Should a christian really date a non christian???

[eugeneandbobo]

These threads just wont die!

agreed...

however, this topic is a fairly necessary one...imo

 

[snoopy500]

no,you should not crayton.that is my opinion.

 

[JPPT1974]

This ain't the first nor will it be the last thread
Like this I am afraid.

 

[Gardener101]

From:

http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=27218500&postcount=7

and

http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=27217666&postcount=6

I find it interesting that you are here asking. Right up front I want to point out that you may not hear what you want to hear from us. We can be brutally honest, that honesty comes from years of walking in the shoes you want to walk in.

I love my husband to pieces. He is hard working, kind, dedicated, loving, committed, etc. He loves me and our kids and would do almost anything for us. I say almost because he won't go to church or be the spiritual leader in our home.

When I married him, people told me not too. They quoted scripture and told me God didn't want this for me or my life. I married him anyways. I was absolutely wrong, I acted in willful disobedience and to this day I bare the fruit of that decision. There will always be consequences for sin. Disobedience is sin.

Goals: To have children
- Where do your priorities stand with these questions, where are his?: How do you raise them? Do you go to Church? Do you pray before meals? Do you read Bible stories to them? Do you teach them about creation and evolution? Do you teach them how to pray? Do you allow them to participate in things like Halloween? Will they be allowed to drink alcohol? What kind of movies are they allowed to watch? Who decides what cartoon they can watch? How will they dress? Will you teach them that sex before marriage is right or wrong? Will you be able to teach them that Jesus is the only way to eternal life in heaven or will he want to teach them that good works will get them there? Does he want you to stay home with the children or work?

Goals: To give finances and time to the church.
- Where do you stand? Where does he stand?: Save for a new TV, house, holiday or give 10% to the church? Help with Sunday School or sleep in? Go partying on Saturday night or stay home and be up in time for church? Go to Bible Study/Kinship/Home group during the week or stay home? Give to missions or spend the money on something material?

Goals: Spend time in the Word, in Prayer and Devotional time at home each day. Do you want to do that? What would he think of that? Will he allow you to do that or will he be jealous because you spend this time with the Lord?

Goals: To follow the Lord's leading in your life? (for example: teach Sunday School, lead youth group, help in the kitchen, missions). Will you feel free to follow the Lord's leading? Will he allow you to follow the Lord's leading? Does he even care? Will he stand in the way of that obedience to the Lord?

There are so many things...right now, I want to put on a small addition to our home so that when my Mom & Tots group comes over for Bible study I will have room to house them all. My husband is completely opposed to this because he doesn't think its a good enough reason...sharing prayer time and studying the Bible is a waste of time to him. We have come to a compromise...I can do it but he will NOT be helping in any way, I have to pay for it, find the people to do it and oversee it. In addition to that, I still have to run my home, look after two children (one with special needs), cook, clean, do the laundry, etc. He will not help on any of these things because he believes that he has provided for us, and if I want extra then I must bare the load. Are you willing to walk in these shoes? It may not be the same issue but I can guarantee...there will be an issue.

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From:

http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=33767323#post33767323

and

http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=33809986&postcount=7

I'm struggling with what do to now that I'm in this mess. Why oh why did I have to turn from God's word and marry a non-believer. It didn't seem like a huge deal at the time, but now that I've matured and have children with him, it's becomming a big problem.

I love my husband, he is a good person, but he is not a follower of Christ. He does not intend to help me raise my children to know the Lord. He does not intend to teach them the same principles and morals that I want to instill in them. He has no interest in the word of God. I had dreams of having a husband that would attend chuch with his family, that would want to get involved with study groups at church. Instead, I chose to marry someone that gave a lot of promises that he has failed to uphold. I really should have known better.

But here I am, in this marriage holding true to my vows. How am I going to keep my children on the straight path to God when their own dad is teaching them otherwise? How am I going to be spiritually fullfilled when my own husband, my life partner, wants nothing to do with the single most important thing in my life? How do you all do it? Since being a Christ follower affects everything I do and say then how can I spend the rest of my earthly life being married to someone that does not see life the way that I do?

I feel lost. I could really use some personal experience stories, scripture, prayers, anything!

Thanks for listening.


The last few days here have been stressful for me. My husband continues to show me the same kind of love that he always has, but I am finding it difficult to reciprocate. Things that didn't bother me about him years ago are really pressing on my mind today. For instance last night he cursed more times than I care to count. I've talked with him about how I don't like it, but it doesn't appear to phase him, he does it anyway. Another thing is his temper, if something goes wrong he's quick to yell and throw things. Although never at me or my children, but I still hate being witness to that behavior and hate it even more for my children. Yet he doesn't attempt to change. Or how when I'm home taking care of the kids he frequently goes over to our neighbors to hang out and drink beer. All of this didn't really bother me before but I am having a very hard time dealing with it all now. I feel so distant from him, yet he doesn't understand why, to him things are the same as always. The last few nights when he wants to get close to me I have pushed away, because I am just missing that connection that I need to want to be with him. He actually asked me the other night how far I intend to take this whole "Christian-thing". That really hurt. He doesn't want his life to change due to my relationship with God.

I just keep praying that God will work a miracle in my marriage. But every day is proving to be a struggle

 

[nathan82]

^ There should be a sticky for that. I notice a "should a Christian date non-Christian thread pop up every 3 months or so it seems.

 

[RED that's ME]

^ There should be a sticky for that. I notice a "should a Christian date non-Christian thread pop up every 3 months or so it seems.

lol That's true but we have new members all the time or old members who could have missed those threads. I have answered these thread types so many times I pretty much have a cut & paste answer.