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TriptychR said:Of course it is. Everyone knows if you want those things, you need a volleyball.
WILSON!
I hope that if I'm ever deserted on an island or something that I can have a Wilson too!
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Alexander1982 said:
Umm, that applies to men as well. Also, if you choose to become between someone and the World Cup, please have the audacity to root
quality teams, and not harass me with shouts of Germany and the Czech Republic.
(ahem, YOU know who you are.)
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Irascible said:
If and only if there is such woman that will see my inner beauty, who will reciprocate my love for her. I could well be prepared for her - but how do we know she exists? It is no longer up to me to decide whether I should be someone's husband or not - it is now up to Him!
Right now in the present I am surrounded by women who are most likely say "You're a really nice guy but I just want to be friends/you're not my type" which is the biggest factor in convincing me to embrace singledom and switch off the desire. Well not really switch off the desire but to question whether is it really worth it or not?
I have loved many girls from time to time but none of them loved me back, and that is the reason why I looking away from love and embrace singledom
If I am present with a potential rel, then the tide will turn again. But that's in God's pwoer now.
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It's like a racquet ball bouncing off the wall... my advice to you that is.Alexander1982 said:
Only a fool would "love" a girl that he hasn't been on a date with, and/or doesn't know well, and/or he hasn't seen any interest coming the other way. That's what I'm talking about when I say you need to learn what love is and how one goes about engaging in it. Right now you're ruled by your emotions.
The rapids have beaten you up against the rocks so you've ostensibly sworn the water off all together. Get out of the river. Learn how to navigate it safely. Then step back in only when the time is right. This whole "it's in God's hands now" is a load of bull. If you throw you're hands up in the air and give up, why should He do anything? It's either step back in with knowledge or get thrown back in when you least expect it. But you are going back in whether you want to or not. Soccer can't save you.
And I'm getting the heck out (of this thread). I can come up with only so many analogies before it gets absurd.
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Irascible said:It's like a racquet ball bouncing off the wall... my advice to you that is.
No your advice does get to my head, but to believe in it is another question
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OK... I'll bite once more.Alexander1982 said:
Which part is hard to believe? 1) That you will inevitably become infatuated again. 2) That now is the time to seek wisdom and maturity regarding love so that when infatuation strikes you can deal with it better. 3) That God certainly has no obligation to help out when you have an attitude of futility. 4) Something else?
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Alexander1982 said:
It's not too wise to get between a woman and the World Cup, either.
I have a much bigger interest in it than my boyfriend. Relationships aren't all bad (in fact, I'd say more aspects of them are good), but I will say that they're not worth entering into unless you're content with your life as a single person. I see no reason why you shouldn't enjoy your single life right now.
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Irascible said:OK... I'll bite once more.
Which part is hard to believe? 1) That you will inevitably become infatuated again. 2) That now is the time to seek wisdom and maturity regarding love so that when infatuation strikes you can deal with it better. 3) That God certainly has no obligation to help out when you have an attitude of futility.
*Is now wearing full body armour just in case Irascible attacks again*
Well number 2 is possible but it is dependent on number 1, and doing number 2 is such a big waste if number 1 is not true.
However I sorta don't believe in number 3 since it would contradict a passage somewhere in the Bible where I think Paul said "God fulfil our heart desires." All God has to do is to show that number 1 is very true, show me the light to strengthen my faith. Then I will be keen to do number 2.
So it's number 1 that's the big problem. Why do I have such a big stubborn disbelief in number 1. Well I have posted somewhere in this forum before that infatuations are seriously evil. I made that conclusion after being rejected, hurt and confused about my feelings several times..........
A. Girl number one, I was 15 - "Listen you're such a nice guy and all but I just don't feel the same way about you"
B. Girl number two, this one I thought had feelings for me - "I'm just a little busy right now, I'll think about it". The next thing I knew, she was dating someone else
C. Girl number three,whom I had a crush on for such a while and this time I tried the friendship approach. Her silence afterwards suggested that she wasn't interested
D. Girl number 4, we were almost in dating period but this came - "I just want to be friends"
E. Girl number 5, I was friends with her for a long while - "I'm just not ready for a relationship yet". Two weeks later she was going out with someone else
F. Girl number 6, the big one http://www.christianforums.com/t3052457-advice-please-how-do-i-signal-that-im-not-interested.html&page=4
And by number six I had enough, And as I look back I wondered what I did wrong. The one thing in common these girls have is that they have a mind of their own, I can't make them to love me back. And with these girls inability to reciprocate my infatuation I started to doubt if there is at least one soul out there that would.
The only conclusion I deduct is that love is seriously confusing and now I question whether trusting in my heart is really worth it.
People have said the classic quote "that is life", move on is already my choice but the question in my head now is
"is this life really worth it?" Right now I am beginning to see more worth in single life
I am not 100% giving up on love, but I am neither trusting it 100%. What I am really doing is questioning and decide whether relationships and marriage is really worth striving for considereing the past disappointment. So it's really up to God now what to do with this - to at least show me that number 1 true then I will do my part in number 2
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Alexander1982 said:
lol ...and to that I would say...men, please do not come between a woman and her Stanley Cup!
Hockey Is Life!!!! )))))))) I try to keep the 'relationships suck' attitude myself because I figure it gives me some sense that it's okay to be Man Repellent. It makes me feel that the world has it wrong instead of me. I don't have to constantly check in with someone to let them know EXACTLY what time they'll be home from work like my work partner does with her husband. I don't have to worry about making sure they have something to eat...don't have to listen to them whine about not having the 'right' thing to eat, etc.... What is so great about relationships? I just wish I had friends who were more active. That's really all I need, I reckon.
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Chaan Stines said:
Ooooo yes go Germany
!The host nation is playing very well, such nice accurate passing!
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I could say similar about music. But what is all the music in the world without someone to share it with? This thought carries my hopes for the future of my relationships.
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Yes but we are faced with the reality that the person you are infatuated with may not feel the same way about you.
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Oh crud!
Italy won
I wanted France to win..I know players in France more then Italy
Oh well congrats Italy
Italy won
I wanted France to win..I know players in France more then Italy
Oh well congrats Italy
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