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[renaistre]

My question is about smiling.

I have noticed that how a person smiles, and how often, makes a big impact on how I think about that person. What do ya'll think about this? Is it fair to judge people by their smiles? Is it possible to determine peoples' personalities from their smiles? What would your smileing "habits" tell the world? Would they be representative of you as a whole? Am I the only one who has thought of this? It is too late for my brain to be working correctly?

I can only answer the last one: yes. I could use some help on the rest.

 

[Starcradle]

I understand your thought process, yet I prefer to judge individuals according to the substance of their character, not draw conclusions from the appearance of their smiles or the frequency of them. A smile can be utilized as a facade and does not necessarily express genuine joy, far less does it grant a window into whether or not the individual possesses personal integrity.

 

[justasinner]

My question is about smiling.

I have noticed that how a person smiles, and how often, makes a big impact on how I think about that person. What do ya'll think about this? Is it fair to judge people by their smiles? Is it possible to determine peoples' personalities from their smiles? What would your smileing "habits" tell the world? Would they be representative of you as a whole? Am I the only one who has thought of this? It is too late for my brain to be working correctly?

I can only answer the last one: yes. I could use some help on the rest.

Without knowing why a person is smiling or not you should never judge them. They could be sad because of a something that has cause pain in their lives if they are not smiling. And if you dislike them because of this you could be doing them a great disservice. Get to know them first, and judge them on their deeds and what they say not their appearance.

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

i rarely smile when im out walking around unless i see someone i know

 

[ChrisWins]

Without knowing why a person is smiling or not you should never judge them. They could be sad because of a something that has cause pain in their lives if they are not smiling. And if you dislike them because of this you could be doing them a great disservice. Get to know them first, and judge them on their deeds and what they say not their appearance.

I think for me it would be more difficult to want to know someone who never smiles or rarely smiles. I certainly wouldn't dislike or negatively judge someone who doesn't smile. But people I most associate with I tend to associate with them because they have a good level of inward happiness in their lives. That happiness usually shines through in the form of smiling and posture and attitude. The higher up the association ladder, from acqaintanceship to friendship to a romantic interest, the MORE smiling and happiness I'd want. To bring another thread into this one - I could never date someone who never smiles. Hopefully someone's smile isn't fake but ya can't know that until ya find out. If I did find out someone's smile was fake, I'd want to help that person... but I possibly couldn't maintain a strong bond because darkness can be contagious and I want to protect against any kind of downward spiral in my life.

Though I'd want to help them if I could, to be around people who don't smile and/or are unhappy could bring me down which would be a serious negative. I wouldn't automatically not be friends with someone who doesn't smile. My gravitation towards them wouldn't be as fast as to those who I can see are displaying happiness through smile and more.

That's just me

 

[woman.at.the.well]

That's a good question renaistre. I think we are naturally drawn to people who smile more often since smiles come from the inside out! I don't think you're being judgemental in saying you magnitize toward the person who smiles a lot. I think you're a happy person who might be looking for happy camper company! What do you think?

 

[PetraFan007]

Personally, people look better overall when smiling. If I first see a girl and I am not really attracted to her, and then I see her smile, she looks 1,000 times better and then I'm like, "wow..." lol

 

[the_man]

It's just part of body language. Plus smiles are never the same. Someone could have a nervous smile, someone could have a happy smile, someone could have a mischevious smile. Depends on what we are talking about. In general, we are drawn to people that are happy and confident because we subconciously feel that we will be happy and confident knowing them. Those that frown or seem down, we aren't drawn to so much. No one wants to go down with them.

Now to your questions:

I have noticed that how a person smiles, and how often, makes a big impact on how I think about that person. What do ya'll think about this?

I think you are a normally functioning human being.

Is it fair to judge people by their smiles? Is it possible to determine peoples' personalities from their smiles?

Depends. Some aspects of their personality can be determined via body language, they may also just be having a bad day.

What would your smileing "habits" tell the world?

I dont' think much about my smiling habits. I use smiles when they are appropriate I guess. I have had comments that I have a wonderful warm smile *shrugs*

Would they be representative of you as a whole?

To a certain degree. I don't warm up to people immediately, it takes some time. Just as a smile to a very good friend would be different than a smile to a stranger.

Am I the only one who has thought of this?

No

 

[Diane_Windsor]

I have noticed that how a person smiles, and how often, makes a big impact on how I think about that person. What do ya'll think about this?

If it is a genuine smile I don't have a problem with it. I can pretty much tell if a person is smiling genuinely, and if they are smiling then that usually conveys happiness, confidence, etc.

Is it fair to judge people by their smiles?

Yes. Is it fair to judge a "gift" by it's "wrapping paper"? Yes. You can actually tell a lot about a person based on their smiles and body language.

Since this thread is about smiles take this BBC test: Spot the Fake Smile. When I first took it I spotted most of the fake smiles.

Diane

 

[BeautyForAshes]

For the most part, I'm an optimist so I'm generally walking around smiling. Its just apart of my body language and an expression of the joy within me. People can tell REALLY QUICKLY when there's something bothering me (my face has always been a dead giveaway of what I'm thinking. lol)

I do think that if I met someone that NEVER smiled, grinned, or made any facial expressions that exuded joy (outside of a medical condition of course), I would still be friendly with them, but I'd probably wonder why - especially if this person stated that they were Christian But nonetheless, I try not to let the attitudes of other bother me, so as I said, i would still be friendly with them, unless I received feedback from them that was seriously negative.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

i dont think u can determine much from a persons smile

 

[white dove]

I don't think it's fair to anyone (not even to yourself) to judge others based solely on appearances alone. It has the potential to be misleading and can cause hurtful prejudices/biases to develop.


That being said, I know what you're saying about smiles here. I think that fake smiles are easy to spot; especially, if one has discernment that allows him/her to be able to truly see a hurting heart behind the phoney smile.


Also, there is, indeed, something about a nice, warm smile that makes another person feel warmth in their own heart....and it can be quite contagious, as well...


I'm not really sure about being able to uncover a person's personality based upon their smile, though....I'm not too sure how one would be able to do that...

unless you are talking about a warm, loving soul whose heart radiates throughout their face~in this case, a smile..... er?? I mean....eeeh!

Btw, I'm not really sure about your last question..the times are always screwed up on my screen so I can't really tell if it was too late for you when you posted, LOL!!

 

[RainWave23]

If I notice someone smiling a lot, it draws me to them because I want to know why they are so happy all the time! Generally people like that have a positive influence on others. It's always nice to be around those people.

 

[wvmtnkid]

People can tell REALLY QUICKLY when there's something bothering me (my face has always been a dead giveaway of what I'm thinking. lol)

I am the same way. I think I am hiding things well, but people that knew me really well can read my face and immediately know something is up.

Back to the question-I am drawn more to someone who smiles a lot. Just something about a smile that makes a person's face more interesting, or perhaps it makes them light up more. When I was in college, my sociology professor asked as to do an little experiment-we were supposed to walk around campus and instead of walking with our heads down, we were to look people in the eye and smile at them. Our experiment was to watch for people's reactions to our smile. It was interesting-most people would smile back. A few would look away or look down, but for the most part, people would look you in the eye and smile back.

 

[JPPT1974]

If I noticed someone smiling then that person is in a good mood which is good for people to see.

 

[stofo]

is that a piture of the guy from slick shoes? i shot a girl in the face with an airsoft gun in the middle of my art class last year, i felt bad for a while

 

[22smsbears]

it's too hard to draw infrences from just a smile