You're lucky jpc, I'd love to have my kid full time.

 

[jpcedotal]

You're lucky jpc, I'd love to have my kid full time.

Yes I am. And their Mom isn't that bad. My kids get to see her a lot. I don't want them to grow up thinking I kept them from their mom....so I let her keep them every other week as long as she acts right.

 

[trentlogain2]

is that a boston terrier in your picture? a boston was my first dog. they are adorable little things.

 

[overit]

is that a boston terrier in your picture? a boston was my first dog. they are adorable little things.

Yes-indeed she is adorable!!! She's grown since though. Best dog...they tend to be a little hyper especially when people first come to the house-but otherwise great dogs

 

[Inkachu]

Whew...feel better after repping

 

[CrusaderKing]

The problem with the whole "if we're going to have a relationship you have to think of my kids just like they were yours" is:

1.It's unrealistic: your own flesh and blood is always different than someone elses. These biological attachments are a deep seated part of the human pysche that predate history itself.
2.Can be seen by the children as an attempt to replace their real parent, and will probably be rejected.

So I'm just saying recongize your new adult relationship as being your relationship. Yes, it's going to effect the children, but there's no need to force any degree of relationship on them they don't want beyond the general respect they should have for all people. If something deeper develops on its own, then great. If not, well it's a handy lesson that in life sometimes we have to deal with situations and people we may not like. But you can't grab the kids and say "hey, I'm marrying this guy and he's your new dad" and really believe they're going to just go with it. I'd even say trying that approach ensures failure because it inspires the kids to defy you for the sake of it.

Well, my biological father isn't exactly the best person in the world and I don't have much of a relationship with him. I wanted to when I was younger, but that passed as I became a teenager. My stepfather was there for me and he was a major influence on my development, more so than my own mother. My father and I were in a major dispute at my grandfather's 80th birthday party for reasons I won't get into. We've reconciled since then, but I describe my relationship with him as polite.

I certainly realize not all biological fathers are that way. I've seen plenty of men be great dads in married and single parent households. I've seen horrible biological mothers and good biological mothers. No parenting situation is perfect, but it really requires a lot of effort to make an attempt to raise your children and educate them on the basics in life. My stepfather and mother were able to do these things, but my father is still incapable of that even with his other children.