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Single And Not Happy?
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mina said:
Geez Dude! I am sure any girl can have any man.. But most girls want a Real Man and I am sure that goes both ways..
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awashinlove
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BlessedJourney said:
What universe do you live in?!
Maybe you're just one of the incredibly lucky ones!GQ Chris said:
I second that. You need a confidence boost, girl!
Even so, I think even the 'uglier' ones can attract the opposite sex as long as they're comfortable with themselves and confident; it shows. I used to think I'm absolutely hideous and I don't think I attracted guys before learned to like myself. awashinlove said:
That's hilarious!!!
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BigHearted
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Yeah, I really wish it was that easy. However, because we all know that men are supposed to do the buying all the stores are woman stores. Yeah right, how I wish that were true.mina said:
Anyways, Mina, you have always seemed to me a little fatalistic on the whole relationship issue, like you're always doomed to failure. I've spent far too much time there myself and now I'm trying to do a bit of a 180 and always time myself that it's not I that am missing out but all those women who don't find me attractive "in that way." From now on I choose to believe that I'm going to be the greatest husband that ever lived and that every one that turns me down is just missing out. You should try it sometime.
One more thing........ post a picture, I dare you......
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I'll agree with you to a point. I could probably very easily go to a bar and find someone there to go out with for a week or so before he tries to sleep with me, at which point I'll have to put a major hurt on him
guys are fairly easy to pick up if you're not looking for a Godly and committed relationship, but when you're looking for a guy who is really living for the Lord and would actually be a good guy to end up with - then it gets a little harder.
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little_tigress said:
Exactly the point I was trying to make. Actually, it hardly takes a week before they try their luck -many of them, anyways.
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GQ Chris
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little_tigress said:I'll agree with you to a point. I could probably very easily go to a bar and find someone there to go out with for a week or so before he tries to sleep with me, at which point I'll have to put a major hurt on him
guys are fairly easy to pick up if you're not looking for a Godly and committed relationship, but when you're looking for a guy who is really living for the Lord and would actually be a good guy to end up with - then it gets a little harder.
I totally agree with you as well when it comes to females. This year has been my strongest in terms of my Christian walk, it has taken me a lot of time and experience and a lot of trying what doesn't work, like clubbing and barhopping, and hooking up with all the wrong women. The most devastating being with my daughter's mother for almost 5 years; I stayed in the relationship way too long, but I didn't want to admit that she would never change.
So now it's even harder to meet the RIGHT woman, since I have effectively ruled out bars and clubs. My problem has been in the past, that I would fall for the girl that really liked me, but "liked" a lot of other men as well, needless to say, I am more pickey now, with the biggest requirement being that if she hasn't accepted Jesus Christ as her Saviour, then she has no chance with me. It took me a lot of Sin, and a lot of heartaches from those sins, to realize that God's will is THE perfect will, and that the way that I was living was counterproductive to the abundant life that Jesus promised.
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i'm usually happy with being single. i've been in one relationship and it really didn't knock my socks off. i tried. i tried really hard to feel all giddy and wonderful, feel like it was going somewhere, but then i took a step back and realized we had nothing. looking at how he treated me, he wasn't really all that into me. it wasn't a horrible relationship, and we tried twice, but it wasn't good enough.
i asked him about it, basically put it on the table that we either had to start showing real interest or back off, and he choose to back off. i backed off as well. i'm not sad, but my first kiss, first relationship was nothing like i expected it. now, i'm teethering on whether i'm happy with being single or not.
but i'll literally get sick if i let things get me down, so i'm going to lift up mine eyes for i know whence my help comes. isn't it interesting how times you'll read in the Bible God telling His people, whose eyes are downcast, probably filled with tears, staring at what's wrong, to lift up their eyes. to look up at Him, gain perspective. fills my heart.
i asked him about it, basically put it on the table that we either had to start showing real interest or back off, and he choose to back off. i backed off as well. i'm not sad, but my first kiss, first relationship was nothing like i expected it. now, i'm teethering on whether i'm happy with being single or not.
but i'll literally get sick if i let things get me down, so i'm going to lift up mine eyes for i know whence my help comes. isn't it interesting how times you'll read in the Bible God telling His people, whose eyes are downcast, probably filled with tears, staring at what's wrong, to lift up their eyes. to look up at Him, gain perspective. fills my heart.
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I think being single is kind of like being in jail or prison only you don't have any idea when you are getting out. It is punishment without a definite end. I really hate being single and alone.
But until God wants it to change it won't change. It is a big part of my relationship with God and to be honest a barrier.
But until God wants it to change it won't change. It is a big part of my relationship with God and to be honest a barrier.
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mina said:
From what I have seen of your posts on CF, you are anything but a loser, and I simply don't believe that you are ugly. You have been created and chosen by God, and that makes you beautiful. There are Christian men who see this fact. Don't give up hope.
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GQ Chris said:
Where DO you meet anyone if you don't want to go for the guys/girls you meet at that sort of places? I think it seems next to impossible. It seems like the guys that I meet at bars are after one thing and avoid any kind of commitment. Then again, the guys at church (if any good christian guy ever showed interest like the non-christian ones, hah!) would probably be looking for something more serious than I'm ready for, so the whole thing confuses me
There are times that I really want to be with someone but I have to admit I'm not ready for something long-term just yet and there's not much point in starting something 'cause I'd only have to break it off. Sometimes I feel life gets boring without a guy, though
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BigHearted said:
Well I do feel cursed when it comes to relationships and friendships for various reasons. And i'm never posting a picture on here again, sorry. I don't doubt I would be a great wife and mom, it's the getting to that point I'm not good at.
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Yeah, you and me both.mina said:
Again? Where was the first one? Anyways, as soon as I get back home after work I'm going to post the most silliest pic of me that I have. You should join me; it'll be theraputic.
Yeah, you and me both, although personally I'm not aiming for the whole wife and mother gig.....
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