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Seeking advice for an issue i've been dealing with all my life

cre8087

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Hi,
First of all let me introduce myself. My name is Chad. I'm 22 years old and i'm in college. I live in Arizona, USA with my family.
Now, to my issue: I'm gay but I'm also a Pentecostal Christian and I've because of this I feel like I don't have a close relationship with God. I've cried many nights asking God if it's ok to be gay. I know what the bible says in Leviticus but it also has a lot of other laws that people in American society don't follow such as divorce, men aren't supposed to cut their hair, etc.
I just want a friend to talk to or someone who understands what i'm dealing with. Thanks.
 

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Hello Chad,

Don't you ever think that you are never good enough. God has put you on this Earth to be who you are. You are one of Him. Who cares if you like men or not. That's your life. No one can make you happy unless you make yourself happy. Don't cry, crying only leaves you wasting time in your life when you could be happy and thanking the Lord for being alive.

Your welcome ;)
 
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Thanks but I've just always been told that if someone is gay they won't get into heaven. So I feel like I'm stuck at a crossroad. If I agree with what i've been told, I could live my life never kissing a guy or anything like that and basically not being in love but still go to heaven, or I could just be myself but risk going to hell. I really don't know what to do. :/
 
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First of all, Chad, let me just say that being homosexual or maintaining a homosexual lifestyle WILL NOT put you at risk of going to hell after death. The Bible says that Christ died for all (John 3:16) that whoever BELIEVES in Him will have everlasting life. It also says that YOU can not do anything to get into heaven by doing good things or behaving "Good" (romans 3:20). All of us have sinned (romans 3:22) but can be redeemed through faith alone (romans 3:27). Once one repents of their sin and trusts Christ as their Savior, they are for ever adopted as a child of God (romans 8:15). And then NOBODY, not even yourself, can cause you to loose this free gift of salvation (john 10:29).

I do believe that God sees homosexuality as a sin, but I also see in friends and family that it is very real and there is very little that you can do to change it. It is something that I do not yet understand myself. So I can't offer up any encouragement there, but do now, whether you decide to act upon it or not, Christ will never let you go if you have trusted Him as your Savior.

I would encourage you to read Romans sometime in the future! There are many, many more scriptures to go along with what I said, just those were the only ones on the top of my head.

Romans 5

"Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life. More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.

(Death in Adam, Life in Christ)

Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned— for sin indeed was in the world before the law was given, but sin is not counted where there is no law. Yet death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those whose sinning was not like the transgression of Adam, who was a type of the one who was to come.

But the free gift is not like the trespass. For if many died through one man's trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many. And the free gift is not like the result of that one man's sin. For the judgment following one trespass brought condemnation, but the free gift following many trespasses brought justification. For if, because of one man's trespass, death reigned through that one man, much more will those who receive the abundance of grace and the free gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man Jesus Christ. Therefore, as one trespass led to condemnation for all men, so one act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all men. For as by the one man's disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man's obedience the many will be made righteous. Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
 
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Life would be much easier if He gave yes and nos more often. But He usually doesn't, at least in my experience. I suppose all you can do is continue to pray, seek Godly counsel, and READ scripture. First comes Fact, then Faith, then following. Seek scriptures for the facts and find pastors/leaders to raid with questions when you dont understand a scripture.

He will show you
 
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Don't tell others how to live your life. You can be Christian and still be gay (I have some friends who fall into this catigory). Also, you are perfect who you are, straight or gay. It doesn't matter about your sexual prefrence, it matters about your personality. Just keep on being who you are.
 
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I understand you man. I too, have struggled and am struggling with the same issue of homosexuality. In my personal beliefs, I think that being gay is a sin and we have the choice to either fight it or not. And God judges us whether or not we fought against it. God has His reasons behind why He doesnt give direct answers. I have re-devoted my life to Christ since November and I surround myself with only positive thoughts and interactions and whenever I start to feel myself fall weak even the slightest bit, I begin to pray for strength or listen to empowering Christian music. While there have been a few bumps in the road, things have gotten a lot easier. The closer you become to God, the easier this struggle becomes to overcome. Because God becomes more and more apart of us. I never want to let God down because He has blessed me so much and is worth so much incredibly more than any of my sinful pleasures. My attraction to women is growing in me and the homosexuality within me is dying. Whether or not you go to Hell over being gay is a very controversial and confusing topic but I do believe that if you give it all to God and trust in Him, He will change you. We serve a King who can work miracles. Stay faithful and loyal to God and fight the good fight. He is watching and wants to give your heart rest. Homosexuality is a tough thing to beat but it can be done. You are a Child of God. You are worthy of being happy. You are worthy of being freed from the chains that the devil tries to bond you down with. I will be praying that Jesus gives you strength and that He speaks to you and so clearly that you do not even question whether or not it was of Him. I am glad that you still are thinking about God even with this attraction. You can do this man. Not only do I believe in you but God does too.
 
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Hi there hang on, I have been struggling about the same issue too and I want to tell you God loves you very much. I can assure you it's never easy. I just decided to renew my relationship with God a week ago although it's been 6 year I barely know and be in real relationship. I think God's pleased to see us fighting a good fight of faith. See, when the "feeling" comes at any random moments, do ask God for help in prayer and takes the chance of that trial to please God.
I start to see things differently, although the temptation is very strong at times, I realized if I want to fight this then I have to be patient and trust in God only, for there's no other help I can turn to.
I understand how you feel, it's never easy for me too. Sometimes it's alright to cry to relieve but just don't overwhelm yourself too much in the emotion. I do have my lowest point in my life too. It's been 7 years since I was thirteen years old, I can confide no one fully to tell my problem not even my parents.
Sometimes I tune christian song to uplift my spirit, you maybe familiar with this one already : "casting crowns- praise you in the storm"
sorry I'm unable to post the link directly

Hope my experience helps, please be strong brother and pray for me too.
God bless you
 
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