Scars..

[knowtomorrow]

so i'm sure we all have this problem yeah?? scars are just such a hassle.
i havent cut in about 2 months, but ive been doing other things like making myself sick and drugs etc. which are probably worse, but anyway, do you guys think getting a tan on scars makes them fade?? ive been cutting for about 4 years, so my arm looks kinda gross. and im ashamed of it.. i need some tips on reducing scars.. if anyone could help me..
thanks guys

 

[tapero]

Dear Knowtomorrow,

Hi, Welcome to the forums. I am glad to hear you haven't cut in two months. That shows a lot of self-contol.

I'm sorry to hear your making yourself sick and taking drugs. Dont' let this spiral out of control hon, and get some help right away. This is your life, and you are suffering now and need someone to help you carry the weight. Jesus is there.

Your life can be amazingly different tomorrow free from the drugs and making yourself sick. You can be free.

I saw in another post that you were disappointed in your church experience but they are individual Christians that you can reach out to.

I'm sorry I can't help you with the scars but I'm sure other posters will. Please know that you are being prayed for and that people care for you. We care for you, and want you to be safe. God bless you hon, and pm me anytime. In Christ's love, tapero

 

[pockleberry]

I've been told that vitamin E is good for healing scars, you can buy moisturisers with it in. Also vitamin D which you get from the sun so getting a tan could help yes, unfortunatly I think scars tend to take ages to heal completly. I don't know where you live but there is something that a Dr can give you I think it is some sort of patch that you can put on your skin that helps reduce scars...I don't know what it is called but I can try and find out for you if you'd like?

 

[angelkiss]

If what pockleberry mentioned works, that would be great! I haven't SI'd in years, but I do still have the scars to remind me from day to day. One thing that I try to stress to SI'ers is that once the scars are there, they may NEVER go away. Some of my scars show up really white with a tan, and some show up darker than my tan, so that method doesn't work for me personally. Although, it could work for you.
I know that SI'ing isn't an easy thing to stop, but perhaps instead of turning toward negative coping skills you could try things that are more positive and not harmful to your body.
Journaling
Taking walks
Etc.
Anything that strikes your interest in a postive way.......Some people are musicians and play their instrument in place of SI'ing.
I am a poet and I pour my emotions out through poetry.
My prayers are with you!!

 

[Tenebrae]

so i'm sure we all have this problem yeah?? scars are just such a hassle.
i havent cut in about 2 months, but ive been doing other things like making myself sick and drugs etc. which are probably worse, but anyway, do you guys think getting a tan on scars makes them fade?? ive been cutting for about 4 years, so my arm looks kinda gross. and im ashamed of it.. i need some tips on reducing scars.. if anyone could help me..
thanks guys

Specially if they are big scars, you need to make sure you put sun screen on them if you are going to be exposing them to the sun....

Vitamin e cremes are good for reducing scars, however it can be a slow process specially if you scar alot.

Well done on not cutting for 2 months though

 

[Rabid_Rabbit]

Hey there, good job on two months! My doctor told me not to expose recent scars to the sun as it makes them heal rather red. I've noticed that the scars that are usually covered by my clothes blend in more with my skin than those that are more often exposed to the sun. I think how old the scar is facters alot as well.

 

[knowtomorrow]

thanks for all your help guys!! i will go to the chemist and check out what they have there, cream can just be so expensive some times. sucks being a poor student haha..

hope you're all doing well.

love always xx

 

[xtinarose]

i truely hope my scars will go away
they aren't in very visible places...
but i'm so scared, that i will always be reminded of those hard times.

 

[LazeyWinde]

I've done all I can for my self harm scars... I'm not looking forward to wearing a bathing suit this summer but I better make myself get over any embarassment I may have for the marks I put on myself or I'll just suffer even more.

 

[knowtomorrow]

yeah summers always so hard hey

 

[nekotheovercomer]

unfortunally scars don't tan in fact if you tan they tend to stnd out more sorry

 

[pockleberry]

I think what I said might not have made sence...what I ment was that scars don't tan but the vitamin D that you get from exposing them to the sun is good for you skin and should help it to heal...

 

[secretx]

well, i've never really covered mine from the sun. They will be there all summer, but after my tan goes away, the scars are MUCH less noticeable. I have about 20 on my left shoulder, and now they are all white/beige, barely visible.

The vitamin E never worked for me.

 

[berry2000]

Sweetie, so sorry to hear about your struggles. Drugs are a big battle to fight and making yourself sick too. There must be a lot going on in your head. I pray that when you are ready you will be able to share all that pain you must be carrying. Until then.

1 Peter 5:7

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

 

[MariaValentina]

I haven't cut myself in a while...i'm going to get a tattoo (is that how you spell it??), to remind myself that even though the scars are there, they can't hurt me anymore. I used to get really depressed just looking at them, and then in turn I would cut myself even more...so I guess the tattoo would help me get over it...and plus I've got the LORD guiding me

Good Luck to all of you trying to get out of it. The light is there at the end of the tunnel. YOU will get through it.

 

[MistyRedEyes]

Neosporin Scar Solution sheets help. they're a little expensive, but, i'd say worth it. the scars won't completely vanish, but a lot of mine are hardly noticable anymore.
and like last summeri just avoided goin to the beach and things like that with my family or anyone who didn't know about it alltogether. but now that i'm living back home with my parents... even washing the dishes i get paranoid...
and then, there's always wristbands and bracelets and things to help hide them, or at least distract other people eyes...

...hope that helps...

 

[LazeyWinde]

I've noticed that the more you try to hide soemthing like a scar the more people are apt to notice that you're hiding something... Might not know what but will be curious about what you're hiding.

 

[secretx]

I've noticed that the more you try to hide soemthing like a scar the more people are apt to notice that you're hiding something... Might not know what but will be curious about what you're hiding.

i see what you're saying.. like if you just don't cover it, (like if it's just one, no biggy) people will think it was an accident.. like "why would she leave that exposed? she can't be a cutter"
I notice that my old ones people never look at, but people will tend to pay attention if you wear long sleeves all the time.

 

[MidnightJewel]

i'm lucky, all my scars have faded away within the last year. i can on;y very faintly see a few of them in certain lights. i think the exposure to a little bit of sun helped, but i didn't use any creams or anything my body just did the work by itself.
I hope you find something that helps your scars fade

 

[GreenEyed]

I was scared of the scars being there for a long time, but mine actually healed pretty quickly. I used neosporin cream and this cream called scarzone to help with scarring. As the cuts healed, I would also use concealor to hide my scars. It's been almost a year now and you can't tell that I used to cut.

Blessings as you work through this. Random side note: sometimes its helpful to rub lotion into your arm or wherever you cut. It feels like you are pampering yourself and being kind to you.