The two statements are identical. They are gay, and that is why they won't bake the cake for them.
No. They're not. I can't tell whether you actually cannot see the difference between, "I won't serve you because you are gay" and "I won't serve you in a way that celebrates your choice to 'marry' a person of the same sex".
This would be similar to the contractor refusing to build a house because someone was going to practice homosexuality in the bedroom.
Making bedrooms is certainly not immoral but the objection here would be the same. [/quote]
You are really stretching here!
Again in this case they are making a cake, the further attachment of morality to the process is up to them, but I don't see why society needs to respect it.
Society doesn't need to respect it, per se. But, until we amend the Constitution to get rid of the little trifle called the 1st Amendment, then making a person do something that violates their beliefs, even if done for the most benevolent of reasons, is unconstitutional.
If you have a good reason for refusing service people are probably going to respect it.
You cannot be serious! I find it interesting that a few years ago, when the ssm debate came to light, many of forums like these were claiming that once ssm gained some traction, the gay rights groups would force Conservative Christian business owners to serve the ssm industry even in violation of the consciences. I was one, among many at the time, who insisted that this charge was ludicrous, that if we respect gay couples' right to marry, they are not just going to turn around and force their views on conservatives in such a tacky as that. I remember conservative Christians using examples like innkeepers and bakers forced to accommodate same sex weddings. And, the overwhelming response from the gay-friendly community was, "we'd never do that!"
Fast forward to today, and we see that I was wrong to be so naive. I have come to realize that any group, once they gain enough traction will gladly suppress the rights of those they disagree with. We live in a moment now where, on this particular issue, each side has a fair amount of traction in their respective parts of the country, and each side is zealously working to suppress the rights of the other, insisting that the other side is so evil that their rights ought not be protected. Am I the only one who can see how dangerous this is?
Nowadays, I still support same sex marriage, and I even have a business that markets specifically to the gay community. However, I find it sad how the very same community that just over a decade ago was not allowed to marry anywhere in the United States because a a repressive majority saw them as unworthy of this basic human right is now a part of a new repressive majority actively trying to take away an equally basic right from another group that is now slowly becoming a distinct minority (Christian conservatives). Perhaps, this is the chickens coming home to roost, but the idea that we can suppress the rights of the other, so long as the we has the power, remains a dangerous idea.
But, to respond to your idea, "as long as you have a really good reason, people will respect that" is absolute nonsense!