Sexual immorality

[SamanthaLynn]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

 

[Pamela49]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

 

[Pamela49]

SamanthaLynn I believe that Paul was referring to if you are single remain single; however if you are married then remain married. If married and one is unbeliever, the believer must remain married to the unbeliever and try to set the example to bring the other person to the Lord. You are in a very tough situation and God looks at the heart and it sounds like you have a very good heart in that you are worried about the child as she has become attached to you. It would be good if you could get your boyfriend to go to church and accept the Lord. Once he accepts Jesus as his Savior, he will realize that living together and having sexual relations without being married is not of the Lord. Maybe you could think about getting your own place for awhile until your boyfriend comes to know the Lord. Also maybe you could have the child with you a lot of the time. Keep praying and asking the Lord for guidance and wisdom in your situation.

 

[BobRyan]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

you and your fiancée/husband need to decide your own marital status - commitment between the two of you and God in as formal manner as you can, vs the legal system of the country where you live as it processes the paperwork. Those are two different things.

You say -- "My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her" - be sure he is as committed to being married to you as you think - and that this really is just a matter of paperwork and time for the process to be formal. I would do that no matter what you decide about living quarters arrangements.

 

[Sketcher]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

I would say to abstain from sex, at least for now, as hard as it may be, and do what you can for the child.

When you say that peace will not remain in your house, does he lash out in anger? Please elaborate on this.

Also, your fiancée needs to understand that it does take an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviors. I don't know how he missed that - you are in Canada and I'm in the US, but a long-time friend of mine (before I met him) became a Christian in jail. By the time I met him, he absolutely believed that it takes a relationship with God through Jesus, and turning away from sinful behaviors. There were some other aspects that to me, mark him as a true convert which you had not mentioned, such as taking responsibility for his own actions, and looking out for people around him and educating them so that they do not become victims of crimes themselves, and separating himself from risky situations that might either tempt him or at least put trouble in easy reach.

 

[plain jayne]

This may be hard to hear.

Jesus Christ, with the woman at the well, made a distinction between sex between spouses and sex between unmarried people. There is a difference in his eyes.

Paul is not saying that if you are committing formication [having sex with someone you aren't married to] that you should continue to do so.

The subjects he tackles in chapter 7 are these:

• verses 1-2 = each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband
• verses 3-6 = married couples understanding what sex means to the other and not cheating the other from the love, romance, and sex understood to be in a marriage unless both agree for a season [perhaps illness or some such]
• verse 7-9 = the unmarried and widows should try to remain this way but if they cannot exercise self-control, then they are free to marry
• verses 10-11 = if a husband and wife are divorced for reasons not acceptable [adultery, a non-believer leaving a spouse, or in my opinion, cruelty and abuse] then if it is not for these reasons and is only frivolous and the spouse thinks they can "do better", then the divorced couple should remain unmarried or reconcile.
• verses 12-16 = if a Christian is married to a non-believer and the non-believer chooses to stay, let them stay. If the non-believer chooses to leave, let them leave. But the Christian, having married the non-believer cannot initiate divorce merely because they are non-believers.

Paul then says that it's best to stay in whatever situation you are in and serve God from there - married, single, widowed, divorced, or even remarried [with cause or without - you should never divorce your second spouse and remarry the first spouse because you think that would make God happy and erase the error of the first divorce - if it was unlawful].

Paul NEVER mentions two people living together in fornication as one of these situations.

I will be in prayer for you. If you are considering not having sex, you must live somewhere else and the two of you get some biblical counseling. He expects it because you are freely giving it and in his spiritual state - he will not understand and will rage.

Marriage is a picture of Jesus Christ and the church. The Bible calls marriage the making of "one flesh'. You could just simply go to the justice of the peace or have an elaborate wedding. God asks us to obey the laws of the land as long as they are not immoral. Getting a piece of paper to show you are married puts the government in the marriage business and I do not think that they should be there - but getting a piece of paper is NOT immoral nor anti-God.

Jesus understood the difference. We should too.

You are in my prayers.

 

[Psalm 27]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

The situation I am in is living with my fiancée and his daughter who I have been a mother to for close to a year. I quit working and am financially reliant on him. I was accepted to graduate school this fall. The girls real mother is an escort/prostitute and a drunkard/coke head. Child services took her away from her mother and she was placed with her father and I almost a year ago. My fiancée is nearing the end of the divorce process with her but it has not yet been officially finalized. Him and I have been together almost two years.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

I am just so confused on this and want to please the Lord without ruining the lives of others.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

There is also a possibility that I’m pregnant right now though it is too early to tell. What does the bible instruct in that case?

I can’t lecture you, as I had sex before marriage, and The child does need a responsible adult to take care of her.
The real issue for me, would be that He isn’t a Christian. I’m not a great believer in ‘household salvation’. To me, you’re either a believer or you’re not. (However, with The Lord, all things are possible). Given the option again, I would not marry a non-believer. But that’s just me.
Not an easy choice, particularly if you are pregnant! (All good gifts come from The Lord)
Read how The Lord took care of Hagar and Ishmael, even though he wasn’t the promised child of Abraham. His ways are not our ways. There is a bigger plan... all the best. numbers 6:24-26

 

[1watchman]

SamanthaLynn I believe that Paul was referring to if you are single remain single; however if you are married then remain married. If married and one is unbeliever, the believer must remain married to the unbeliever and try to set the example to bring the other person to the Lord. You are in a very tough situation and God looks at the heart and it sounds like you have a very good heart in that you are worried about the child as she has become attached to you. It would be good if you could get your boyfriend to go to church and accept the Lord. Once he accepts Jesus as his Savior, he will realize that living together and having sexual relations without being married is not of the Lord. Maybe you could think about getting your own place for awhile until your boyfriend comes to know the Lord. Also maybe you could have the child with you a lot of the time. Keep praying and asking the Lord for guidance and wisdom in your situation.

There is some merit and sound counsel given by you, Pamela; however, I would add that going to church services and declaring you believe in God is NOT salvation and the new life in Christ. One needs to see solid evidence that the professor HAS received the Lord Jesus into their heart and are devoted to Him ---and not just to religion and belief in a god. There needs to be clear evidence of a new direction to live for the Lord and change their ways of life. In the meantime, the relationship with the man needs to be discontinued; and stop the co-habitation. We must not be thinking God should accept our conditions about holiness ---right?

 

[hedrick]

I agree that Biblically you should be married,, but sometimes we have to accept that there's no perfect solution and do what will be best for the people involved.

One aspect others haven't commented on: You say you stopped working. I certainly wouldn't let the situation keep you from continuing your education.

I agree that a new Christian would be best to find a congregation that can help him grow in Christ.

 

[SamanthaLynn]

I would say to abstain from sex, at least for now, as hard as it may be, and do what you can for the child.

When you say that peace will not remain in your house, does he lash out in anger? Please elaborate on this.

Also, your fiancée needs to understand that it does take an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviors. I don't know how he missed that - you are in Canada and I'm in the US, but a long-time friend of mine (before I met him) became a Christian in jail. By the time I met him, he absolutely believed that it takes a relationship with God through Jesus, and turning away from sinful behaviors. There were some other aspects that to me, mark him as a true convert which you had not mentioned, such as taking responsibility for his own actions, and looking out for people around him and educating them so that they do not become victims of crimes themselves, and separating himself from risky situations that might either tempt him or at least put trouble in easy reach.

Yes, he gets into rages of anger. Much like a three year old child having a temper tantrum. He doesn’t become physical violent towards me or his daughter but has broken his phone probably five or six times in the two years I’ve known him. Punches walls/doors/the fridge.

Prior to his daughter being placed with us, he underwent therapy and was diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed medication. He mixes it with alcohol and weed every night however which can’t be doing wonders for his mental state.

I had also been drinking quite a bit and was a chronic marijuana user for fifteen years before coming to Christ a couple weeks ago. I’ve quit cigarettes, weed and allow myself only one glass of wine in the evenings now. The first time I quit smoking weed, around 7 years ago, I couldn’t eat or sleep and developed psychosis. This time, I believe my faith in Jesus is the reason I have had NO withdrawals at all and have been sober for two weeks. The Lord is miraculous and I want to serve him well.

I have found a congregation and attended services with them for the past two weeks. A professor of mine in undergraduate school had mentioned being a leader in her church and so I contacted her and was warmly welcomed. She will be arranging an appointment for me with the new pastor for their church who begins this week.

 

[SamanthaLynn]

SamanthaLynn I believe that Paul was referring to if you are single remain single; however if you are married then remain married. If married and one is unbeliever, the believer must remain married to the unbeliever and try to set the example to bring the other person to the Lord. You are in a very tough situation and God looks at the heart and it sounds like you have a very good heart in that you are worried about the child as she has become attached to you. It would be good if you could get your boyfriend to go to church and accept the Lord. Once he accepts Jesus as his Savior, he will realize that living together and having sexual relations without being married is not of the Lord. Maybe you could think about getting your own place for awhile until your boyfriend comes to know the Lord. Also maybe you could have the child with you a lot of the time. Keep praying and asking the Lord for guidance and wisdom in your situation.

thank you for explaining that sister.
You seem very wise in the word and so I want to ask something else.

in 1 Corinthians Paul also says women shouldn’t pray without covering their hair and that women shouldn’t speak in church. A Christian friend of mine told me that these advisements were just cultural for the times. So how do we know that the sex outside of marriage wasn’t also cultural for the times? Why wouldn’t God include No sex outside of marriage in his commandments if it was indeed true in every single case?

What about common law marriage?

looking forward to your response on this sensitive topic.

 

[hedrick]

What about common law marriage?

Apparently he is still married but in the process of divorce. I'm pretty sure you can't have an actual common law marriage if you're legally married to another person. However God judges by intent.

 

[SamanthaLynn]

I can’t lecture you, as I had sex before marriage, and The child does need a responsible adult to take care of her.
The real issue for me, would be that He isn’t a Christian. I’m not a great believer in ‘household salvation’. To me, you’re either a believer or you’re not. (However, with The Lord, all things are possible). Given the option again, I would not marry a non-believer. But that’s just me.
Not an easy choice, particularly if you are pregnant! (All good gifts come from The Lord)
Read how The Lord took care of Hagar and Ishmael, even though he wasn’t the promised child of Abraham. His ways are not our ways. There is a bigger plan... all the best. numbers 6:24-26

Happy news ———>>> Not Pregnant!!
Yes I’m almost finished the New Testament and then will begin the Old. Thank you for your response

 

[SamanthaLynn]

R

Apparently he is still married but in the process of divorce. I'm pretty sure you can't have an actual common law marriage if you're legally married to another person. However God judges by intent.

right it doesn’t really apply to me I just mean in general for that question. Two people who are both unmarried but understand God judging by intent thank you brother.

 

[aiki]

Hi All.

I have been struggling with one subject since coming to Christ. I will continue to pray on this but am hoping you could add some clarity.

I know the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sinful because I’ve gotten to 1 Corinthians in the New Testament and what Paul discusses regarding marriage and sexual immorality.

However,

1 Corinthians 17 NLT says Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.

As has already been pointed out, this doesn't mean that if you're living in sexual sin you ought to continue to do so. The Bible urges us all:

2 Timothy 2:21-22
21 Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from these things, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master, prepared for every good work.
22 Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20
18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,
20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Ephesians 5:3-5
3 But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.
4 Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.
5 For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

My fiancée says he’s a believer because he read the bible while in jail. He doesn’t understand that it takes more than that - an actual relationship with God through Jesus and turning away from sinful behaviours (he smokes a lot of weed, is quick to anger, cheated on me in the past etc). Actually he has made fun of how absorbed I’ve been with the Bible and makes insincere comments about Jesus quite a bit.

So I’m praying for his heart to be softened to the Lord.

2 Corinthians 6:14-18
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?
16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, “I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you,
18 and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.”

Whatever your bf may claim, his actions suggest that he doesn't really know God as his heavenly Father or Christ as his Saviour and Lord. Inasmuch as this is so, you ought not, if you want to walk well with God yourself, be "yoked" to your bf as you are.

It is right and good to pray for your bf, but remaining with him in an intimate - and sexual - relationship is totally contrary to God's will and way. So long as you carry on in this sinful circumstance with your bf, you cannot really know, and walk with, and enjoy God.

Psalm 66:18
18 If I regard wickedness in my heart, The Lord will not hear;

Isaiah 59:2
2 But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, And your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear.

1 Peter 3:10-12
10 For, "Let him who means to love life and see good days refrain his tongue from evil and lips from speaking guile.
11 " And let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.
12 " For the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and his ears attend to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil."

God doesn't relent on matters of holiness and moral purity when it becomes difficult or "impractical" for us to follow His moral commands. If we live in sin, we cut ourselves off from communion with Him.

Not having sex with him is not an option if peace is to remain in our house.

And here you begin to see the price sin exacts of us. It is so easy to get into sin but can often be extremely hard, very costly, to get out of it. But, again, God doesn't say to us, "Oh, well, if its inconvenient or hurtful to others that you live a moral life that obeys my commands, don't worry about it. I only expect you to be holy when it is easy to be so and everyone's happy that you are." No, God is clear in His word that so long as we indulge in sin, we cannot walk with Him and enjoy Him as we were created to do.

How can I leave when I’m the only stable adult in this child’s life? Is that what Paul meant in the verse I read? Is it possible that I’m called to stay here for her sake and does that make an allowance for the sex I have with her father?

No.

though I also know the bible says to leave behind your mother father children, everything for Christ.

It does, doesn't it? In fact, Christ said that one could only be his follower if this was what one was willing to do for his sake - just as he did for ours.

Matthew 16:24-27
24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, "If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me.
25 "For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.
26 "For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?
27 "For the Son of Man is going to come in the glory of His Father with His angels, and WILL THEN REPAY EVERY MAN ACCORDING TO HIS DEEDS.

There will be plenty of people - Christians, even - who will take up the cause of the devil, asking you, "Did God really say that? Did God really mean that?" This is what the devil does: He tempts you to blunt, or qualify, or even deny the plain command of God to you in His word. He did this to Eve in Eden and he did this to Christ in his temptation of him in the wilderness. People will urge you to follow the practical, the "necessary," and will counsel you to do evil in order to do right. This is not God's way nor will. When God says, "Touch not the unclean thing," and "Come out from among them and be separate," He really means it.

 

[Sketcher]

Yes, he gets into rages of anger. Much like a three year old child having a temper tantrum. He doesn’t become physical violent towards me or his daughter but has broken his phone probably five or six times in the two years I’ve known him. Punches walls/doors/the fridge.

Prior to his daughter being placed with us, he underwent therapy and was diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed medication. He mixes it with alcohol and weed every night however which can’t be doing wonders for his mental state.

I had also been drinking quite a bit and was a chronic marijuana user for fifteen years before coming to Christ a couple weeks ago. I’ve quit cigarettes, weed and allow myself only one glass of wine in the evenings now. The first time I quit smoking weed, around 7 years ago, I couldn’t eat or sleep and developed psychosis. This time, I believe my faith in Jesus is the reason I have had NO withdrawals at all and have been sober for two weeks. The Lord is miraculous and I want to serve him well.

I have found a congregation and attended services with them for the past two weeks. A professor of mine in undergraduate school had mentioned being a leader in her church and so I contacted her and was warmly welcomed. She will be arranging an appointment for me with the new pastor for their church who begins this week.

Do you really want to live with that for the rest of your life?

I don't recommend that anyone marry a person who meets this description. This sounds to me like a great time to make a clean break.

Congrats for your part of quitting the weed.

 

[Sketcher]

in 1 Corinthians Paul also says women shouldn’t pray without covering their hair and that women shouldn’t speak in church. A Christian friend of mine told me that these advisements were just cultural for the times. So how do we know that the sex outside of marriage wasn’t also cultural for the times? Why wouldn’t God include No sex outside of marriage in his commandments if it was indeed true in every single case?

People talk about how decadent Western culture is today, but neither the US nor Canada can compete with Rome. And in the Roman Empire, Corinth was one of the more decadent places. Sexual immorality there was much more normal. Yet, the churches in those cities and elsewhere in the Roman Empire were not given a pass. Therefore, there is no cultural defense for sexual immorality in the West today.

 

[hedrick]

Do you really want to live with that for the rest of your life?

I don't recommend that anyone marry a person who meets this description. This sounds to me like a great time to make a clean break.

Congrats for your part of quitting the weed.

I am also concerned. Your question was about the sexual aspect. But I hate to see someone decide to accept a violent partner, even if it’s not directed at you. I have a feeling you may be sticking around because of the child, but there’s got to be a better answer for her as well. It’s probably worse for her than you.

 

[carolina16]

Love --> sexuality-->life.

 

[CatsRule2020]

Would I stay or try to see what social services are available? At that point in a situation, I think one has to wait and see what develops. One thing that I have found is that a true believer is never alone and things will work out for the best in the end. Your response to this situation will have tremendous impact on your daughter-in-law for the rest of her life. Doors will open for you courtesy of the Lord.