Relationship

[Princess Leia]

Ok, so I met this guy here on CF... we have a lot in common. We started talking on MSN, and when he was going through a really rough time with a friend, we talked on the phone several times. Somewhere in the course of that time, I fell for him. I didn't even realize it till last week. So I guess my question is, has anyone else met someone on here, dated them, and had it work out?
Any input or feedback is appreciated....
Thanks
God bless
Princess Leia/Kendra

 

[Ginsu]

Agrees with above post.

Yeah, quite afew people here actually met.

I met my fiance on here over a year ago (Caelda), we made several trips back and forth and talk every day on the phone(she's got a killer international phone deal discount) we're planning to get hitched this winter and she's moving up here with me.

 

[SOLDOUT4HIM]

P.L.,
Where does he live? How old is he? You've gotta be careful. You never know who they really are until you meet in person. Be careful if you meet. Somewhere nice and public. Also if at all possible bring a friend (or three) and at the very least let someone know where you're going

 

[Shyguyelite]

Be careful if you meet. Somewhere nice and public. Also if at all possible bring a friend (or three) and at the very least let someone know where you're going

lol. And call the police while you are at it

In any case you would be surprised at the number of relationships that end in marriage or whatever from the internet.

Its like the new arena for people to hook up these days... And of course, as said above, new dangers arise.

In any case, good luck with whatever you choose.

 

[mina]

Well 100 years ago, mail order brides in this country were common ( well maybe not common, but not totally unheard of). Men in the west would write for women in the east to come out and marry them, b/c there were not many women out there. and women would go and marry some guy just based on a letter. I'm not saying that you should go for it or anything. Seek God and if it's meant to be He will open the doors for it to happen. I just thought it was interesting that long distance relationships based on the written word isn't something totally new in this day and age- different context (letters or now internet) but same sorta.

 

[jlhart76]

I have friends who met on a forum for youth ministers, & they're "unofficially" engaged. Unofficially because he just hasn't proposed, but they're already planning the wedding. Sure, it can work out. But like what was said above, you have to be careful. Not just for physical reasons; some people misrepresent themselves & the 25 year old "younger Harrison Ford" could turn out to be a balding, middle-aged "Norm Peterson" twin.

 

[Ginsu]

It's basicly excercising good judgement weither online or offline. The nice guy or girl you met at the park a week ago whom you dated 3 times could be masqeurading the decent person image but instead is a raging heroin addict or whatever. I think you're going to meet the same amount of crazies online as you are offline. And theres alot of them. heh

 

[london boy]

Webcams help a great deal

 

[Corbobs]

P.L.,
Where does he live? How old is he? You've gotta be careful. You never know who they really are until you meet in person. Be careful if you meet. Somewhere nice and public. Also if at all possible bring a friend (or three) and at the very least let someone know where you're going

I live in Minnesota. I'm 17. I can hardly bring myself to hurt a fly...let alone her. We'll probably be meeting in an airport...does it get anymore public than that?....Oh, and she'll have her "body guard" with her too....col...ok, so maybe just a concerned friend...but still...it's fun to call him that.

 

[milanobmw]

talk straight with ur parents will be helpful although this is not common solution. i still insist that it is a good idea when we are young or does not experience several loves

 

[Princess Leia]

Thanks everyone for all your advice.

I have talked to my Mom about it, and she is the one who set a time limit for us on the phone, because we wanted that. Well, not really wanted, but needed.

I do realize that people can pretend to be something or someone they aren't, which is one of the reasons I have told him that I don't want to commit to anything beyond that of friends until we meet and get to know each other in person. So technically, I don't have a boyfriend.

His parents decided that now is not the best time for him to be meeting me, because, among other reasons, we haven't known each other very long, so we are going to wait to meet until next summer.

I have one friend (my "bodyguard" ) who refuses to let me meet any of my internet friends without at least telling him where I'm going to meet them, and he wants to be with me if he can. So, I'm well protected. And, of course, my Mom knows who I'm meeting, where we're meeting at, and all that.

Thanks again for all your advice.

God bless

Princess Leia/Kendra

 

[scraparcs]

Well, next summer is a long time -- intimacy grows quickly and before you know it, it's way past time to meet. Could you meet in 2-3 months?

As for whether romances happen here, oh sure they do. Ask me again in two weeks.

 

[Silver Speak]

Yes, I met a guy, not here though, but in another forum. I thought I was very much into him but then I met him and changed my mind completely. Well, I've told this story a million times.. My advice is, stay true to yourself, examine your emotions/feelings 'cause you might feel VERY differently when/if you meet him. Good luck, though

P.S. Definitely don't go solo and leave God out of it, that's when things start going SO wrong! Well, I'm sure you're smarter than me.