DragonFox91
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I think we need to be better at making sure we don't mix our own emotions & thoughts w/ God's will. For example it's very easy for me to be discouraged about no wife & thinking I will never be married, but in the prescence of God, all those fears just go away. It's obvious at bare minmium they are lies & me speaking for God I know my will for my life in regards to being married. You can't say 'it's a no, that's God's will for me b/c God doesn't say yes all the time.' That's using your own logic. That's not God speaking to you. "Moses prayed to enter the Promised Land & God told him no he will die first so that means my prayer for marriage is a no too." That's your own thought.Maybe we can bring in what Paul said into the mix as well.
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Cor 7
Paul stated this for he said in the same chapter 1 Cor 7:33 that a married person has potentially his focus split Taking care of his wife and also the Lord's affairs. He did say however that if they felt they couldn't do this they shouldn't as it is better to marry than to burn with passion. This we can take to be the will of God. So let's work through this. if one's feel they just can't do this then God surely must be willing to answer a prayer for help in finding a wife. If it's better for them to be in the married state than it's better.
And we can read about that in Jeremiah 16:3,4 The people in Israel were about to face judgement. Sons and daughters and their parents were going to be slaughtered. God, in His great mercy, saw the terrible conditions that would come upon the land. So, in deep compassion spared the prophet the agony of taking care of family and children in such dire conditions. But such a stipulation would be like an anomaly. A very rare incident where God said this.
Well let me say this. Is it hypothetically possible that God could tell one it's not his will to marry? Perhaps. But you're not left to have this as a mystery over your life or just assume.....well I guess it wasn't the will of God or that a none arrival of a spouse confirms this. People can genuinely miss it in the way and manner in how they pray. I know. I get it. People don't want to hear this or be told it's a possibility. But if it is though....what are we to do? Never share it? I believe we have substantial enough grounds to believe God will answer this prayer for remember he said....it would be better. So...we prayer and apply Mk 11:24....believe we receive when we pray.....and thank him for it throughout our days until it becomes manifested. And if it didn't?
I think unmarrieds are given a no because they need to be doing special things for the kingdom a married can't. Paul talks about this. If you really think you have a no, it's because God is calling you to a path of full devotion for him. It's not an excuse to sit back & relax. It's kind of like Catholocism' priests: if you really have a no, you have a great opportunity to be a witness. So you should be rejoicing you can do big things for the kingdom. It's not a consolation prize. It's our highest purpose here on earth.I 'd then apply James 1 the first chapter which says ask God for wisdom. Or revelation .as to why there is no answer. Would he actually say it's not his will for me to marry? I'd say the chances of that would be very, very slim. But if he did he'd tell me and I'm confident he would in a very clear and definite way.
This isn't to say marrieds can't do things for the kingdom, & sometimes it's hard b/c it seems marrieds run everything even at churches where an unmarried w/ a no is being called to so it may seem like they're not really doing anything they couldn't as married.
Paul speaks how our relationship status lets us glorify God. For the vast majority of us, we can't fully glorify God unmarried. This is why Paul says those who want to marry should marry. This also means as married we need to be fully glorifyng God. When we get married, we don't forget about him. We say now what do you want me to do for you, how can we glorify you now. What can the 2 of us do to glorify you we couldn't by ourselves. I pray this. I ask God this. "LOrd, we want to glorify you when we are married."
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