I want to add some tips to help you if you want to search for a woman, or even if there are women on here who want to find a man to date.
First, I have helped several friends find women to date. In almost every case they married the woman that I helped set them up with. So Christians should help other Christians find someone to date, this helps a lot and also gives the other person more of a comfortable feeling knowing that there are others willing to help when they have no clue where to look. Help each other out in your Church or just with your Christian every day friends. Even ask a Pastor to help if you need some help in asking someone out if you are that shy, even for him to put a word in the other persons ear you are interested.
Finding people to date within your Church. Again, use the above or just start a conversation with the person and then ask if they have a girlfriend (or boyfriend if you are a girl) and this sets up the idea you are looking and are interested and single. Then of course you still have to say I would love to do that sport with you sometime or go to that event sometime with you or give KEY indications you would like to share something of common interest with that person to get to know them more. Ask for numbers if you want.
For small Churches there are less single people in them. So on a Sunday you might want to check out another Church of your denomination in another area or different town even. Get out there and seek to find Christian dates which you can at least get to know and see if they fit your personality.
Looks: No matter what the other person looks like they have a soul and are beautiful inside as well. If you want some sort of physical attraction, then that is up to you, but that is all your choice of what you want to look for. Granted, the most obvious is the prettiest looking people will have many people ask them out, even have been misled more than those who are average looking. Never pass up a chance to get to know someone even if they are disfigured from a car accident. They may be the most loyal and honest date you may find and great to share your life with, because there are many shallow people out there who just go for looks, but what happens when the other gets into a car accident and gets their face scared up? Will the other leave because the other is not so pretty anymore? It is about finding someone to share your life with that will stand by your side every day till you leave this world or they leave this world and go to Jesus. To add, women will always gain weight and not be skinny or pretty all the time. They will have children and their bodies will change, so only going after a pretty girl is just shallow since she will only be looking like a super model for a short time since her body will change and she will have children and you must understand these things.
Don't change your looks for anyone. People go on massive diets or just buy new stylish clothing and or buy a new car to impress or please the other person. Don't do this. If they Like you for who you are, then you never have to be fake and just be yourself. Being a fake or being someone you are not will only make yourself miserable. Be yourself.
Rejection: Nobody likes to be rejected, but it is part of life and don't let it depress you. If you ask a woman out and she says no because she has a different opinion, she may be shallow, she may be into other things you probably would not like, she may be interested in someone else, she may have her reasons, but don't get upset about it. Go on and ask another woman out.
The same with women being rejected. Don't worry and don't get depressed, sure you will feel sad for the short few minutes, but remember the man may be shallow, he may be interested in someone else or he may just have his own reasons which even you have your reasons for turning down other men. Respect that and look for another to find interest in.
In all, try to stick with dating someone of the same Faith. The denomination really isn't that important unless you find it is way off base from your denomination and you fear what may happen in the future when you two have to make decisions about which Church to attend or which place to get married in. Things to just think about. If you find you Love someone of a different denomination and you are willing to make it work, then go for it. There are many who happily married that have different denominations. Even Christians have married Muslims, which sometimes turns out good, other times really bad. How much of a risk do you want to take? I always try and say at least stick with someone that is Christian, but if it happens to be Love with someone else who is even Buddhist or Muslim, then Love will find a way.
The Danger Zone: Trying to date someone who is a drug addict, a prostitute, a player, an alcoholic, or an atheist is only going to make your life miserable. You cannot save those people, they can only find their own way by making their own choices. Yes, some of them may be awesome people with good hearts who can be funny at times, but getting sucked into one of those relationships is only going to leave you with misery sooner than later. What you can do is just put the word of God in their ear, hand them a Bible and offer Biblical or Christian support and leave it at that. Pray for them or with them if need be, but know they have chosen their path and you cannot save them, only Jesus can save them and those choices are theirs to make if they want to find Jesus or not. I have seen some women who date drug addicts or even alcoholics and think they can change the man, or the man thinks he can change the woman, but it always ends up in a huge disaster. They will tell you, if they want to be saved they will find Jesus or go to Church, but they like living that way and do not want to change since they are addicted to their sinful lives. They will only try and lead you into their sinful ways and take you down with them.
However, if they are a recovered addict or alcoholic, then they are Christian and are living good lives, then of course you can give them a chance. That choice is yours. All choices in life are. Just giving tips from knowing all these different situations from others and knowing what they went through. So if you like them, offer advice and help, but only date them when they have recovered (it takes 6 months minimum to get the junk out of their system) and they have become Christian then that choice is yours for the next step. (It may take years for this whole process to change their lives and be free of their addiction, so don't be misled.)
Also, when you go out, you never know who will become your best friend who who will just amaze you with their loyalty and Love for Jesus. Ask questions, get to know them, go to events with them, go to Church with them (at your Church or theirs if you want to see what it is like) and build up that friendship with Trust and see where it goes.
Don't expect the very first date to be "the One" for each has their own choices in life to make and they will make theirs and you will make yours. It is not a God intervention thing, it is all choices that we make.
And Last, don't abuse your friendship. Don't take advantage of the other in any way, not even ask for money. By the Biblical way, the man should always pay for everything, it just shows the man is capable of taking care of the woman even on a date. Don't make her pay for anything, if she offers that is fine, but don't expect her to pay for any meals or movies on a date. Just this shows respect, that you are willing to take care of her and if you are broke at times then find things you two can still do together that doesn't cost anything like going to a park, beach or take a nature walk that does not include any money. Church Events are free, Church is Free, Bible Studies are Free, but quality time together is essential as well and getting to know each other is by talking to each other. Go fishing, boating (if you have a boat or your parents have one you can borrow), hiking, window shopping, looking at old cars at car shows, racing events, or just watching a Christian DVD movie at each others house, but just find out what each other likes and do those things each other has an interest in doing that is Christian based around Jesus.
Just ideas, your choice of how you want to do things and how you want to date, but nothing will happen until you start looking.
I encourage women who want to find a man to get out there in person and start looking, even go to the next town and just get out there and let yourself be seen, be known, get to know people and the more friends you make in a day the more you will also have help in finding someone. Key things are to ask if they have a girlfriend, are they Christian, and work around those things to lead up to you inviting them to do something with you at a Church event or just go for a coffee. So many men out there may see you, but may think you have a boyfriend since you may act distant from them, so if you meet someone that you may like to date, Let Them Know and just make sure they are single first. Finding someone to date is a serious matter, don't play games or play hard to get to know. Men will just look elsewhere if women do that. Then the woman is all alone wondering why she is alone. Be serious about dating and finding someone, you are trying to find a friend to become best friends with, not play kids games during recess at school. (No kicking the men you like in the shin to get their attention either. haha)
Truly, if more people (both men and women) would get out there and look, even if they have no money and quit worrying so much and have some smiles just looking and making friends then they would have someone in their lives. Friendship is FREE. =) Real Friendship takes time to get to know the other, just don't Trust every single person you meet and expect a relationship right away. Make friends with them by getting to know who they are and their beliefs, which does not happen in one week...yes women I am talking to you. haha. Take your time, be patient and just let the friendship happen without assuming anything until you know the facts about the other. NO ASSUMING, this gets people into trouble. Keep it all in the Word of Jesus and be True to yourselves.
Also one last note. If you are moving or leaving the area for months at a time, best wait till you move or get back before finding a date. Otherwise the other will ASSUME you are just playing them.
Be True to yourself and be Honest with others.
Dating is the process of finding someone to be your best friend and spend the rest of your life with.
God Bless.
