She hates me

[Amélie Unbound]

Sorry, I had to delete.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Its almost over. Hang in there.

 

[Adamantium]

Is your husband making it clear that her behavior is unacceptable? Or would it just make things worse if he stood up for you?

 

[TexasSky]

I am not childfree, but I saw this post on the forum and had to respond.

Only small people who feel badly about themselves feel the need to tear someone else down. They only tear down those whom they fear are above them. You will never be able to change a hateful person, but when I had to deal with a similiar situation I did the following, and it "got me through" the days.

1) I prayed constantly. For God to give me strength, for God to give her a less sharp tongue, for God to help me forgive her. (I actually began to pity her, so the prayers worked some.)
2) I recited the mantra in my mind, "Only small people need to tear others down to their depths," every time she said something vicious.

Of course, I didn't always handle it so well. There were times when a truly snide remark was made, and I would smile and say, "I don't know whether to compliment you for your ability to say whatever you think, or to chastize you for your rudeness."

It made her fume more, but it also shut her up.

 

[fuzzymel]

So sorry you have to deal with this.

Is your husband aware of her comments? He should be standing up for you.

 

[Epoh99]

I'm so sorry Orchard that you're going through this.

 

[snoochface]

Oh, Orchard. I wish I could give you a hug!

I agree that, since she's your husband's mother, he should be the one to say something to her. "Mother, I love you and I'm so happy you are here to share Christmas with us, but if you're going to speak to my wife in that way we are going to have to find a hotel for you to stay for the remainder of your trip" might work.

If he doesn't feel he can say anything to her, I think TexasSky gave good advice. Pray for her -- she's miserable inside and wants everyone to feel miserable with her. Pray for yourself -- for the strength to get through this time with your sanity intact. And we'll all pray for you too.

Find time to get away. Even if you're just taking lots of showers, just find some time to be warm and alone and away from the situation. Treat yourself extra well to make up for the way she is treating you.

Hang in there. We're here for you. It's almost over.

 

[Rembrandtfan]

I'm so sorry you're being treated that way. It's not fair and I can imagine it must feel horrible.

 

[invisiblebabe]

People like that are toxic, especially to more sensitive souls like yourself. You have the right idea... never let her come over again, if she keeps up that attitude!

Praying for you.

 

[mina]

praying for you Don't take her bait; continue being kind and loving -even when she doesn't deserve it.

 

[Amélie Unbound]

Sorry, I had to delete.

Thanks everyone for the advice.

 

[snoochface]

Ugh ugh ugh. I have to say, despite the reaction, I'd still pop a movie into the DVD player and sneak off to the study with hubby. I mean... at that point, I might leave $20 on the table with the phone number to a pizza delivery place, and leave (with hubby) to stay in a hotel!

She sounds like a nightmare, Orchard. I think you have the right answer -- never host her in your home again. It's not worth all this.

Big to you. Hang in there. It's almost over.

 

[RunnerGirl]

Oh goodness, has she left yet? I have no words of wisdom, just wanted to offer some support. Sounds like a truly unbearable situation. Your poise is admirable.

Hope you'll have your peaceful household back to yourselves again soon!

 

[Amélie Unbound]

Guests go home on Saturday.

 

[shaslove]

Closing thread at OP's request.

 

[Robinsegg]

Closing at OP request.

 

[AdJesumPerMariam]

thread Closed At Op's Request​