sex and being single

[127.0.0.1]

No, it's impossible. And that is why I am glad my justification and Salvation is not dependent upon my works.

Faith without works is dead.

 

[127.0.0.1]

historicly it was not uncommon for men to get married in there mid 30's
In Shakespears Hamlet, Hamlet is suposed to be anywhere from like 20 to 30

You seem to neglect that these girls (the ones marrying the older, wealthy men) often were not the man's first marriage and they were usually 14 or 15 years old.

You have no idea how hard it is refrain from posting some giant Pedo-bear pic.

 

[peacechild4]

I understand your struggle and there is no easy answer.. I have just left a relationship... a long marriage and we had a good sex life... it was not my fault this ended.. this is something now I face too.. I will be praying alot about this... to help myself not fall into temptation.. only GOD can help us live the kind of life that is best for us..

 

[MehGuy]

Tough luck, you'll have to never have sexual contact with a man again, but don't worry suffering for the Lord is good and God wants you to have a cheerful heart about it.

 

[Mess]

Faith without works is dead.

Just because true faith, always produces works, doesn't mean works save. But okay we've been over that discussion before.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Just because true faith, always produces works, doesn't mean works save. But okay we've been over that discussion before.

Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. - Matthew 7:21

 

[Blank123]

Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. - Matthew 7:21

that pretty much backs up what Mess was saying. Hebrews 11 says without faith it is impossible to please Him. Anyone can say, "I love Jesus and He is my Lord." But true faith will produce true works in keeping with His will. Works don't and can't save. If they could we'd have no need for the cross.

 

[Mess]

that pretty much backs up what Mess was saying. Hebrews 11 says without faith it is impossible to please Him. Anyone can say, "I love Jesus and He is my Lord." But true faith will produce true works in keeping with His will. Works don't and can't save. If they could we'd have no need for the cross.

Exactly what I meant, thank you for clarifying.

 

[Oddish]

Do you think it is easier for someone to abstain from sex, if:

- they were previously non-believer who had experienced sex, or
- they were previously a non-believer who hadn't.

Sometimes I think it would be easier for that one who had experienced it and then converted and had to give it up, whereas the virgin would be wondering what it is like and may be tempted to out of curiousity and wanting to get it over with. What do you think?

 

[K9_Trainer]

^Other way around. Once you have it, you know what you're missing and want it more.

 

[Oddish]

^Other way around. Once you have it, you know what you're missing and want it more.

That makes sense. I think it is hard in both cases though. But I think you make such a big deal about sex, worry about it more and have it on your mind more when you haven't experienced it.

 

[K9_Trainer]

That makes sense. I think it is hard in both cases though. But I think you make such a big deal about sex, worry about it more and have it on your mind more when you haven't experienced it.

That's true. Virginity usually only matters to virgins it seems lol.

 

[dayhiker]

Ya, virginity takes up none of my thought bandwidth!

 

[127.0.0.1]

Ya, virginity takes up none of my thought bandwidth!

Speaking of which, that bandwidth isn't free.

 

[Riot Riot Riot]

Simple: If God has given you the life-long journey of singleness, He will place in you no desire for a sexual mate. You will function perfectly fine without one. Sure, there may be days where you become lonely, but it's not normally something that can't be fixed by spending time with close loved ones (such as family and friends).
I believe it is Paul who speaks on this very topic. He says it is best to stay unmarried, as it prevents a lot of problems that arise with married couples (don't ask me which problems, because I am unmarried, and so I have no knowledge of it). But he then goes on to state that if you are a person who does happen to struggle with lust and a desire for the opposite sex, then it is best you DO marry, so as to prevent yourself from becoming sexually immoral.

God doesn't give us things in life that we can't handle. I know people say that a lot, but it's true. If He realizes your desire for a mate, then you will most likely become blessed with one some day.

 

[Edwards1984]

Hi everyone. I have a question that I hope can be answered here. As a christian I know I am to wait to have sex until I get married. Before becoming to the Lord, I have had previous relationships that were sexual. My question is now that I am a christian, what if I never get married?

Then you'll never have sex again.

How am I suppose to live the rest of my life and never have sex again? I am single and only 45 and the thought of living the next 40 years or so and not having sex seems impossible.

With God all things are possible.

I have no problem waiting for marriage to have sex, but what if God's will for me is to remain single?

Then it will likewise be God's will that you not break His law.

It has been years since I have been intimate with a man and to be quite honest, I am getting to the point that I am beginning to doubt that God really understands or even cares about my heartache and longing to be with a man.

For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin. [Heb 4:15]
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God understands what is going through your mind, don't worry. It would be impossible for the Creator to have no comprehension of how His creation works.

Its not just the sex I miss, it's the intimacy that comes with being in a loving and fullfilling relationship. I am tired of married christians who say "maybe its Gods will for you to be alone" or " someone will come into your life some day". Really?? Someday has turned into 45 years of being alone and I cant take it much more. I would rather just die and go on to heaven and be with Jesus than spend the rest of my life alone with out the possilblity of being married. So any thoughts on how any of you handle this would be greatly appreicated. If I dont ever have my prayer of being married answered, what is the point of praying? I have given up the secular way of life believing that God will answer my prayer, but what if He says no. I cant live the rest of my life without the loving touch of a man. How do I get rid of the desire of being married and having a sex with a man? And please dont say just pray. I have been and the answer is always no. I dont want to disappoint God but I cant keep living like this. Its killing me inside. Thanks for reading this.

As I always tell people who struggle with these kinds of topics...

Stop obsessing over it.

I understand, that in and of itself is hard. I truly do understand that. But the more you stress about it, the worse it will get. We are not Mormons - our purpose is not solely to get married and have children. Yes marriage is a beautiful thing and many people have been blessed by it. I am certain one day the Lord will bless you with it as well. But don't let this become the weed that destroys you from the inside. It might become a form of idolatry for you to kowtow to.

 

[broken_one]

But but but, I'd like to have sex again sometime....

 

[Edwards1984]

But but but, I'd like to have sex again sometime....

Then wait.

 

[HazelWings]

Blind post, because it seems like the sex topics on CF get the most hits:

‪Salt-N-Pepa - Let's Talk About Sex‬‏ - YouTube

 

[Stravinsk]

Blind post, because it seems like the sex topics on CF get the most hits:

Virgin, experienced, whateva - just goes to show sex is on lot's of people's minds regularly. Fear of it. Wanting it. Preaching on it. Like this woman:

‪Fat Farting Preacher Enlightens Her Flock on the Sins of Sex - HILARIOUS! (COMEDY)‬‏ - YouTube

She's so busy assuming and condemning the sins of her flock, and so detailed in places it gets me wondering how much of this is a reflection of her own thoughts/deeds. Maybe in-between all you can eats and shoveling down those fried chickens, milkshakes and twinkies.