My husband and I have been separated for about one and a half months. The main reasons for our separation are because I have a lack of security form him, he has major character issues with lying, and he is lacking in showing responsibility spritually, financially, and in most aspects of our marriage. He thinks that he is really trying to change these things, but I don't feel as if he has really changed much yet. Although, at times I think that he is, then the next day I realize that he hasn't. He continues to tell me lies over and over. I am really struggling with this. We have been to couseling and talked to many different Christians regarding our situation. He seems to think that the more we talk the better things will be. I am at a point where I feel that talking is just about pointless becuase I can't trust what he is saying. I have been considering divorce, but he is completely against it. I struggle with this becuase we have two small children. Please let me know what you think!
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Thanks for replying. We have been to Chrisitan counseling together as well as separately. My husband says that he is going to make the needed changes, but has failed to really follow through. It seems as if he thinks that he is following through with things, but doesn't seem to be really doing it. When I tell him the things that I expect of him he says that he will do them, but doesn't always follow through. (That would be part of my trust problem) I pray that he will figure this out soon. I feel as if I have given him plenty of time. I also feel like he should have made more progress by now, but I keep holding on to my marriage, although I am to the point that I don't think that he is going to really ever change.
Thanks for replying. We have been to Chrisitan counseling together as well as separately. My husband says that he is going to make the needed changes, but has failed to really follow through. It seems as if he thinks that he is following through with things, but doesn't seem to be really doing it. When I tell him the things that I expect of him he says that he will do them, but doesn't always follow through. (That would be part of my trust problem) I pray that he will figure this out soon. I feel as if I have given him plenty of time. I also feel like he should have made more progress by now, but I keep holding on to my marriage, although I am to the point that I don't think that he is going to really ever change.
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