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Severe depression - Need prayers

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We had our staff Christmas party at work today. Ugh, I should have not gone like I planned, but two co-workers insisted I go. I never seem to fit in anywhere I go, even work parties where i've known the people awhile.

I feel like everyone looks at me negatively because I have such a high moral standard. I consider myself a very caring and empathetic person. I try to befriend people too easily I guess. When I get to know new people, like a few new ones we have at work, if we have things in common, I tend to get attached too easily, and try too hard to be caring and friendly. I think it's because I deal with chronic lonliness, so I'm overly desperate to want to fit in with these people. But I really don't fit in with anyone. People just tease me for never doing anything wrong, or rebellious - hardly ever drinking, never go to parties, don't have any tattoos or piercings ( not to say my coworkers have a lot, but some of them have a couple), have never really smoked. And my religious side tends to come out, and they know it, so I get teased just for being so "good". My nickname at work is the Angel. For example, they sometimes joke that they have to be careful what they say around me or they might burst into flames or get struck by lightning. And usually it's just kidding around, but I feel like no one understands me. So i'm essentially turning people I desperately want to be close with away merely by being something I can't control.

Well, at the end of that party I came home crying cause I feel like people don't really like me that much. I'm just too different from everyone I ever meet. :(
 
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Jase ~

Instead of trying to figure out why this is happening, or why that is happening, why don't you start with the very basics....

You don't seem to know for sure if you've been saved or not ~ your salvation is much more important than ANYTHING else in the world!! To KNOW that God is your Father is the most vital thing you can do right now.

Look up Christian churches in your phone book, and start calling around to them. Or better yet, GO to them on Sunday mornings to see what kind of service they have, & talk with the Pastors. Then you can find out which one you like best.

Once you find one you are comfortable with, tell the Pastor that you don't think that you've been saved. He WILL make sure to explain to you what to do, as well as walk you through the process until you can say without a doubt ~ I HAVE BEEN SAVED!!!!!! :amen:

And it DOES NOT MATTER what religion you were brought up in, you can attend ANY church you want!! You don't even have to become a member of the church that assists you in getting saved!! Your SALVATION is what counts here!

Please do that, Jase, and that come back & tell us the great news about being saved, so we can celebrate with you!!!! :clap: :clap: :clap:

THEN we can continue this...


 
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Update:

We had our staff Christmas party at work today. Ugh, I should have not gone like I planned, but two co-workers insisted I go. I never seem to fit in anywhere I go, even work parties where i've known the people awhile.

I feel like everyone looks at me negatively because I have such a high moral standard. I consider myself a very caring and empathetic person. I try to befriend people too easily I guess. When I get to know new people, like a few new ones we have at work, if we have things in common, I tend to get attached too easily, and try too hard to be caring and friendly. I think it's because I deal with chronic lonliness, so I'm overly desperate to want to fit in with these people. But I really don't fit in with anyone. People just tease me for never doing anything wrong, or rebellious - hardly ever drinking, never go to parties, don't have any tattoos or piercings ( not to say my coworkers have a lot, but some of them have a couple), have never really smoked. And my religious side tends to come out, and they know it, so I get teased just for being so "good". My nickname at work is the Angel. For example, they sometimes joke that they have to be careful what they say around me or they might burst into flames or get struck by lightning. And usually it's just kidding around, but I feel like no one understands me. So i'm essentially turning people I desperately want to be close with away merely by being something I can't control.

Well, at the end of that party I came home crying cause I feel like people don't really like me that much. I'm just too different from everyone I ever meet. :(
I've started going to a bible study with some of the girls in my Sunday School class and we are using a workbook called: The Search for Significance Workbook: Build your self-worth on God's truth. You might want to try the workbook out; it really has shown me how critical I am of myself. I'm starting to see that God loves me no matter what I think or others think about me. They have it at lifeway.com for $12.00.
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Jase, I believe you are needing a revelation of the Father's heart of God. You know God is interested in talking to you, do you spend much time talking to Him?

Religion doesn't cut it He wants relationship and we come to the Father through the Son, Jesus died that your sins might be forgiven, if you have truly repented of your sins and asked Jesus into your life it's a done deal, you are saved, your sins are forgiven. Start thanking Him, praise Him even when you don't hear His voice, He will speak to you through His Word, ask the Holy Spirit to shed light on what you read.

I will pray for you.

I am including a poem I wrote here

COME ENTER MY REST

&#8220;My child, come and cast your cares upon me,
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me,
Cast your burdens down at the foot of the cross,
I want to bring you into my rest, no need for toil.

I want you to incline your ear and listen to my voice,
Stop now and listen, learn to recognize my voice,
Child you keep going back to striving, busy doing,
Yet it should be the rest I give, you should be pursuing.

Don&#8217;t you see that in your weakness I give you strength?
Child lean on me and you will do all things in my strength,
For it was I who sent the Holy Spirit to empower you.
Call upon me in your hour of need and I will hearken unto you.

Trust in me, put your faith in me in all things to enter my rest.
It&#8217;s time to stop wavering when you are put to the test,
My dear child I see your heart and I see that it&#8217;s me you love,
I want you to rest in my presence and let me pour out my love.

Every tear I will wipe away, every hurt will be healed,
Approach my throne of grace in this your hour of need,
Repent and turn away from all that hinders perfect communion,
My arms are open wide and I long for that sweet communion.

Don&#8217;t look for the applause of men, rather fix your eyes on me,
Put no confidence in your flesh but rely totally on me,
Give your all to me, walk my way, serve me with your whole being,
And you will know a joy and a rest which you have not yet seen.

I am jealous for your time, I know child that you long after me,
You can be so busy trying to show others my love you lose sight of me,
Yet to show my love you need that precious time with me.
Look to me daily to help you win the race and learn to rest in me.

Because you can run with me from the place of rest that I give,
I will give you my strength to empower you for service,
In my place of rest all your works will have fully ceased
And you will discover what it is from striving to be released.

So my child it is time for you to enter fully into my rest,
There is liberty and freedom and joy in that place of rest,
And I will direct all your paths and the way that you should go,
And in that place of rest, you in me will really start to grow.&#8221;

Love from Jesus

Irene McG 2007
 
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Until you immerse yourself completely in God and open up and slow down enough to hear Him you will continue to roam and search and never find. Let God be first in your life (See scripture below) and you will have a friend always wherever you go and he will show you how to be the man of God he wants you to be.

Matthew 6:33
But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well
 
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Your faith will make you whole!

I pray that God will invade your heart, minds and soul and that you will not be discouraged. God is always on time! Release your faith and watch HIM work.

Phil 4 vs 7: And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your heart and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Have you ever done a day of fasting and praying. I have found that fasting really renewed my faith and helped me to develop my trust in God.

Be blessed and never give up as God has heard all your prayers!

Phil 4 vs 6: Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your requests to God.
 
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Jase, I have struggled with depression since I was age 8. I, too, wonder "How long O Lord?" (I think we're in good company with King David.) I can't tell you "how long" anymore than I can tell myself that, but I do know that God has resurrected me from this over & over again. As often as it comes on me, He pulls me out of it again & again.

The thing that works the best for me is just concentrate on today, don't project into the future (it's too much); and also I try to remember that there are many many people suffering just the same way right now and exercise my compassion to pray for them.

And Father God, I affirm like King David, for my friend here, "I would have died unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living." I pray that you would show Jase glimpses of your goodness hour by hour to help get him through, and give him hope that he really will see a brighter side one day.:hug:
 
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Update:

We had our staff Christmas party at work today. Ugh, I should have not gone like I planned, but two co-workers insisted I go. I never seem to fit in anywhere I go, even work parties where i've known the people awhile.

I feel like everyone looks at me negatively because I have such a high moral standard. I consider myself a very caring and empathetic person. I try to befriend people too easily I guess. When I get to know new people, like a few new ones we have at work, if we have things in common, I tend to get attached too easily, and try too hard to be caring and friendly. I think it's because I deal with chronic lonliness, so I'm overly desperate to want to fit in with these people. But I really don't fit in with anyone. People just tease me for never doing anything wrong, or rebellious - hardly ever drinking, never go to parties, don't have any tattoos or piercings ( not to say my coworkers have a lot, but some of them have a couple), have never really smoked. And my religious side tends to come out, and they know it, so I get teased just for being so "good". My nickname at work is the Angel. For example, they sometimes joke that they have to be careful what they say around me or they might burst into flames or get struck by lightning. And usually it's just kidding around, but I feel like no one understands me. So i'm essentially turning people I desperately want to be close with away merely by being something I can't control.

Well, at the end of that party I came home crying cause I feel like people don't really like me that much. I'm just too different from everyone I ever meet. :(
I have often felt this way too though not as severe. I have come to realize that I have Social Anxiety Disorder. I am getting better with the help of God. God can help you through this just trust Him.
 
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You don't seem to know for sure if you've been saved or not ~ your salvation is much more important than ANYTHING else in the world!! To KNOW that God is your Father is the most vital thing you can do right now.

Look up Christian churches in your phone book, and start calling around to them. Or better yet, GO to them on Sunday mornings to see what kind of service they have, & talk with the Pastors. Then you can find out which one you like best.

Once you find one you are comfortable with, tell the Pastor that you don't think that you've been saved. He WILL make sure to explain to you what to do, as well as walk you through the process until you can say without a doubt ~ I HAVE BEEN SAVED!!!!!! :amen:

And it DOES NOT MATTER what religion you were brought up in, you can attend ANY church you want!! You don't even have to become a member of the church that assists you in getting saved!! Your SALVATION is what counts here!

Please do that, Jase, and that come back & tell us the great news about being saved, so we can celebrate with you!!!! :clap: :clap: :clap:

THEN we can continue this...
I don't think we can ever know anything as a fact. I have doubts about whether God exists, so of course it's hard not to have doubts about being saved. I don't see how you can know it, unless you're one of the very rare and lucky ones to have some sort of divine sign like seeing an angel, or hearing God's voice. The only thing I can base it on is that I strive so hard to live a righteous life, and have suffered immeasurably because of it.
 
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I don't think we can ever know anything as a fact. I have doubts about whether God exists, so of course it's hard not to have doubts about being saved. I don't see how you can know it, unless you're one of the very rare and lucky ones to have some sort of divine sign like seeing an angel, or hearing God's voice. The only thing I can base it on is that I strive so hard to live a righteous life, and have suffered immeasurably because of it.
Rut rho.

I'm going to do this the easy way. I hope.

http://www.geocities.com/Jesus_Christ_Is_Almighty_God/

This will explain who God is, and what He has done for us, as opposed to what we could never do for ourselves.
 
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I pray Lord, that you lift up Jase's depression! I pray Lord, that you get rid of this depression, in the name of Jesus! Instead, fill Jase and cover him with hope, love, and compassion for You, O' God. I pray Lord that you reveal who You are to Jase. Show Jase that You do hear every single prayer, that You see his pain and hurt. And let Jase know that You know what He's going through. And let Jase see, that You will never leave him nor forsake him. O but God loves you Jase, with an everlasting love. Stand strong in Him...for He will give you the strength that you need to carry on and not give up! Let him see Lord, that you do very much care for your son. Lord, i pray that you comfort him right now, with your Holy Spirit. Let Jase know how much You love him and care about him. Lord, send people in his life that loves him and shows God's love through them. Lord, i pray that you give him hope. Fill Jase, Jesus, with love and compassion. Lord, give Jase strength, let him not give up, but let him know that he needs to keep on living for You, O' Lord. Let Jase know that You, O' God have not given up on your son. Speak to Jase Lord, in your Holy Word, through other people, and to Jase. Just let Him feel your presence.

In Jesus Name,
Amen
 
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I don't think we can ever know anything as a fact. I have doubts about whether God exists, so of course it's hard not to have doubts about being saved. I don't see how you can know it, unless you're one of the very rare and lucky ones to have some sort of divine sign like seeing an angel, or hearing God's voice. The only thing I can base it on is that I strive so hard to live a righteous life, and have suffered immeasurably because of it.
Of course we can know with absolute certainty. Unless you don't believe the Bible as God's Word. It says in the Bible that those who accept Jesus into their hearts as their saviour and turn from their sins they are saved. It is by the blood of Jesus not by our works. So stop trying to do it by yourself; God will help anyone who will give Him the chance.
 
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I need some major help. I'm suffering from severe depression due to chronic loneliness. I really have no meaningful relationships with anyone other than my parents, and I know that that isn't going to change anytime soon if ever due to some major insecurities.

I'm like pulling my hair out and gritting my teeth, in constant tears i'm so overwhelmed. And this isn't something new. I've been suffering with this off and on for 8 years.

I pray constantly asking God for help over and over, but not matter what I do, he keeps ignoring me. My faith is dangling by a thread. I just don't know how to keep holding on like this when God will not help me in anyway. I just don't understand what he wants, or what I'm doing wrong. Why is it so hard to get a meaningful response for God? Why can't he just come out and talk to me about my problems; give me some reassurance that he will help? Why all the mystery and vagueness?

What are you supposed to do when you are completely hopeless, no one in the world can help you, and not even God bothers to care?:sigh: :cry:
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We Stand In Agreement And Lift This Matter To You Father In Jesus Name
Holy Father I Kneel Before You In The Spirit Of Humility. You Are A Mighty God. You Have Given Us So Much Through Your Beloved Son Jesus. I Praise You Almighty God . I Love You Almighty God. I Glorify You And Only You Almighty Father. The Needs Are Many Father As You Know. I Ask You Enter Each Need Here Father With Your Miraculous Holy Spirit As Only You Can Do. We Stand In Agreement And Know To Expect A Miracle Father As Jesus Taught Us In Matthew 18-19. Jesus Said,"Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them." I Praise You Father Forever And Ever. In Jesus Holy Name I Pray.
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Rut rho.

I'm going to do this the easy way. I hope.

http://www.geocities.com/Jesus_Christ_Is_Almighty_God/

This will explain who God is, and what He has done for us, as opposed to what we could never do for ourselves.
I know who God and Jesus are. My point is, I think it's illogical to claim to know they exist for a fact. Some atheists claim to know for a fact that God doesn't exist. Neither side can prove their claim, so why make it? Unfortunately, there are probably more reasons that make it hard to believe in God, than reasons to believe in him. I'm not saying I don't believe in him, because I know I need him, but when you struggle with the pain I deal with on a daily basis, and he remains completely silent, it's near impossible not to question whether he's really there or not.
 
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I need some major help. I'm suffering from severe depression due to chronic loneliness. I really have no meaningful relationships with anyone other than my parents, and I know that that isn't going to change anytime soon if ever due to some major insecurities.

I'm like pulling my hair out and gritting my teeth, in constant tears i'm so overwhelmed. And this isn't something new. I've been suffering with this off and on for 8 years.

I pray constantly asking God for help over and over, but not matter what I do, he keeps ignoring me. My faith is dangling by a thread. I just don't know how to keep holding on like this when God will not help me in anyway. I just don't understand what he wants, or what I'm doing wrong. Why is it so hard to get a meaningful response for God? Why can't he just come out and talk to me about my problems; give me some reassurance that he will help? Why all the mystery and vagueness?

What are you supposed to do when you are completely hopeless, no one in the world can help you, and not even God bothers to care?:sigh: :cry:

Oh sweetie, I am praying so hard for you right now, and I will continue to pray for you.

Sometimes learning to hear the answer God is giving you is the hardest thing to do even for those of us who know. God doesn't always give us the answer we want or think (logically) that the direction should go - but when you look back you realize it was the right answer.

You are praying in the spirit, so you have to learn to listen in the spirit.

Turn it over to God completely. Don't hold back a part of it play tug of war with God with. Just tell him it's too much so I am giving it to you. I know it seems like it should be harder than this, but it isn't. There are no special words or rituals.

And to quote one of my favorite pastors, just because you turn it over to God doesn't mean you sit back and do nothing. Listen to the spirit. If the spirit moves you, start counselling. If it doesn't, take a class, broaden your experiences, or start a hobby. Something totally completely different than you would normally do right now. Start going to museums, or volunteering at a hospital, nursing home, children's home. Anything other than sit and wonder and worry.

The whole point is to occupy your mind and spirit while you are waiting to get God's answer. Sometimes while you are occupying you mind and spirit the answer comes from a direction you least expected.

And remember sometimes it isn't that YOU are doing something wrong, it's just that the timing isn't perfect. It isn't God's timing.

God loves you just the way you are, and he see's even the part of you that you can't see - your potential.

When the feelings of hopelessness wash over you - rebuke them (to yourself or outloud - doesn't really matter) and tell yourself "I AM A CHILD OF GOD AND MY MIND, BODY AND SOUL BELONG TO GOD" And then move yourself from that spot and go do something else. Know in your heart the answer is already on it's way.


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