Should I end it?

[CCHIPSS]

Christian girls tend to lose their virginity before marriage because they "fall in love" long before they are at a stage where they can consider marriage (in college, parent's don't approve, can't support themselves) but when things get passionate, it starts to cloud their judgement and they tend to start to think "well, we love each other and we are going to get married anyway so maybe it doesn't matter so much"...and they believe the line that "he needs a release" (and hormones at that age do take over logical thinking for both parties) ... and forever decisions are made in the dark of the night when hormones are at all time highs...

Then life continues to happen and they often don't get married...whether or not it is related to the lost trust they have in each other after breaking a vow to each other and God about keeping pure. And the cycle continues because they want to erase that memory or make it less important...and "honestly, does it matter anymore since I am no longer a virgin?" ... and the cycle goes on.

Yup, it always start off with that early BF that they really loved. After that break up, these ladies usually stop going to church and start sleeping around. Yup, why does it matter anymore since they are no longer a virgin? And God in a way "lied" to them, since they prayed and prayed and God never stopped them from dating that early BF. It was all God's fault somehow that they lose their virginity.

And then they become 30 years old and realize they need to find a good husband quick. They come back to church and say they have been renewed. Now Christian guys should be forgiving. But if a Christian guy said "No Thanks" I can't really blame him.

Really heart breaking.

 

[Goodbook]

Hmm ive never prayed and prayed and God stopped me dating. I think people just do what they want to do. God can tell you to stop dating, but some people just dont want to listen. He cant actually STOP you from doing whatever you feel like doing. Otherwise, he would have stopped Eve, but he already had told adam the tree was forbidden and Eve knew that already because she heard it from Adam. Adam however, did nothing further to stop Eve.

The point of following God is to actually listen to Him, trust and obey.

 

[Saucy]

If there's just something you can't put your finger on telling you he's not the right one...then you need to listen to that voice. It's called your gut instinct. You guys aren't even dating and already getting caught up in lustful thoughts and stuff? That's not a good way to start a relationship. I did that a few times and I understand how difficult it can be, but that's always a good sign that the relationship isn't going to turn out well.

Usually when the fire starts out strong and bright, it burns itself out rather quickly and you're left full of regrets. And of course that other part of you doesn't want to let that go, because it's fun and feels good. Fun and feeling good doesn't always equate to being right and moral.

 

[Swan7]

We just need to be honest with ourselves instead of deluding ourselves into thinking we need this or that, even from others. If we can be honest with ourselves, we can be honest with others around us and most of all, God. Nothing is hidden away from Him, after all.

 

[Goodbook]

Or conscience.
In christians its the still small voice. thats the Holy Spirit. The way of Jesus is always the way of righteousness. Seek His kingdom first above all else, then all things will be added unto you. It may be narrow and not the way everyone else is going, but if you love the Lord you will follow Him.

 

[sundewgrower]

I'd definitely try to take a step back for a bit and think about this.
Try to go on a trip, visit family, or otherwise go somewhere that lets you have an introspective mindset for a while.

 

[timewerx]

I don't know maybe I do already hear God's voice but I times its hard cause there is no verification. When I ask should I cut him off, It's hard to hear the answer. But then a part of me thinks maybe I'm ignoring the answer.

When I was around your age I also thought I was hearing God's voice and I though I'll go crazy.

I was worried it could be the devil.

I followed the voice anyway. It was awful at first but things turned out better.

Unfortunately, I cannot comfortably advice you to do the same thing I did which is to follow the voice. It's a million dollar dilemma we all have to face. Although I have to say, you may be too young to consider marriage and people change. Even you might change. What you may like now, you might hate later on.