so you know christ more than me??.hmmm im thinking not but im not going into detail about it,if you want to condemn yourself over sex with a partner before you marry then go ahead
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equusargentum said:About the "hugging overdose"; if you can feel the fire burning then let go and find something else to do. It is possible to hug for a while just innocently but it all depends on the individual situation.
Glorianna said:I agree. It is better to get married than to give in to temptation before you're married.
njcl said:im going to get flayed alive for this but i see nothing wrong with have sex with somebody who you are going to marry for definite,god is not a draconian despot who will launch lightning bolts because you wish to become one with your partner,he made love and sex,also i have great difficulty in pauls epistles that have been converted by scholars especially the one about keeping your virgin,ive read it describes a fathers custody over his daughter,rubbish paul is describing a man who was burning towards his woman and has sex with her,"let him do what they will,he sineth not let them marry" = let him deflower his virgin but they must marry to make holy their communion so........KJV
If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly to his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes; let them marry - it is no sin.
But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5,7.
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Ephesians 5:3
poohbear10101 said:I'm sorry guys, but I do NOT agree with that at all!!!! The divorce rate has gone through the roof and it's becuase of thinking like that........getting married for the purpose of being able to be together intimately/physically is a ridiculous reason to get married!
Leanna said:... it is not always right to get married. I think its not just people getting married to have sex that have the problem, it is people getting married too quickly, people getting married even though they have obvious problems in their relationship, people getting married with addictions, people getting married too young (Yes, even that, although I did get married at 19). So it is NOT just sex that is causing a bad divorce rate. There are all these plus tons of other reasons.
f U z ! o N said:amen Glorianna! whats the point of dating unless you are ready to possibly marry that person. if society would listen to that divorce rates would go down. sure, i may be almost 18 but i consider myself a heck of a lot more mature than others my age. i have no intentions of marrying until i am at least 22
Leanna said:I was not suggesting that people get married only to avoid temptation or so that you can have sex. That would be absurd. I suppose I wasn't clear. If two people are dating and want to get married.... then suddenly they put this big banner up "we are going to wait 7 years!!" sometimes it just doesn't work that way. There comes a point where you either break up, or you get married. More than just physical temptation, dating is not meant to be a never ending deal. If you're not ready to get married, why waste time dating? Why not just have friends and hang out and put all of the crud of dating aside?
Also, if you want the OP to feel respected, maybe you should refrain from calling them "hun." Everyone wants to be treated like an adult here I'm sure.