Should I send it?????

[hotknikkels]

If you do not know, do nothing until you know! That may seem extreme, but also a wise thing!

 

[Donny_B]

When I was a sophomore in college (before there was such a thing as e-mail), there was a certain girl I admired from the distance, so I decided to write her about it that summer...it did not turn out the way I expected, but at least I knew how she felt, and it made for an interesting final 2 years in college.

The guy she ended up marrying was from her hometown, and I noticed in the latest alumni magazine, she had gone back to using her own last name (apparently divorced).

But if I had to do it all over again, I would not have sent the letter.

 

[hotknikkels]

Your last comment is a very wise one!

 

[enslow]

I would rewrite the letter. Say how you found his e-mail addy, and asking him what he's up to. If he's interested, he'll reply.

I know you are eagre to reveal your crush on him. Keep the 'mushy' stuff out for now There's lot's of time for that if things work out. Also, if it turns out that he's hooked up with some one else, or not interested, you haven't revealed anything potentially embarrassing. If he is interested, it gives the two of you a chance to get to know each other as friends first, which is important. If you tell him about your crush now, a friendship beginning won't happen.


Good luck, and send a simple e-mail!
Enslow

 

[Onwardclimb]

ALL

Thank ya'll sooooooooooooooooooo much for your prayers and advice. At this point I still haven't decided what I'm going to do, but I'm leaning more in the direction of not sending it, unless I accidentally hit the send button one day while reviewing it j/k, lol!!!!

In prayer mode ,
Onwardclimb

 

[sr. scholls]

Yeah, I agree with the simple "just saying hi" thing. There's nothing you can lose from it, and if he doesn't respond to you, then he's obviously not even interested in you friendship-wise, which is something you don't want in a potential mate. A Christ-centered friendship is the basis of all romantic relationships that may or may not ensue. So, if you send a simple thing like that, you'll have some sort of closure either way. Best possible outcome: He writes back and is glad you took the time to see how he's doing and would like to catch up sometime.

 

[Onwardclimb]

UPDATE: I still have NOT sent it, but I did write a simple "hi" one that was exactly one sentence long-LOL!!! I couldn't bring myself to send that one either, for various reasons. So, I guess that unless God causes us to meet up at a later time it will remain one of those big "what-if" mysteries, although I do sincerely BEG you guys to PRAY that I get over this guy, the what-ifs, and my DISAPPOINTMENTS of this whole situation, as well as however else the Holy Spirit may lead you to pray. THANKS ALL for your comments and ESPECIALLY for your prayers--they were ALL VERY helpful!!!!!!!

Thanx again,
Onwardclimb