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[Jo1]

Hi everyone. i have a real problem in expecting too much from people. Then have to face the consequence of getting let down all the time. I know people say have a low expectation of people so you dont but its real hard. How do you do it? I think it must come from my past. I expected much of my dad but he wasnt there for me and let me down. he couldnt give me the love I needed. and my mum wasnt on the scene at all. my dad brought me up. So i suppose ive been let down a lot by my parents. Its hard not to take it personally too. I suppose im just fed up with it all really...

 

[Bianca01]

Hi Jo1,

I know it's difficult. I too had a father who wasn't really there for me. By this I mean he was drunk a lot and disowned me at times. When he was a happy drunk he'd love me and when he was a mean drunk he would claim I wasn't his child at all. This all was very confusing.

I think sometimes we pick people in our lives who resemble the relationships we had as children. This could be in an effort to "fix" the problem and hope for different results. For instance, a young lady might date men just like her father being emotionally distant or away too much. Or have problems relating to other women because her mother was never around. When relationships seem to be going good it's not always comfortable because of not being used to that.

Anyway, I hope you feel better soon.

Take care

 

[4Him22]

You know... theres only one person that we can expect much from and not have any worries of being let down or hurt, or not loved enough. And you know who I'm talking about!

I understand your hurt and frustration, Ive been there. I guesse what I did was just push more into God. And everything else(feelings, Situations ect) just worked out.

Father, we bring you this individual and lift them up for prayer. Lord we pray that you will wrap your arms of love around her. That you will engulf her in it. Father we also pray that your spirit continue to guide her and counsel her. We thank you for what you are doing now in her.
amen

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Heya Jo,

I read your post and this is what came to my mind.

I learned there are 2 types of personalities that defines the choices I make.

First one is one I had up till beginning of this year. "I want to be rescued!" mentality, which is more human desire really. To be desired, loved, to be found yet at the core of it is selfishness and fear. I want someone to do pick me up and carry me for I am afraid of tackling my problems.

Second one is the one I learned and finally made it what drives me. "I am tired of the wait, I will pick my ownself up.". It requires lot will power and a determination really. At the core it is courage and good ol'fashion fed up of being a slave to problems. This menality as carried me thru some tough times, but the reward is great.

It was Aaron Lewis that really got me to examine my own motives. Good ol'fashion tough love really.

Staind - Falling "You in your shell are you waiting for someone to rescue you from yourself.
Don't be disappointed when no one comes."

About that need of love from your Dad. That is something your going to have to forgive him on. Really no going back to fix that. After I learned about love languages, I learned the great value of self Affirmation. This is something we seek from others, but we can apply it ourselves. Or positive thinking really.

Read this thread!

Jo you have so much to look forward to and such great potiential. I hope one day you see what I see too. When you begin to realize it, great things can happen. Hang in there!

 

[Starr SDA Living Word]

Oh Father,

I come to you Dad, Saviour best friend and my brother. I ask you to comfort my sister. Help her in every step she takes, in every word she speak, Let it bring Glory to you. Lord show her you are right there with her. You will never forsake us. I claim your promises on this matter Lord. I Thank you for all that you are doing in Jo1's life, Lord thank you for blessing us with a lovely sister. Thank you for loving us unconditionally, thank you Father for all that you do and don't do. Father God thank You for giving your only begotten Son to DIE for Me and All that believe to have everlasting life. Lord I can't with to walk with you, talk with you, eat with you, To worship you face to face, To sing praises together.

Thank you Father for BEING MY ALL IN ALL!!!

In Jesus Mighty Name I pray, Amen

Your loving Servant

 

[RuthD]

I'm sorry you've been let down so much. I hope I haven't let you down. I love you and care about you a whole lot. I am praying for you. I guess I've been selfish lately because of my physical problems. I don't always know what to talk about either. I hope you will feel better soon.