Sexual immorality

[SamanthaLynn]

Thank you all for your advice!

UPDATE *GOD HAS MADE THE WAY*

I have been free of sexual immorality for almost two weeks now and found a furnished affordable room for rent close to the university that I attend. I have firmly explained to my boyfriend that our relationship has changed and by the grace of God he is slowly accepting this. Gods grace has also worked in my boyfriends life and he has been going to therapy for his anger for the last two weeks. Praise Jesus!!!!!
I will still be coming back to his house every day to walk the dog, clean the house, and care for his daughter. I will be sleeping in my own bed every night though and maintaining purity for the Lord. I will be praying that my changes inspire him to become a follower of Christ, and want to set that example for him and his daughter. I bought her her first bible - she is 11 and I found The Action Bible - which teaches scripture in the form of a comic book. She’s been reading it and asking me questions which we then find the answer to in the word.

thanks again everyone! God is so good! I am a new creation. Next sin to work on - swearing/cussing. Ive always made an effort to not do so in front of children - but grew up with parents who swear a lot and have been doing it over half my life. I will be praying for these words to be taken from my vocabulary and hope that you will pray for me as well.

 

[HeartNSoul19]

More power to you for working on yourself. These things are life-long struggles and we all deal with them in one way or another.

 

[1watchman]

Obviously the OP does not know the Word of God, and is reasoning about how to obey and live for God. One NEEDS to know what our God is saying to us, as was pointed out herein by some Christians.

 

[tturt]

SamanthaLynn, you are being very proactive in your walk with the Lord. Good for you!

Will pray as you requested Obviously we ALL have things to work on.

 

[AJHnh]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

I am sure it may have been mentioned but safety is first. If there is violence you leave. No Question-you leave

 

[Will Joseph]

The biggest issue is being financially reliant on him. If you had financial independence, then you could leave him and his daughter. I feel your safety comes before her safety. You are also not her parent and he should be responsible for his own daughter, just as much as the coke head should be.

Jail is a red flag for me. I usually keep some distance from anyone who has been in jail. But again, you are financially limited now, so you don't have much choice. I myself am bound to my mom who makes me live in a moldy room because I am financially limited. I've been striving towards financial independence for years. And though I've discovered ways to work, I've not yet found work that can support new shelter.

One thing that I worry about is your justification for adultery or premaritial sex. I don't think that there is ever justification for it. The dude can give you a severe form of herpes, and then think that you gave it to him. There's nothing stopping him from having sex with other people: not much heavenly or legal force can punish him for the fornication as much as could punish him for adultery. Though I guess we can argue that he is commiting adultery or having extramarital sex because he hasn't divorced yet. But you may be as guilty as him for commiting fornication or adultery unless he is raping you.

You can always try to help his daughter out after you've helped yourself out. Because fornication and adultery only brings more problems. The future of your own daughter or son might be endangered because of his sexual and sinful lifestyle, even though you are suffering him for his daughter's sake.

So how do we know that the sex outside of marriage wasn’t also cultural for the times? Why wouldn’t God include No sex outside of marriage in his commandments if it was indeed true in every single case?

What about common law marriage?

Adultery and fornication wasn't "cultural for the time" because the sin, error, and consequences of adultery and fornication are mentioned in multiple areas of the bible.

 

[Will Joseph]

...