S.a.h.m.

[Hadassah]

Well, since I am here in Germany, we take a different stance to teething. We have a mostly herbal gel that we got by Rx (free!) for the baby, but I am nearly through the tube. We got it at his last appointment. I also have him wearing an amber bracelet on his leg. So far, that has helped more than anything. I went from using the gel 4x daily to 2x daily at the most.

The worst -- I can't decide if it is the tantrums/crying spells OR the constipation that comes with the teething (Exactly like me in that point).

When he gets whiney.. it is just awful. I end up wearing him more than not to help out. When I do that, he sleeps. Sleep is wonderful.

I didn't get much last night. He woke at 3 lonely and came to bed with us again. At 4:50 or so he was hurting and hungry. At 5:30 same story... 6:30 and 7:30.. you get the picture.

at 9ish he had his first nap, and at 12 or 1 he went down for his second (but not without a huge temper tantrum about how tired he was not. LOL)

He took a mini nap around 4 or 5 just before my DH came home. He tends to get whiney especially JUST before my DH calls during lunch or when he's coming home. He starts crying for "gaggy". He cries "gaaaaa, Gaaaaa, Gaaagggggggggeeeeeeee" and then the phone rings... as if by magic. If it were not so frustrating it would be hilarious.

I definitely need to get back on my vitamins tonight... this stress is really getting to me.

 

[marezee]

some one sent this to me...i thought i'd share:


'Twas the night before school started when all through the town,
The parents were cheering, what a riotous sound!
By 8:00 kids were washed and tucked into bed
When memories of homework filled them with dread! New pencils, new folders, new notebooks, too
New teachers, new friends, how their anxiety grew!
The parents just giggled when they learned of this fright
And shouted upstairs “Go to bed — it’s a school night
~ Author Unknown

 

[marezee]

This is hysterical!!





http://www.godtube.com/view_video.php?viewkey=c85f84940326843a2126

 

[angelsgirl]

hehe... marezee!!!
So how is everyone???
Maddie is starting to teeth. Oh dear... It's not fun with teething. She has been so whiney and clingy and such a Mummy's girl. I walked out of the room earlier and she started screaming. She was with DH. I don't think he liked that much! Poor little bubba!
Just put some teething gel on her gums. She has one part that is really soft, so i'm assuming that is where her first tooth will come through.
I'm just hoping she continues to sleep at night...

 

[CoolMom6]

I feel for you moms with teething babies.
for you and for the sweet, fussy little one

It seems like just yesterday, I was there.
Now, we are worrying about them getting hurt driving or on the football field.
It passes faster than you will ever realize; trust me on this.
It flew by for me....

 

[faithmom]

A little work-at-home, stay at home mom vent/complaint/frustration here.

So I WAS working for DH, though we had an argument on it early last summer (I don't want to tell his employees how they should be doing things.) I fired myself...those were my words. He asked me to continue to help him, said he really needs me to work for him on things his employees just can't do. I just spent a week reviewing, proofing and editting 40 pages of certification narratives of his. That was after catalogging over 60 potential client contacts for his sales-team.

Then on Friday, he and his partners held an employee and tenant (he owns his building) BBQ. He asked me if he should invite the tentants too, came home to pick up the grill to add to the one the caterers were bringing.

Ahem....he never invited me. He insists I work for our business. He always said I don't need to be on the payroll, since it only increases our taxes. But now I know the reality is that he doesn't REALLY see me as a part of the company. He doesn't want me to look for other part-time work because it might interfere with our family life, but I'm feeling a bit taken advantage of at the moment.

I haven't told him how that made me feel. I'd be afraid that he'd ask me from now on, only because I made a stink about it. I want to be asked because he values what I have been doing for him these past 2 years.

Sorry for the vent. It just seemed there was no other place to put this, and it defines the fact that there is no "perfect" job out there for someone who wants to stay at home and work from the home.

 

[EbonNelumbo]

Note: My son started teething too...nightmare! He's drooling everywhere, I use the homeopathic teething tablets...help!

 

[angelsgirl]

Faithmom...
Vent away... that's what we are here for!!!
Maybe you could speak to him when you are a little calmer. Just mention it rather than make a big deal out of it? I don't know... Hope you feel better soon!

OddBeani... teething is great isn't it. Notice the sarcasm there!!! Madeleine has decided that she doesn't want to go to bed at night without being held til she is asleep. I have worked SO hard at getting her out of that routine, before about 3 days ago I could put her in bed awake (but tired) she would cry/fuss for about a min and be asleep. Now, she screams the house down. I can't leave her screaming in her cot!
I've been using bonjella for her gums, i didn't really want to use panadol. But the poor girl is exhausted, she'll stop crying for a min or so and pretty much fall asleep and then wake up screaming again. I think I'll try some panadol tonight if she is like it again.
Thankfully DH put her to sleep last night!

 

[CoolMom6]

Faith, don't cringe too hard at this answer, cuz you know me, I'm usually the hard liner here.
Get The Power of a Praying Wife and start laying him down to God daily.
He won't even know what hit him.
Bless you hon for all that you do for the glory of God.

 

[CoolMom6]

Ladies, I'm SO glad I don't have anymore teething little ones; I wholeheartedly sympathise with you all who do.

Now we are dealing with braces and impacted wisdom teeth in some.
Others are just losing baby teeth.
*sigh* Where has the time gone?

 

[EbonNelumbo]

Panadol is the UK equiv to Tylenol, right???

I use it for Luke when he gets absolutely horrid with the screams, and he's had for fevers, etc. He hates grape, loves cherry, and overall, doesn't seem too phased by it with the teething.

 

[marezee]

A I'm feeling a bit taken advantage of at the moment.

(i shortened your post a bit! ) just wanted to say that I thought the same thing...that you were taking advantage of! That said, you do sooooo much for your family and your DH's business! big huge hugs faithy!! God will bless you!

Faith, don't cringe too hard at this answer, cuz you know me, I'm usually the hard liner here.
Get The Power of a Praying Wife and start laying him down to God daily.
He won't even know what hit him.
Bless you hon for all that you do for the glory of God.

I think I need that book too!!

Ladies, I'm SO glad I don't have anymore teething little ones; I wholeheartedly sympathise with you all who do.

Now we are dealing with braces and impacted wisdom teeth in some.
Others are just losing baby teeth.
*sigh* Where has the time gone?

Jake and Nick have molars coming in. Nick has also lost about three teeth already--and has gotten 2 "big boy" teeth (that's what we call permanent teeth). Stephen's teeth are stable at the moment!
I am not looking forward to braces! Nick still sucks his thumb at age 6, and i cannot for the life of me get him to stop! the pediatrician said he will stop on his own, but that was 2yrs ago! and he hasn't stopped yet.
Any ideas?

 

[Neenie1]

A little work-at-home, stay at home mom vent/complaint/frustration here.

So I WAS working for DH, though we had an argument on it early last summer (I don't want to tell his employees how they should be doing things.) I fired myself...those were my words. He asked me to continue to help him, said he really needs me to work for him on things his employees just can't do. I just spent a week reviewing, proofing and editting 40 pages of certification narratives of his. That was after catalogging over 60 potential client contacts for his sales-team.

Then on Friday, he and his partners held an employee and tenant (he owns his building) BBQ. He asked me if he should invite the tentants too, came home to pick up the grill to add to the one the caterers were bringing.

Ahem....he never invited me. He insists I work for our business. He always said I don't need to be on the payroll, since it only increases our taxes. But now I know the reality is that he doesn't REALLY see me as a part of the company. He doesn't want me to look for other part-time work because it might interfere with our family life, but I'm feeling a bit taken advantage of at the moment.

I haven't told him how that made me feel. I'd be afraid that he'd ask me from now on, only because I made a stink about it. I want to be asked because he values what I have been doing for him these past 2 years.

Sorry for the vent. It just seemed there was no other place to put this, and it defines the fact that there is no "perfect" job out there for someone who wants to stay at home and work from the home.

Yes, I know where you are coming from.



I'm going through almost the opposite from you. My dh is working on his business full time, we are still in the "baby" stages and he is putting the pressure on for me to work for the business. Deep down I would really love to, but at the same time he devalues what I do at home for our family. He was really really having a go at me a few weeks ago about it, saying what will I do when my 3 yo goes to school (we have a 6 yo at school also) and going on about how I'm trying to cling on to her and regretting her starting school (in a way there is some truth in that, but it's something that most mothers have to deal with, I try not to do it with my kids but admittedly it is hard watching them grow up - bittersweet is what I would call it, hard to let go but exciting to see their potential develop as they grow up) and going on about how I want another one so I have an excuse to keep staying at home etc etc etc. (yeah most of you know what I mean if you have had to deal with this with their husbands)

I love being at home but at the same time I've been at home for 7 years. Now I will admit I have done other things to bring in extra cash, babysitting, some casual at home market research. It's so hard though, I don't want to justify what I do to my husband and don't think I should have to. But I do want to do something else, maybe I have been at home too long. Then I look around at all the things that need to be done at home and cringe, knowing that I am the only one who will do it (washing, cleaning, chores, helping with homework blah blah blah).

It's just such a turnaround because dh has never complained to me about me being at home, and has never really complained if the house was untidy (in fact he says I work too hard and do too much housework, doesn't think I should vacuum so much etc - I only do it twice a week lol) and now he is pushing me to work for the business.

I am wondering if part of this is stress, simply because at this stage we haven't really been making any money, and it's very very very stressful.

Yeah anyway, if you got this far thanks for reading this.

 

[faithmom]

(i shortened your post a bit! ) just wanted to say that I thought the same thing...that you were taking advantage of! That said, you do sooooo much for your family and your DH's business! big huge hugs faithy!! God will bless you!


I think I need that book too!!

Hey Mare! We talked way way back on book clubbing....wanna mini-this one with me?

Yes, I know where you are coming from.



I'm going through almost the opposite from you. My dh is working on his business full time, we are still in the "baby" stages and he is putting the pressure on for me to work for the business. Deep down I would really love to, but at the same time he devalues what I do at home for our family. He was really really having a go at me a few weeks ago about it, saying what will I do when my 3 yo goes to school (we have a 6 yo at school also) and going on about how I'm trying to cling on to her and regretting her starting school (in a way there is some truth in that, but it's something that most mothers have to deal with, I try not to do it with my kids but admittedly it is hard watching them grow up - bittersweet is what I would call it, hard to let go but exciting to see their potential develop as they grow up) and going on about how I want another one so I have an excuse to keep staying at home etc etc etc. (yeah most of you know what I mean if you have had to deal with this with their husbands)

I love being at home but at the same time I've been at home for 7 years. Now I will admit I have done other things to bring in extra cash, babysitting, some casual at home market research. It's so hard though, I don't want to justify what I do to my husband and don't think I should have to. But I do want to do something else, maybe I have been at home too long. Then I look around at all the things that need to be done at home and cringe, knowing that I am the only one who will do it (washing, cleaning, chores, helping with homework blah blah blah).

It's just such a turnaround because dh has never complained to me about me being at home, and has never really complained if the house was untidy (in fact he says I work too hard and do too much housework, doesn't think I should vacuum so much etc - I only do it twice a week lol) and now he is pushing me to work for the business.

I am wondering if part of this is stress, simply because at this stage we haven't really been making any money, and it's very very very stressful.

Yeah anyway, if you got this far thanks for reading this.

I read the whole thing (and compared to my cybermonologues, it was not long at all ). I wish I had wisdom to give you, this balance between being at home, and having a hubby who owns a business (I sometimes call it our 4th child), has some challenges I haven't been able to wrinkle out....maybe never will.

I so value being available to our kids, even when they are at school. The emotional stuff they go through in middle school is why I want to be "there" when they get home. Any other job out there, and I have to answer to a boss who can disrupt that. But working for the hubby is not ideal either.

Praying for your answers too.

 

[CoolMom6]

Neenie, your dh sounds stressed, worried, and maybe he just does not want to risk hiring outside help, but knows he can trust you.
That does not make your position any easier, but I know you can step into his shoes and see what's going on. Sounds like you have a great marriage, and he DOES appreciate you, it's just his frustration coming out.

That said, I can't imagine working for ANY dh, myself, having felt controlled and bossed in the past, I can't separate the two...mentally and emotionally. It takes two very strong, very confident people to be able to switch roles and be on top of all things as need be.

I am praying for you both.

 

[Neenie1]

Yeah, that's part of the problem, at the moment dh is my husband and my employer. Not only that, we are in a small 3 b/r house, and he has the dining room as an office (ROFL) it's all set up so it's child proof but it's not soundproof. We have a 3 yo too.

It's still in the very small baby stages, and later on we will have a proper office (but who knows when that will be)

My training is in child care, (qualified child care worker) not in office admin, so I will be doing some training for that. I am interested in it, but it's hard to find the balance between caring for the family who are still pretty young, and keeping the house clean (no-one else but me does that) and then working.

 

[CoolMom6]

Maybe you can work for him until it gets off the ground in a big way.
Then maybe you have a friend or associate you trust to hire when you are making enough money to pay them, part-time maybe, to give you a break.
Just an idea...
Keep asking the Lord to guide you both as you go.

(And child care is an even tougher business as far as I'm concerned; LOL!!)
God bless!!!

 

[Melbelle]

Hi ladies, just wanted to check in...

Hubby is taking Seth out today, and giving me about 5 hrs of me time WOOT! very much needed..

 

[marezee]

Hey Mare! We talked way way back on book clubbing....wanna mini-this one with me?

Sure thing faith! let me know if and when you have the time!

 

[marezee]

Hi ladies, just wanted to check in...

Hubby is taking Seth out today, and giving me about 5 hrs of me time WOOT! very much needed..

yay! good for you mellie!