Actually, all who were at the wedding were
invited. If you want to call them the "chosen", it would only be because they responded to the invitation. No other way.
Matt 22:9-10
9Go therefore to the main highways, and as many as you find there, invite (kaleo) to the wedding feast. 10Those slaves went out into the streets and gathered together all they found, both evil and good; and the wedding hall was filled with dinner guests.
We find the word 'kaleo' in v.3,4 and 8, referring to those who were invited to the wedding but refused the invitation. We also find it in v.9 in reference to those who actually came to the wedding.
So, there is "everything" in the parable that indicates that the guests who showed up were invited and they responded.
Unless you can find anything in the parable to indicate that the servants used force on those in attendance.
The word for 'gathered' is sunago, and if the guests were fish, I suppose you could argue that they were gathered together as fish in a net.
But we are speaking of people, not fish. So there is no sense that anyone was dragged to the wedding.
btw, how do you view the wedding guest (invited and responded) who was not wearing proper attire? Don't forget the customs of that time and the significance of proper attire.