Rings and sparkly things

[72_Chev_Truck]

So... eventually within the next 3-4 months i will be asking my girlfriend of 9 months(currently 9 months) to be my wife and i cant really figure out what i want to get her. I know she likes simple solitaire princess cut and white gold and i dont want to slack on a stone... but the problem is money. My mother offered to give me her 1/3 ct diamond from her first engagement ring. no she hasnt been married twice but my father got her a ring and then later she traded up for the better one that she eventually wanted, plus the setting had worn out i guess. but this stone is a round and not princess plus its my moms.... so what would you think if you had gotten your MIL diamond from her first ring? I think if I were the one being asked I would be honored but what do you think? also where are some good places to buy?


gosh i hope she doesnt find this post... lol not that she doesnt already know that its coming...

 

[alwayz_remember_Calvery]

That is sort of a tough one.
Personally, I wouldn't mind in the least. In fact, if my future MIL offered, i would be very honored. If she offered to give me the stone from her first engagement ring...that's like WOW. I'm really not sure how else to put it.

At the same time, everyone is different. All of us on CF might think it's really cool and would feel honored by it, but your gf might think totally different.

 

[FaithfulServant]

Does she like your MIL? Well, if she does she probably wouldn't mind. But, if she has specifically told you that she likes princess cut, it would probably be better to go with that, since its a for sure thing.

I am also of the mind of liking simple solitares. My ring is a round solitare, but I told my then bf that I liked princess cut also. I'm sure she wouldn't be opposed to a round solitare, but just make sure she doesn't have her heart set on a princess cut.

 

[Inperfected]

WEll, I'd love it, but that's me!

I got my mother in laws mum rings ( a ring of some sort of hers) for my engagement ring... And i couldn't be more proud of the beautiful ring

 

[Maeyken]

I think it's a neat idea, although it sounds like your gf has given you some definite specifics about her ring. I don't think it's a huge crime to talk about rings and finances and stuff before getting engaged. I know some people like the surprise, but for me that wasn't a big deal.

My fiance and I had discussed rings, and how much he could afford, and we went shopping together and he pointed out several that were within our price range and met the criteria (although really he liked one the best, which was the one I chose too!)

Anyway, I guess it all depends on whether she's got her heart set on a princess cut or not. If she does, then I think it's best to get her that. But if the princess cut is just one she likes, then I think it would probably be fine to use your mom's stone. I think it'd be cool to get a stone like that, especially since it sounds like your parents have a good marriage. Plus, you can design the ring yourself (or together with your gf might be a good idea!)

Oh- one more piece of advice! Has she tried on a lot of rings? Does she (and do you) know what style looks best on her hand, what suits her? I didn't know till I tried some on.

 

[Catholic Wife]

Some women (like me) are very particular about their jewelry. For me, my wedding ring is the ring I will wear every day for the rest of my life, so I didn't think I was asking too much to get a ring that best suits my style.

Of course, if we were younger and money were an issue, then getting the diamond from my MIL's ring and having it reset would definitely be a great idea (esp. since I love my MIL!) even if it's not the shape I really like.

As for places to buy rings, that depends on what stores you have in your area and how much money you want to spend.

 

[Mskedi]

So... eventually within the next 3-4 months i will be asking my girlfriend of 9 months(currently 9 months) to be my wife and i cant really figure out what i want to get her. I know she likes simple solitaire princess cut and white gold and i dont want to slack on a stone... but the problem is money. My mother offered to give me her 1/3 ct diamond from her first engagement ring. no she hasnt been married twice but my father got her a ring and then later she traded up for the better one that she eventually wanted, plus the setting had worn out i guess. but this stone is a round and not princess plus its my moms.... so what would you think if you had gotten your MIL diamond from her first ring? I think if I were the one being asked I would be honored but what do you think? also where are some good places to buy?


gosh i hope she doesnt find this post... lol not that she doesnt already know that its coming...

I would feel much more honored to get something that had some meaning to it than something that matched my personal style.

You should know your fiance well enough to know whether she would feel that way or not, too. Personally, I'd ask her. I'm not big on surprises, though.

 

[feesha]

I guess I'm old-fashioned but the ring design isn't up to her! lol. You pick it out and ask her, It's not like she's going to turn you down based on what the ring looks like or how expensive it is or if it's a princess cut diamond. She will wear it all the time but unless it doesn't fit or it irritates her skin, a ring is a ring. I think it's awesome that your mom offered her diamond from her first engagement . I would personally love it, as long as the ring was something my um, engager?, picked out himself.

 

[peanutbutter12]

When in doubt:

CJ