Should I be this man friend ?

[QuestionQuest74]

A Christian friend of mine divorced his wife because she was extremely disrespectful and verbal abusing him and he had christian counseling with her for years and she didn’t change so he divorced her. She never cheated and he never cheated so he did sin divorcing her. I told him that’s adultery he said he know but he had enough of her should i still remain his friend ?
Please insert scripture with my decision

 

[Solo81]

"Love one another as I have loved you." - that was Jesus speaking to sinners.
He left no instruction as to how sinless/perfect a person must be in order to gain your friendship.

 

[com7fy8]

You can be a good example for him so he can learn how to relate, and maybe use this with his wife.

 

[Grip Docility]

A Christian friend of mine divorced his wife because she was extremely disrespectful and verbal abusing him and he had christian counseling with her for years and she didn’t change so he divorced her. She never cheated and he never cheated so he did sin divorcing her. I told him that’s adultery he said he know but he had enough of her should i still remain his friend ?
Please insert scripture with my decision

What did Jesus say about the adulterous thrown before Him? This is your friend in Christ. He needs you. Love him, listen to him, be there for him. Love covers a multitude of wrongs. He needs your Love.

Put the law down. Love! James 2 and 1 Corinthians 13.... LOVE!

my opinion

 

[Diamond72]

She never cheated and he never cheated so he did sin divorcing her.

Paul says for people to remain single. It is difficult not to end up with the same type of person all over again.

 

[Lost4words]

To divorce is not a sin. To divorce and then have another relationship / marriage is....

 

[Godcrazy]

A Christian friend of mine divorced his wife because she was extremely disrespectful and verbal abusing him and he had christian counseling with her for years and she didn’t change so he divorced her. She never cheated and he never cheated so he did sin divorcing her. I told him that’s adultery he said he know but he had enough of her should i still remain his friend ?
Please insert scripture with my decision

It is adultery and he's in God's eyes still married to her. If you marry him you will be comiiting adultery

 

[Godcrazy]

Paul says for people to remain single. It is difficult not to end up with the same type of person all over again.

That's what I was thinking too he hasn't changed his ways. It's tough but unfortunately not allowed to marry in this situation

 

[Godcrazy]

What did Jesus say about the adulterous thrown before Him? This is your friend in Christ. He needs you. Love him, listen to him, be there for him. Love covers a multitude of wrongs. He needs your Love.

Put the law down. Love! James 2 and 1 Corinthians 13.... LOVE!

my opinion

That's true, but jesus also said, sin no more.. Repent.. And if you love me you keep my commands. Love yes but the scripture doesn't allow re marriage

 

[Grip Docility]

It is adultery and he's in God's eyes still married to her. If you marry him you will be committing adultery

Romans 7:1 Do you not know, brothers and sisters—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law has authority over someone only as long as that person lives? 2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. 3 So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man.

4 So, my brothers and sisters, you also died to the law through the body of Christ, that you might belong to another, to him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit for God.

You are quoting this. It is about Jesus dying. Because He died, we are free from the condemnation of the stone covenant. This is saying that we are not "Married to Moses", but to "Jesus".

Romans 4:15 “Where there is no law, there is no transgression. For the law brings wrath, but where there is no law, there is no transgression” ​

 

[Grip Docility]

That's true, but jesus also said, sin no more.. Repent.. And if you love me you keep my commands. Love yes but the scripture doesn't allow re marriage

Which commands do you believe that Jesus was speaking of?

As human beings, knowing our day to day actions and thoughts that no one else but God knows, how should we understand these 3 words, in honesty before God and in light of 1 John 1:8 ?

 

[Hazelelponi]

It is adultery and he's in God's eyes still married to her. If you marry him you will be comiiting adultery

Who goes around marrying their friends?

The question was about remaining friends not about marriage.

 

[Hazelelponi]

To divorce is not a sin. To divorce and then have another relationship / marriage is....

I believe there's the sin involved in also causing her to sin should she actually need to remarry.

 

[Godcrazy]

Who goes around marrying their friends?

The question was about remaining friends not about marriage.

If you are sure you don't get pulled into it then I see no problem

 

[JesusFollowerForever]

A Christian friend of mine divorced his wife because she was extremely disrespectful and verbal abusing him and he had christian counseling with her for years and she didn’t change so he divorced her. She never cheated and he never cheated so he did sin divorcing her. I told him that’s adultery he said he know but he had enough of her should i still remain his friend ?
Please insert scripture with my decision

Your friend is facing a challenging situation, and it's understandable that you're concerned about how to support him while maintaining your own convictions. Let's address your question with a biblical perspective.

In Matthew 19:9 (ESV), Jesus teaches about divorce, saying, "And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery." This scripture indicates that divorce, except in cases of sexual immorality (adultery), leads to adultery if either partner remarries.

Your friend's situation, where he divorced his wife due to her extreme disrespect and verbal abuse, does not fall under the exception Jesus mentioned (sexual immorality). Therefore, his divorce and any subsequent remarriage could be considered adultery according to biblical standards.

As for whether you should remain his friend, the Bible encourages us to show love and compassion to others, even when they sin or face difficult circumstances. Galatians 6:1-2 (ESV) instructs, "Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness... Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."

Remaining his friend does not mean condoning his actions but rather being there to support, encourage, and pray for him. You can gently remind him of biblical teachings on marriage and divorce while showing him grace and understanding in his struggle.

Ultimately, your role as a friend is to demonstrate Christ-like love and to encourage him towards repentance and reconciliation with God, even as you walk alongside him through this difficult time.