relationship?

[seeingstars]

These past few weeks have been confusing. That can be either a very good or very bad thing. I've found myself being very attracted to someone in particular in my college fellowship group. I am an Aspie, which if you don't know means I am in the autistic spectrum. It is difficult for me to make and maintain friendships, let alone anything more than that.

I have been wise and blessed enough to stay pure my entire life. During my time in the youth group, I even made a commitment to save myself for marriage. I still wear my purity ring full-time. I have no reason not to. Therefore, I believe God will provide someone for me and bless the relationship, but what I need now is a miracle.

And don't say "I'll pray for your healing." Doing so will will only bother/annoy/offend me. I don't want to be "healed". I had to say that because I've had people say that to me in previous prayer requests here.

 

[Onlythingavailable]

Praying.

 

[RestoreTheRiver]

May the will of God be done in this relationship, and may He bless both of you through it.

Michael

 

[ahuva]

Praying

 

[hypostatic]

Praying!

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

You have my prayers

 

[TLSF]

Hi

I'll begin by saying that I don't fully understand what it means to be a Aspie, I have a basic understanding though. So please excuse if I give the wrong advice.

You're best bet would be to talk to someone in a similar situation, but obviously you came here so I'll try and help.

As I understand you find someone very attractive, but what you don't specify is your current relationship with the girl (it better be a girl!). So I will assume that you don't really know her very good or at all.

Let's start by putting God in the picture. If you look from God's perspective you will see that God needs to do what is best for both parties, so he can't force her to like you. But what God can do is give you an opportunity to show her what you are all about. But for God to give you an opportunity he has to be sure that you will use this opportunity for good.

Commitment is a big issue, you need to be committed. If God grants you this opportunity and it so happens that she likes you and you break her heart, then you failed God and her. Make absolutely sure that you are 100% committed to her and God.

The basis, be committed and go for her personality (looks are just an optional extra). But sometimes you have to make your own luck, God can only give you an opportunity, but you need to attract her. It’s all on you.

I believe that you have good intension’s, I believe that you are searching for a relationship based on love and not pure attraction.

As for attracting her, you need to use your own style. You are who you are and it doesn’t help being someone else. Be creative in your approach and don’t show or tell her you’re attracted until you are sure she likes you! Be aware of her body language this is a great indicator when to make your moves.

I know that I haven’t given you the answer you wanted, but I gave you what you needed. I know you want her to be attracted to you and have a relationship, God is only going to help you so far as for tips on attracting her, there are ways but these ways can cause more harm than good. Keeping the relationship going is up to you I guess, it’s hard work but it’s worth it!

Realize that this may not end well and that she may reject you. Stick to your moral values and one day you will receive your reward for your hardships. I Sincerely hope you find your love.

 

[Revived]

Praying for God's will and peace to be revealed. In Jesus' name.

 

[Worcester Beacon]

Praying

 

[faithfulfollowerofYeshua]

Praying.

 

[UGH!]

Praying

 

[seeingstars]

(it better be a girl!)

Yes.

Fortunately, she knows about me having Aspergers and knows some about it. I sent her an article about famous people who are speculated to have it or something similar.