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Hello everybody 
In another thread, there was some talk about sex, and how women sometimes use sex as a weapon. Being that I'm in a silly mood, I figured that I'd pester you all about the idea.
So, I understand that it is hurtful for a woman to always turn her husband away when she is upset, and I agree. Many times I've heard men refer to this as if their wives were using sex as a weapon to get what they want by withholding sex.
Now, here is something that I am curious about. If a man and woman have a loving and healthy sex life, would a man be just as upset if his wife sought him out for amazing sex for the purpose of not only the connection, but also to soften him toward giving her something that she wanted? (It could be anything, emotional, physical, material; being that the object isn't the point)
Women, how to you feel about your husband possibly paying extra special attention to you sexually to soften you toward something that he would like from you? Would you be more apt to be generous with him because he made such an effort to see to your pleasure or do something that you liked that he normally didn't do often?
The only thing that I would like to clarify is that I'm not talking about someone being harmfully manipulative like rolling their spouse in the hay just so they can run off with their credit card or something. What actually got me thinking about it was how my husband will purposefully initiate sex because he knows that if he can work me over a bit, I soften toward him and have a hard time remaining angry, which leads to better communication. It's devious and crafty, and I know that he is doing it, but I don't mind. I think it's kind of cute how that lil bugger will push my buttons with that sly smile on his face.
So, anyway, how do you feel about using sex as a way to sweetly motivate a spouse into doing something peachy? *wiggles eyebrows*
In another thread, there was some talk about sex, and how women sometimes use sex as a weapon. Being that I'm in a silly mood, I figured that I'd pester you all about the idea.
So, I understand that it is hurtful for a woman to always turn her husband away when she is upset, and I agree. Many times I've heard men refer to this as if their wives were using sex as a weapon to get what they want by withholding sex.
Now, here is something that I am curious about. If a man and woman have a loving and healthy sex life, would a man be just as upset if his wife sought him out for amazing sex for the purpose of not only the connection, but also to soften him toward giving her something that she wanted? (It could be anything, emotional, physical, material; being that the object isn't the point)
Women, how to you feel about your husband possibly paying extra special attention to you sexually to soften you toward something that he would like from you? Would you be more apt to be generous with him because he made such an effort to see to your pleasure or do something that you liked that he normally didn't do often?
The only thing that I would like to clarify is that I'm not talking about someone being harmfully manipulative like rolling their spouse in the hay just so they can run off with their credit card or something. What actually got me thinking about it was how my husband will purposefully initiate sex because he knows that if he can work me over a bit, I soften toward him and have a hard time remaining angry, which leads to better communication. It's devious and crafty, and I know that he is doing it, but I don't mind. I think it's kind of cute how that lil bugger will push my buttons with that sly smile on his face.
So, anyway, how do you feel about using sex as a way to sweetly motivate a spouse into doing something peachy? *wiggles eyebrows*
