Single and successful

[NiqueNique]

So I'm a 23 yo male. i feel I have everything except a family of my own to share my success with. Everything except girls and dating in my life has come not easily, but with less intimidation. I am not afraid of girls or anything, but just not willing to be vulnerable with people. I guess I just need advice on how to find the right Christ following woman.

 

[Sketcher]

I think all we can really tell you is what doesn't work.

 

[NiqueNique]

I think all we can really tell you is what doesn't work.

Haha then where do you want to begin?

 

[Saucy]

Well, I'm not sure what type of church you belong to, but there are numerous churches now with young adult ministries for people your age. That might be the perfect place to meet someone, but I wouldn't go just for dating. One group my friend and I joined, we only went a handful of times, but met incredible friends we're still sort of close with nearly a decade later.

 

[PeachieKeen]

I think it's awesome if not preferable to have your life "figured out" prior to meeting the one. That way you'll know whoever you go for it won't be out of desperation or because you're looking for someone to complete you, but because God has led you to them and you genuinely enjoy them for who they are.

I think all that's left is to push yourself to put yourself out there romantically now. Maybe set up a dating profile, keep an eye out for the qualities you're looking for in friends, co-workers, church-mates and so on. Then when you feel an interest, go for it with confidence! Really for me as well it wasn't until I had become independently successful that I had the confidence and desire to approach a partner.

 

[NiqueNique]

I think it's awesome if not preferable to have your life "figured out" prior to meeting the one. That way you'll know whoever you go for it won't be out of desperation or because you're looking for someone to complete you, but because God has led you to them and you genuinely enjoy them for who they are.

I think all that's left is to push yourself to put yourself out there romantically now. Maybe set up a dating profile, keep an eye out for the qualities you're looking for in friends, co-workers, church-mates and so on. Then when you feel an interest, go for it with confidence! Really for me as well it wasn't until I had become independently successful that I had the confidence and desire to approach a partner.

Putting myself out there is the only thing I lack confidence in haha but I guess I have to do it!

 

[NiqueNique]

Well, I'm not sure what type of church you belong to, but there are numerous churches now with young adult ministries for people your age. That might be the perfect place to meet someone, but I wouldn't go just for dating. One group my friend and I joined, we only went a handful of times, but met incredible friends we're still sort of close with nearly a decade later.

I think young adults service is the only way for me to be comfortable haha

 

[timewerx]

- Success - check....
- Nice car - check...
- Own place - check...
- Woman to share success with - no go!! Abort Abort!!

 

[timewerx]

So I'm a 23 yo male. i feel I have everything except a family of my own to share my success with. Everything except girls and dating in my life has come not easily, but with less intimidation. I am not afraid of girls or anything, but just not willing to be vulnerable with people. I guess I just need advice on how to find the right Christ following woman.

Telling your success while looking for women is probably a bad idea. You might attract the wrong kinds of women.

And the nice and decent women might find such attitude repulsive.

Just be discreet and modest about it.

but just not willing to be vulnerable with people.

Do not fear being vulnerable or the appearance of being vulnerable, that could easily become your weakness and can give you big problems later on.

You can't be a good BF or husband with that attitude. You should change it soon!

 

[PeachieKeen]

Putting myself out there is the only thing I lack confidence in haha but I guess I have to do it!

Like anything else it's hard and awkward at first, but each time it gets easier. Best of luck to you!!!

 

[redblue22]

Must be nice being so successful that you don't need anything and just want to share your success.

 

[NiqueNique]

Like anything else it's hard and awkward at first, but each time it gets easier. Best of luck to you!!!

Thank you!

 

[NiqueNique]

Must be nice being so successful that you don't need anything and just want to share your success.

It's not that I'm so successful I don't need anything, it's that I want to share what I do have. There are still needs to be meet financially, but I believe that God will take care of it. He's never failed!

 

[NiqueNique]

Telling your success while looking for women is probably a bad idea. You might attract the wrong kinds of women.

And the nice and decent women might find such attitude repulsive.

Just be discreet and modest about it.

Do not fear being vulnerable or the appearance of being vulnerable, that could easily become your weakness and can give you big problems later on.

Believe me I never flash around being a business owner because the moment I do, people automatically change their tone towards me haha

 

[sundewgrower]

I found one who'd invest in me beforehand.. I kept telling her how I felt so brokearse (seriously like do I want the $2 coffee or $3 one?) and how work is usually better. Made just enough to cover the bills and suddenly I have a month where I made enough to pay off most of my student debt, engagement ring, and some of our attorney fees for her adjustment of status....

You have success in your eyes and a well rounded life at this moment... I'd seek God and see what's next--you might be in for some hard times and stratification before you meet a good GF. Seeking God and putting him #1 is paramount--lose focus and God will shake you upside down until you realize He's all you need...

If there's one thing--it's you need a women who wants you for YOU and not your life or stuff. If she's in it for anything but you then she'll fade away once you're broke, sick, or there's a bigger better deal on the floor.

 

[timewerx]

It's not that I'm so successful I don't need anything, it's that I want to share what I do have. There are still needs to be meet financially, but I believe that God will take care of it. He's never failed!

You can also share your blessings with other people, other than with future wife (or GF) or future family of your own.

From time to time, you might hear of brothers and sisters here in CF in dire financial straights. Perhaps, you can offer a helping hand.

 

[timewerx]

Believe me I never flash around being a business owner because the moment I do, people automatically change their tone towards me haha

Since now we know that you're a business owner.....

 

[NiqueNique]

Since now we know that you're a business owner.....

Haha I definitely share wealth with those in need, within my family, any employees going through hard times, my brothers non profit that he just started, but mostly through teaching others to fish, instead of just giving them one.

 

[sundewgrower]

Haha I definitely share wealth with those in need, within my family, any employees going through hard times, my brothers non profit that he just started, but mostly through teaching others to fish, instead of just giving them one.

That is the one thing is being innovative and creative.
A few bucks is one thing but a small side business bringing even just a few hundred--that is worth a lot more.

 

[NiqueNique]

That is the one thing is being innovative and creative.
A few bucks is one thing but a small side business bringing even just a few hundred--that is worth a lot more.

Most millionaires have an average of 7 different businesses they are apart of